Nice Guys Finish Last: Ladies DO Better!

I am sitting here listening to Jay Zee and Alicia Keys, "Empire State of Mind" aimlessly wondering what to write about on this dreary, cold Tuesday and as the lyrics hit, my topic dawns on me.

I want to write about the good men out here, the men who get a bad rap because of how they look or where they are from or what they do for a living or in some rare instances....the men who get a bad rap for just being a man.

It hurts my heart because as a mom to two teenage boys, I need the narrative to shift dramatically when it comes to men. No they are not dogs or hobosexuals or cheaters or liars or scammers.....well not all of them. Most men are just human beings trying to survive and find love like us ladies are, so why then do we judge them so harshly?

Because most women are programmed to want and desire the best by their well meaning female family members. I said what I said.

Think about it. If your aunty is stuck in a loveless marriage, she will definitely try to warn her younger female family members to do better and choose better. I remember growing up in a household of women telling me to choose a man who loves me more than I love him. Why? Because women don't leave and men do.

So inaccurate especially in my own life where I've left about 30 or more relationships. Women do leave and we are doing so more and more because we are refusing to settle for less than what we deserve.

The funny thing is, there is no shortage of good men out here. I meet hundreds of men through my work and streaming career and they are all viable options for dating. However, most of them sit on the bench waiting to be picked. Why?

These are good men with good jobs, good health, good financial security and polite manners. Why aren't they chosen? In their own words, they have been denied boyfriend status because:

- They get put in the friend zone

- They are too nice

- Too short

- Too plump

- Too working class

- Too stable (yes someone told him that)

Ladies we need to do better. Not only are you denying really good men out here, you aren't even really thinking for yourself and only choosing what you feel other high level women would want. It's like high school all over again.

Case in point, I regularly talk to and date the underdogs....you know, the men who are good quality and stock but overlooked. Every single time I talk to or date an underdog, women start to flock to them like bees to honey. I recently had a guy tell me that before I came into his life, he was practically a nobody, just working hard and moving on his goals. Even though he is super attractive, he wasn't getting a lot of attention because he wasn't loud and flashy. He wasn't playing women or had swag. He was just a simple, nice guy that caught my eye. Soon after I started talking to him, more women started "finding" him attractive and his dms started blowing up. He was flabbergasted, I was not.

There is a competitive nature in women that cause us to want what other women have. It stems from that earlier childhood rearing I talked about with our older female family members.

"If someone like Uma wants him, he must be gold. Let me try to holla at him and see if he looks my way."

As a woman, I rarely date the type people expect me to date- you know, the tall, dark and handsome model with a six figure income. I don't date for status, I date for love.

Those outer things stopped impressing me in my twenties especially when the relationships proved boring or bland. I found much more enjoyable company with the weird, eclectic or strange. I found passion with the quiet ones and great sex! why? because they weren't out here collecting a body count....I found those with few partners made extremely great lovers because they paid attention to their women and were quite generally pleasers. Yum!

I like to keep my relationships private but my happiness couldn't be contained. People would see my GLOW and understand that I was being loved correctly and fully. They weren't wrong.

I like dating nice guys. Generous and kind guys. Guys with a heart and soul. Guys who are mama boys. Guys who prefer my company to that of 20 females. Nice guys don't finish last in my book and I wish more women would wake up and see the treasure right in front of them in that man they friendzoned too quickly or the man they are with but their friends judge too harshly. Nice guys don't have to finish last if we women chose them first.

To all my single ladies out there, I challenge you this week to talk to a man you would normally not give a chance to. Just hear him out and spend time in his energy. Learn the art of loving someone equally yoked to you and stop taking in these hobosexuals and bad boys. Learn to love the simple, the honest and the kind. I am telling you....this kind of love can change your life and it comes from the hands of a nice guy.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Mindset Reset: I Chose Me

Ouuuuuu I am unstoppable these days.

I have had my fair share of hurt and pain over the years and I always wondered if I learned anything at all. Was it worth it? All those painful memories of my past? Did I grow? Did I rise like a phoenix from the ashes to be reborn even more glorious than I was before?

I sure did.

Thursday November 24th marks 3 months since I was in a relationship with someone who was very important to me. Someone who I allowed myself for two years to imagine spending the rest of my life with them. I was completely in love and as some of you saw me, floating through life. That man loved me hard, so hard that he healed all of my broken bits through the power of his love. I was restored by his grace.

Until it ended quickly, without warning and definitely without my desire. I was devastated....but yet I was ok. I cried some days but most days I was fine. I hurt like hell anytime he did something publicly but then I would get over it because my life brought its own triumphs.

In the first month of our breakup, I became a Top Badge on the live streaming app I am on and hit a 10 million diamond goal I expected to reach in December. I am now 82 fans away from a total of 10,000 fans on this app. And my success is growing now in the areas of Tik Tok and Youtube. Life continued on as did I.

Now I am on the verge of a new relationship with someone who potentially has the ability to love me harder than my ex....and it all is making me ask this question: How is this all possible?

How could I still have my dream of this fantasy relationship even though my real life one ended? How come i became so successful after a devastating loss? Why is life smiling on me?

Well after 3 months of healing and inner work, I gained the clarity to the questions I had. And here it is: Life is smiling at me because I smiled back.

See I did learn my lessons from past breakups, lessons I will share here with you in hopes that it helps you to keep your wits about you and as a gentle reminder that we truly are here to shine and be happy! All of life is a choice and if you struggle with that, let me know! I may have a coaching package where I can work one on one with you to teach you these lessons so you can thrive through troubled times too.

I am thriving quickly after a breakup because:

1) I choose Love not Hate

My ex did the worst to me after we broke up, things that were meant to humiliate me publicly and shame me. I did not respond.

When he was sharing his side of his story to the world, I stayed quiet and allowed him his time to heal and process what he went through. When people would ask me to respond to his allegations, I would politely decline. His truth is his truth and he is entitled to that. My truth is mine and doesn't need to be shared with the world. Why? Because I still have love for him and I wouldn't want to hurt him like that. So while everything was going on, I stayed quiet, kept working and avoiding questions from nosey people (ughhh yall make me sick! Mind ya business lol). My tactic worked out because I was able to see growth in my finances and career that actually brought me happiness over the tears.

2) I chose to move on

A lot of people experience shock after a breakup and in their confusion, they wait for the person to return to them. I have a time limit on that. I understand love and relationships can be tricky and sometimes we say things we don't mean, so as a goodwill gesture, I always give an ex a month to come back and work on things especially if the person was special to me. After a month, if there is no reconciliation, I chose to close the door permanently and move on with my life. No hard feelings and no replaying scenarios to see what I could have or should have done differently. There are two people in a relationship and it cannot be only me wanting to work on it. If my ex doesn't come back within a month then that's the green light for PUMA to come out (see next point).

3) My Real became RealER

Listen, when I do something I do it grand. It's not enough for me to be single and wait for one man to come along to snatch me up. Oh no, we on Uma's playground now and with my understanding of how desirable I am to certain people (I am not for everyone), it got spicy very quickly. I have been on a total of 6 dates within the last month and I have been thoroughly enjoying myself. Interestingly enough each of these men were a definite upgrade from my ex. They were outstanding and it made me understand something very clear- when we uplevel the Universe sends us experiences to match our level. Yes my ex was someone I loved dearly....while I was at the level I was at but his absence caused me to ask for more. For instance, my ex wasn't great with money and now I meet eligible bachelors with savings accounts, travel funds and retirement investments. My ex never really planned dates for me and now I am being lavished with gifts and dates, trips and experiences. Things I never could have imagined for myself when I was who I was with him.

4) I allowed myself to RECEIVE

Most times we are so blinded by our pain after a breakup that we can't see the blessings in front of us. Dry your eyes and look up! The Universe is ALWAYS sending you the next best thing but you gotta be in the mindset to receive it. If you keep looking back, you can't enjoy the goodness that is waiting to splurge on you! Allow yourself this one thing and it will help your healing process even faster.

In essence, I Chose Me over HIm.

I chose to take the L, heal myself in private so I could shine in public and guess what? It worked. As I head out to NY to spend an amazing Thanksgiving week with a new beau, I leave you with this thought- if you knew you were going to die today.....would you still be hooked on that person even though they don't want you or would you go out and live your life as best as you could before you left this earth? Good. Now start living because tomorrow is promised to no one and you can't afford to waste a second looking back.

We have less than two months left in this year- get your act together and start making the plans you need to make to have a better 2023. I will see you on the other side ;)

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Momentum slows when misalignment grows

Happy Halloween!

As auspicious as this day is for most because of the thinning of the veil, this year it holds an extra significant importance for me as well. Today marks one month I have been given the recognized credential Top Badge on the live streaming app I have been on for the past two years.

What is a Top Badge Streamer program? It highlights the best broadcasters on the app that comes with some pretty cool perks that enhance your social media visibility (you get $$$ and popularity lol).

The month has been interesting to say the least and it has given me enough material to write a blog about, so here we go.

Let's start positively by saying that I am happy to be considered one of the best broadcasters on the app. In fact, I didn't cry when I received my award funnily enough but I did after the fact. I remember visiting a new person's stream and once they saw my name in their room, they said, "Welcome Uma the People's Choice for Top Badge." Tears overwhelmed me. He went on to further explain that most people were happy with my selection of Top Badge and felt that I was a good representation of being a Top Badge. I was so deeply moved. Stories like this and more flooded me for a month as I was loved on, appreciated and supported on my promotion. It was beautiful and deeply moving. I met a lot of new people, made a lot of new supporters and networked like crazy as I was invited to more and more events. I was elated.

However, as in life, nothing is ever peaches and roses; you need the dirt and shit in life to keep things fertilized! I had my fair share of negativity from personal life drama to someone exposing my private texts on social media to my whole identity being stolen on IG so they could ask people for money by pretending to be me. It was all horrific and took me down....for awhile.

I was really feeling sorry for myself as certain aspects of my life were just plain failing. I felt hopeless, useless and like i was a failure until I realized something.....my momentum did not slow. In fact all of life was thriving around me outside of the areas I was focusing on.

My streaming career was taking off, my center was booming with clients and i even lost 12lbs! I was sleeping better and my meditations were going deeper. I was actually thriving.

Whatever was bothering me, was only doing so on a superficial level because deep down I maintained my elevated vibration of peace, love, joy, hope, happiness and positivity and it was showing in my life. I realized that Law of Attraction was always working and my life reflected back to me what my vibration was......pure and positive.

I felt better about things. Even though people hurt me, betrayed me, humiliated me and abandoned me....somehow I managed to be and stay positive about them and about me. I could have been upset, angry, annoyed or retaliation but I chose not to. I chose to still love those who hurt me and wish them well.

See momentum in your life slows when your misalignment grows. Whenever you allow a person or situation to take you out of your love essence, you will immediately see the results in your outer life. Your money, health, love life, dreams and desires will be affected. The key to life is learning how to accept failure and disappointment gracefully. The only thing failure brings me is humility. It doesn't affect my self worth or my self love.

As you journey through life, you will understand how important it is that you think the world of yourself especially when others think differently than you. Remember it is not their eyes that see your world, it is yours so be kind to yourself as you learn your lessons. You weren't meant to get it right on your first try, but you are meant to learn and be humbled by what you do.

As I stand here a month in as my new role of Top Badge, I am pleased with myself. I had many chances to fail, to accept defeat, to feel ashamed or judged but I refused to. I kept choosing me and in doing so, I kept the momentum going. Soon (actually right now) the momentum will turn in the area I was lacking in and new growth will start to show. This is the time to accept the changes and move brightly forward into your future. Life is ever changing and constant motion, keep up with it by staying in your alignment, listening only to yourself and going with the change

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Is Unconditional Love worth it?

Last week was CRAZY for me as a tarot reader. So many people went through breakups and so many people found me to ask the age old reader question, "Is he/she coming back?"

Not only are we in a Mercury Retrograde but several planets are also in retrograde right now. The energy is thick with confusion, delusions, fantasy and miscommunication with loved ones. My personal advice? stay home away from others and meditate a whole heck a lot!

I myself have been meditating heavily this week to ease the energies I have been feeling too and it gave me time to ponder on this question because truthfully I am conflicted about this topic as well.

Unconditional love defined is affection without limitations or love without conditions. That sounds hella hard! I mean what if the person is being ugly or vindictive or manipulative? How do you love someone like that?

When I did a personal meditation to seek clarity about this for my clients, I found a startling discovery about myself in the process. I first contemplated the concept of unconditional love and if we as humans are even capable of it. Can we? Should we? If someone is being bad, it's very hard to love them. If we think like this then we are practicing conditional love. The idea is, "You need to earn my love by behaving the way I want you to".

There is also another form of conditional love that doesn't relate to disrespect. When we expect some form of return, that is also another way we practice conditional love. I realized that I was loving conditionally in my relationships but I wasn't aware of it. I realized that if no effort was reciprocated to mine I automatically took that as a negative sign or worse, that my partner was no longer interested in me.

There would be days my partner would be preoccupied with his own life (as he should) and he wouldn't be as attentive to me as I would like him to be. Without fail, each of those instances caused anxiety in me and led to thoughts like, "Is he losing interest in me?" When I had thoughts like that, I would feel prompted to pull away my love for him and create tension between us. Wow.

I had to sit with that for a moment because it became clear how misled I was and just how much conflict I was creating because my partner was just living his life.

Loving unconditionally is not a hard thing to do if we expect nothing in return but so many of us have been taught to expect something in return.

As a woman who grew up in the Caribbean, I was taught that love equated to service. If a man loves you, he will provide for you and your children and protect you (expectations). Now a perfectly good man could come along and love me with all his heart but yet, my culture dictates he needs to come better by bringing a paycheck. This doesn't feel very unconditional to me.

After identifying all the ways myself and my clients love conditionally I had to ask the next, logical question- "loving unconditionally...is it worth it?

This answer came quicker than the last. Yes it is absolutely worth it.

Before being human, we are Spirit. Spirit sees no differences or segregation, we are all One. And in this Oneness lies love. There is no discussion of whether someone deserves my love or if it is an equal reciprocation. Love is in the purest form....just love.

I want to be able to experience this love in this lifetime so I have decided to start instituting some steps in my life that you are welcome to use if they fit!

1) Love people as they are not as I want them to be

Gone are the days of needing to change people to suit my needs. The truth is not accepting someone as they are, flaws and all is not a reflection of their character, it is a reflection of mine. By choosing to love someone as they are, I am also providing acceptance and that is such a soothing balm for them. Most of us grew up with judgment so imagine how nice it is to be loved and accepted as we are? It can be life changing.

2) Forgive easily and frequently

We are not perfect but yet we expect our loved ones to be. I am ditching my "three strikes you're out!" rule in favor of something more calmer and gentler. As long as I am flowing love to you, I will be more forgiving of the times you make mistakes. I will choose to see you as an imperfect being also learning and growing like me. I hope you can extend the same level of forgiveness to me but guess what? If you don't, that's ok I will still love you.

3) To show unconditional love for others, I first need to have it for myself

This is a big truth that I need to live up to. It is so easy to judge ourselves and feel disappointed if we don't get it right. I am letting that go. I am choosing to believe that everything is always working out for me even when it seems like bad times. It is still working out for me. So I will judge myself less and hold space more. I will love me as I am despite what other people think of me and trust that in time they will either change their minds or I will be surrounded by people who love and appreciate me as I am.

The funny thing is as much as I believe in and want to practice unconditional love, it is not for everyone! I brought this topic up recently on my social media livestream and I was surprised to hear people say they are comfortable living with conditional love. One woman said she knew in her heart she couldn't forgive certain behaviors and be unconditional so she was accepting of judgment from her partner and conditional love. I love her for that.

Deciding whether to practice unconditional love is not an easy task if you are steeped in this dimension of limiting beliefs and duality. It will take great strength to break out of our habits and patterns but if you do! please drop a comment and let me know how living and loving unconditionally worked out for you. :)

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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It's not meant to break you....it's meant to MAKE you!

I keep seeing too many people who go through things and allowing that thing to bring them down. Stop it.

I am about to be that Aunt Bee who straightens you up so you can fly right. Now this post is not for the faint of heart so if you take things personally, like to make assumptions, want to avoid personal responsibility then this is not the post for you. Keep sliding down and find one better suited to your temperament. For the rest of you....here we go.

1) Stop blaming people

Let's say you got into a relationship with someone (it could be romantic or platonic) and after a period of fun and enjoyment it ends. Please for the love of God stop classifying them and diagnosing them especially when you don't have a license to do so. It's the funniest thing to me when I hear most people leave a relationship and refer to their exes as a narcissist. Stop it.

Just because you didn't get your needs met or that person didn't treat you the way you wanted to be treated, doesn't mean there is something psychologically wrong with them. It just means that you two aren't meant for each other and it's time for you to move on.

It's that simple but yet I find many people make excuses for their inability to leave. If I was to reword a scenario it would go from, "Oh I hate my ex, he is such a narcissist and i am glad that relationship is over." to "I wasn't getting my needs fulfilled but I was too scared to leave because I am insecure and anxious about being single. I am not sure I can get into another relationship OR I don't want to do the work and start all over again so I will just sit here and hope and pray for him to change."

The truth is this Universe (and you) operate by natural laws and there is a Law of Free Will which means that nothing can enter your life without your invitation. So whoever is in your life is by your intentional or unintentional focus. Stop blaming them for being there.

As a Law of Attraction coach I find that most people invite people and things into their life unintentionally, meaning they aren't focusing on the right things. Case in point, imagine a woman who only complains that men are dogs and list all the reasons something is wrong with them. Do you think she is going to attract a sweet, sensitive man capable of loving her or is she going to attract exactly what she has been talking about for awhile? Bingo.

The first step to emotional intelligence is understanding that bad relationships don't come in to break you...they come in to make you choose better so you can have the relationship of your dreams.

2) Own your Stuff

News flash-if you are 30s and younger, you are still growing and you are bound to make mistakes. If you mess up (and you know you will) be humble about it, learn and process it and then allow yourself the freedom to move on from it. Don't become the next category...ahem.

If you are 30s and older, learn to accept defeat and move on from it. Don't patronize others, don't put others down and definitely don't get a gang of your friends to cosign that you are right and they are wrong. As loving as they are being, they are not helpful.

We are not perfect creatures and we aren't expected to be so we really need to stop holding ourselves to this old paradigm that clearly isn't working anymore.

There will always be contrast and turmoil in life, the key to life is not to avoid it or live your life fearing it but to face things head on and change your attitude when things go south.

I am talking about myself of course. I use to be the woman who labeled every man as toxic if our relationship didn't work out but guess what? I grew up and took ownership of my behavior.

I stopped fearing change and started asking questions such as,

"What is this?"

"What is this bringing me?"

"How can I grow from this?"

"What new direction am I heading in because of this?"

When you start accepting the turmoil that comes with life, you show dominance in personality and power. Why? Because you refuse to be shaken. You understand that the Universe is a living, energetic entity only responding to our signals, nothing more and nothing less. So you learn to take things less personally and redirect a new course.

If a relationship ends? I accept it and see it only as a redirection not a rejection. If that man doesn't want to be with me, he is only making room for the one who can't live without me.

If I find out friends aren't really friends to me, I accept it. It only means that I outgrew that energy and am now open to inviting in a better fit for friendship.

If a job fires me, I accept it. I understand that there is something better coming my way and I need the time off to rest and prepare for this next adventure.

Once you start to see things as positive, you gain power over your outside circumstances. It all comes down to mindset. As a former athlete I can tell you that excellence in a sport is maybe 40% technical and physical skill and definitely 60% mindset.

You gotta think the right thoughts to make this life work. So....the next time you have a shake up in life, please remember...it came in to make you not break you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep it moving. SO far you have succeeded 100% of the times you were knocked down. Own your thoughts and see your life flourish in amazing ways.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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What IS the Message?

Today I found out a cherished mentor of mine Mavis Pittilla is no longer with us. She joins Janet Nohavec in Heaven, another mentor of mine who passed a few weeks ago.

I am feeling a little overwhelmed. These two women were great powerhouses in their work and I enjoyed my time studying under them. I pray for the healing and peace to be bestowed upon their loved ones that are left behind. I cannot imagine the loss experienced because they both had such a great impact on their communities that I know a hole will be left with their absence.

On a personal note, I am wondering what this means for me. I have been a medium since I was born and when that ability started becoming more pronounced in me, I decided to take formal training so I could provide the best possible experience for my clients.

It was an interesting experience becoming a mediumship student when I was already a medium. I learned from many teachers but I will only name the ones I had a positive experience with- namely Mavis Pittilla, Janet Nohavec, Eileen Davies and Colin Bates.

Some classes I took I was disgusted to see how the mediumship teachers abused their students. Some teachers talked down to grown adults like they were little children. I mean sheesh, you shouldn't even talk to children like that. Then there were others who failed to recognize a student's natural ability or competed with them for attention in class.

I quickly learned that spiritual teachers were after all, people and that if they didn't do their own self work they were just as liable as others to spew their inner turmoil to the outside world. It was interesting and scary to watch.

I loved working with Janet because she was strict and she was fair. I didn't experience preferential treatment and I had to earn my right to sit at her table. Yes I actually got to sit at her table when she invited me out to lunch one day (ohhhh I was so shocked and happy for the honor!). Janet took an interest in me and even offered to help me open my church when I was in her ministry program. She said she would help me with the bylaws and everything. I was deeply touched but yet saddened when I left her program when I realized internally becoming a Minister was not part of my path at this time. I did cut ties with her but maintained the respect and loyalty to her work. Later on when I began teaching mediumship, I referenced her frequently as the place to go after students learned with me so they could continue their development.

Mavis had a whole other special place in my heart. I worked with her for three years and just loved being in her energy. She was in tune with Spirit and it was a marvel to watch. I wanted to be like her as a professional medium- accurate, confident, loving and compassionate. Mavis saw something in me too. I remember one day after class, she pulled me aside and said, "Uma you got it. You got what it takes not only to become a medium but a mentor and I want to train you more. Will that be ok? I will be harder on you than others because I see something in you that makes you stand out." I was honored of course and Mavis was true to her word. She would call on me in class to demonstrate techniques and after a practice she would ask me to follow her outside while she smoked her cigarette and go over the class with me showing me how to be a proper mentor. It was bittersweet for me to leave Mavis but during my time with her, she had health issues that impacted her travel. After a few times of missed classes and reschedules I had to leave because I couldn't accomodate her changes as my schedule was so packed up. To this day I miss Mavis and being in her presence but I am glad for the recordings I have that I can play back and relive my memories.

After leaving these two wonderful mentors, it was hard for me to stay in the mediumship community because there was alot of nastiness I didn't approve of. Mediums were tearing down other mediums or judging their work. Mediums were scamming clients and the worst were teachers who had a lot of ego and took it out on helpless students. When George Floyd was murdered, I left the mediumship community because I noticed an absence of our mediumship organizations speaking out against racism. The Spiritualists community has been very vocal over the years for the Women's Suffrage Movement and LGBTQ rights....I couldn't understand at the time why they were not addressing racial concerns.

I also felt left out as a minority in the mediumship community. When I was assessed for my mediumship presentations it usually included comments to make me more "white". I would be told to not be so loud or fun, to be more subdued and dress more plainly. This was hard to hear as a Caribbean woman where my whole culture was about joy and vibrancy.

I left the mediumship community in 2019 and have not been practicing or actively teaching mediumship for about 3 years but with the recent deaths of my two beloved mentors, I am wondering if it is my duty to pick up the mantle and keep it going?

Interestingly enough there is also a new SNU President that I love and she is a modern woman keen on bringing order to the Spiritualist community again. Change is afoot and I am curious as to whether there is a place for me in this new world that seems to be developing.

I am wondering if Spirit is asking me to come back to the fold. I don't know yet but I honor the signals I am feeling and will make a decision soon about it. After all, life goes on and what we need are honorable and trustworthy practitioners and teachers in this craft. I know I am but the question is, do others recognize that in me as well?

So the question is something I am sure you can relate to. When you see all the signs and synchronicities lining up, you can't help but ask, "What IS the Message?'

For me, when I find myself in this position, I become silent and make no moves. I wait for the answer to come to me and when it does, it comes with crystal clear clarity of what I need to do. Until then, I patiently wait and carry on with my life while acknowledging I heard the call and I am open to receiving the message.

Janet and Mavis my only regret is that I didn't get to say a last farewell to you both and tell you how much I respected your work and your teachings. I hope you can hear me in Heaven and know that I loved you immensely. If you feel I represent your brand well, I hope you give me the signs to pursue this work for the greater good. If not, I am content enough that I learned from the best of the best and those memories can never be taken away. RIP ladies, you did amazing work with your time here on earth. I love you and miss your presence greatly.

Until next time, be good, do good and have a Namaste!

xo Uma

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Summering....are you making the most of it?

Happy Summer!

We are officially halfway through Summer and I GOTS TO TELL YOU.....I am very pleased with myself.

Every summer I set goals, things I want to do and feelings I want to feel and without fail....most summers I set myself up for disappointment.

Sometimes I get disappointed because I depend on other people to help me fulfill my summer goals and sometimes it's because I set too many expectations that are not realistic.

I am happy for those failed summers though because each time I learned a little bit more about what I want and what I can get.

For instance, I use to hold the expectation that my partner would drop everything and just be up on me during the summer. Welp. Clearly that didn't work out in my last relationship but a funny thing about failed expectations...it can lead to brighter times ahead. Now in my current relationship, I hold no expectations of my partner's time and I enjoy the time together and I look at the time apart from him as time to do the other things I had planned! Win Win.

I use to also look to my friends to be available all the time to do things with me. I mean come on, its summer! Time to be outdoors! Well I have learned to do things on my own and it feels good. This summer I have been enjoying my Super Soul Sundays which is basically spent with half the day doing self care things like having massages or going to bookstores and the other half of the day with my partner on the couch watching our favorite shows. I am definitely enjoying this so much I might take it into the Fall with me too!

I also usually set a goal of getting things done around the house in the summer and hold a desire of wanting to do nothing. How in the world I expected that to work out in the past beats me! I would set these really high expectations and then feel awful at the end of summer when things weren't accomplished.

Because of those experiences, I entered this summer with no goals besides going to the pool/beach (check), hanging out late nights (check), traveling (check) and reading more (check). Ding ding ding! I completed my summer goals and it's not even over yet! :)

The funny thing about letting up about expectations and just being in the flow is that it allows space for other things to happen that you want to happen.

Even though I didn't set any expectations for household chores, I got some done! Things that have been on my to do list for awhile just got completed and with total ease and joy.

What I learned so far this summer is that being easy and happy, letting go of my expectations and learning to just BE is the key to enjoying the moment.

This week I ask you to do the same. We are halfway through summer and I ask you to focus on just enjoying the weather and doing activities that you can't do in other seasons. Let that be your focal point so when summer is over and the chill starts to come into the air, you can feel good about spending time as you wanted to and enjoying all that summer has to offer.

In life we don't have to push as much as we think we do. We are enough and we can just focus on being in the moment and trusting that everything will workout for us. In the end, it usually does.

Until next time, be good, do good and have a Namaste!

xo Uma

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The tower fell....and im still here

So here we are.....unable to escape fate and reeling from a week of revelations and intense clarity about a lot of things in life. The tower well and I am still here.

For those of you who don't get the reference, let me give a little back story. In tarot we have a tower card (see photo) and it gives an eerie meaning as eerie as the photo looks. It suggests a sudden and tragic ending in your life that will be catastrophic to you. It could be a literal ending like the death of a loved one, an end of a relationship or job or unexpected relocation/expenses. Yikes!

Well this was my card for my May Reading followed with the 3 of Cups (family, relationships, celebration, reunions) and Ace of Wands (new energy, new opportunities). So when I started May I had a small sense of dread mixed with relief that whatever happened, it will be quick and painful but I will have new doors open and a community of loving people supporting me.

I had no idea what was to come.

Of course when you get a reading like this, your logical mind starts to think logically about what could logically happen. So logically I assumed my partner and I were breaking up this month LOL. Yes very logical thought as I have a history of being super emotional during mercury retrogrades (thanks to my Gemini moon) and I was pretty sure I was gonna show him what that mouf do when I am triggered.

It wasn't him. It was a friend I have been rocking with for close to a year. She betrayed me and the tower fell. God it hurt on so many levels.

The first hurt came from the actual events that unfolded. In a summary, she changed her energy towards me but maintained her friendship with my partner. Now she met him through me last April to be exact when I invited her to hang out with us when we were in NY. She seemed cool and easy to get along with so I invited her and she made a few more trips to see us. I didn't think anything about it until a month ago when my partner had to go back to his home state for family stuff. In those 3 weeks he was away, I hardly heard from her and if I did, it was only in response to something I did. Him? He heard from her practically every day. Well this week the confrontation came about by surprise, surprise, her accusing me of changing the energy towards her! At first I didn't take it personally because with Mercury Retrograde, I was sure she was reacting emotionally. I carefully explained to her my facts- the text messages, the calls etc....staying away from opinions and only stating what I noticed. The response was simple and in text- "I really was only interested in a friendship with you to get to your partner because I felt we had more of a bond." Ouch.

The second hurt came from my ability and inability. A few months ago I had this vision that this was coming. It was such a strong feeling that I told my partner, "I have a feeling she isn't going to be in our lives anymore and I am sad about it." Of course he didn't believe me....it's not usual for a guy to date a psychic haha. I am use to my partners not believing me when I see things so far out. And a bit of hurt came from the inability of me unable to stop it. These things hurt but it does get easier.

Now that a few days passed, I have so much clarity about this tower moment in my life and this is what I want to speak on.

Life is always going to have tower moments, you cannot avoid it but you can choose how you react to it.

As shocking as the news were this week, I allowed myself to receive it because the lesson I have learned in life is this- life is always working out for me. I may not see right now why this ending had to happen but I trust it happened for the best for me and mine.

Why am I so sure?

Because I have been focused and committed to my vision. I haven't been distracted or out of alignment. I have been killing it in all areas of my life so whatever is happening now in any part of my life, it is happening for the best. That is how much I know and trust the Law of Attraction.

So how did this end?

Peacefully. My partner and I took some time off from streams for two days and reconnected. We used this opportunity to talk about what our expectations were about outside influences and friendships. This situation actually afforded us some much needed communication about what we want and did not want to invite into our lives. We became stronger.

That person? She tried several times to create more chaos but we stayed united. He showed me the messages she was sending him putting me down and I showed him the same. We stayed united and eventually she walked away.

Will she be back? Probably to his life but that would be for him to deal with. I have learned in life the best thing to do is to trust your partner and give them space to show you they are capable of handling things without your interference. Besides it wasn't my intention to break their friendship up....far from it! My intention was to uncover the lies that were pretty much forced in my face. She acted like she wanted to be a friend to me but that wasn't true. It is enough to uncover that and move on with my life. I trust him to handle it if she returns.

In the end I am grateful. I saw a storm coming and I didn't shrink from it or fear it and that empowered me. Why? I didn't know how, who or what was going to go down so how could I act in such a calm fashion? Because I learned to trust and rely on myself. When you learn that lesson you become invincible.

This week I challenge you to be brave about whatever adversity you are going through. Live with the motto, "Everything is always working out for me" amd become empowered in your life. You will always be ok when you trust in yourself.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Accountability is a sign of growth

I recently joined a 6 Week Boot Camp to give it one last push before summer gets here. It was absolutely an intuitive move. I have been feeling a little down about my happy weight (happy events in my life led to my overindulgence) and as a Law of Attraction coach I know that for me to make a change, I first have to think it into existence. So that is what I did. I imagined myself on the beach in a cute new bikini and feeling easy in my body as I wore summer clothes.

Just by doing that for a few days, I "coincidentally" found a local boot camp last Thursday that started on Tuesday! What luck! (wink) I enrolled immediately without thinking it through because I knew if I intuitively was led there, it was part of my bigger mission to slim down before beach season.

That was the easy part. Now comes the hard lesson of accountability. When you are accountable, it means you are willing to accept responsibility. I found out quite quickly in my first session that I had a lot of excuses that my trainer was able to spot easily. When he pointed them out to me, I yielded and did not argue for my limitations. He was right and I was wrong and I was willing to accept responsibility for that.

The lesson of accountability showed up for me in other areas of my life last week too. I started to feel "bad vibes" from a fellow streamer friend and I actually felt that the person had ill intentions towards me. It's funny how people outside of us can make us believe the worst things.

I allowed that energy to take up space for maybe two days as I battled it but in the end, my higher Self won. I consistently meditated every day and in that sanctuary, I found my peace with the situation.

After all, I am the creator of every situation in my life according to the Law of Attraction right? So either I was imagining it or it is an ending meant to be.

Here's how I deal with either situation:

- If I was imagining it, that means I was paying attention more to their actions than ignoring their actions and continuously loving them as is. It also suggests I was out of alignment with my inner being because when you are high vibing, you really don't pay attention to what is going on around you in the current reality. In this situation, if it truly was my imagination (and time will tell) then it is an easy fix. I can continue to treat this person with love and respect and act like nothing happened.....because nothing did. I can work on getting myself back into alignment and start high vibing again.

- If it is an ending meant to be and I wasn't imagining it then I can also stress less and worry less about it. My inner being always know what is best for me so despite my feelings about this person, my inner being has determined that on the road of life, wherever I am headed to, this person cannot come with me. It's not a dis or insult to them and it definitely does not suggest they are beneath me. It just means that our time together served its purpose and now its time to move on to the things that truly inspire us....which may mean we are heading into different directions. So I allow myself to move and I wish that person well as they move into their new direction too.

The most important thing I want to stress here is that it didn't matter the situation, whether it was my gym routine or the issue involving a friend, my answer was always the same- be accountable for MY actions, thoughts and words. I do not need to look to another and see what they are doing and I do not need to create drama because I am uncomfortable. I can sit in the silence and patiently await outcomes while being accountable for my own thoughts and actions. This is the next level in our evolution.

This week I challenge you to look at difficult situations you are experiencing in your life and find out how you can be held accountable for them. In doing so, I ask that you do not look to others and place blame at their feet for how you feel. You can only affect you so ease up on others. Reach your next level with this!

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Full Moon Scorpio is here-what can i do?

Unless you have been living in a cave, this past week has been tumultuous as we had several major influences coincide this week/weekend.

Mercury Retrograde started on May 10th and that's always a fun time to be around people (I am kidding if you couldn't tell) as we tend to operate more from our emotional sides than our logical ones. This means arguments, petty quarrels, irritation and a whole lotta of "taking it personally". If you don't know much about Mercury Retrograde, check out my latest video on Youtube to get a basic starting lesson to learn about it.

Sunday midnight on the East Coast ushers in the Full Moon Scorpio and it is also a total Lunar Eclipse. This combination is asking us to honor what we truly feel and express that to others. That may sound lovely and all but I am betting it is going to go south very fast. Instead of deep, intimate conversations with our significant others and people we love, I am pretty sure it's going to be a time of impulsive decisions, explosive diarrhea of the mouth and more relationship wrecking actions than peaceful ones. We are a funny bunch, us humans.

My advice? Be the observer this week, reflect and meditate more, speak less! If you feel triggered, automatically assume responsibility and work it out within yourself (or call me for a quick 15min or 30min Access Energetic clearing!). Do NOT and I repeat do NOT take your opinions and feelings to others if they are mean, degrading, angry, hurtful or otherwise.

Full Moon Scorpio is a time of to work on yourself and clear up past patterns that are preventing you from living a life of peace, happiness and joy. If you have a chance to join a group meditation, do so because now is the perfect time to cut your negative attachments to your past and destructive behavior. Want something to do Monday Night? Check out my online Violet Flame of Transmutation event I am having at 7pm EST on 5/16/22. The Violet Flame meditation is an incantation we repeat 33 times to clear our karma, elevate to 5D from 3D and cut attachments to people and situations that continue to hold us. Check it out!

Here are some other things I will personally be doing in addition to the Violet Flame meditation during this auspicious time. Feel free to join me and do them too!

1) Charge my Crystals

All crystals are on the window ledges so the full moon can shine its blessed light upon them and clear them of any stagnant energy they are holding from past use. This is a better way to cleanse crystals as some crystals can dissolve in water baths. Also wave your sage stick around your crystals for added benefits.

2) Do a House Clearing

I have a little cauldron (so cute) and I put some special herbs mixed for various reasons (love, health, wealth, clearings) into it and burn it around the height of the full moon. Even though it will be at 12am (I wouldn't be up), I will probably do this ritual around 9pm and then go to bed for sweet sleep. I let the herbs burn safely in the cauldron and the beautiful smell fills my home.

3) Write my Pain

Full moons are great for letting go and moving on. I write on a piece of paper all the things I am ready to let go of and then burn them. I can release people from karmic bonds this way, let go of mental and emotional attachments to people and things and also let go of old mindsets that are limiting me. For those of you in situationships, why not take this time to write a letter to the other person and burn it? It symbolizes your readiness to cut ties and walk away from this kind of relationship in hopes for a new one.

4) Crystal Reiki Healing on Myself

I energize my being with reiki while listening to sound bowls and place crystals on my chakras. I can't begin to tell you how amazingly healing this is and most times I fall asleep during the session! If you would like to book me for this healing session this week, let me know! I have crystals at my office space that I use specifically for this service and I also incorporate tuning fork therapy with it! Come check it out!

This week I challenge you to be mindful of your words and actions towards others and to go inward. Now is not the time to pick that fight with your loved ones. Now is the time to be quiet and listen to the truth of your Soul.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Attention is the new currency

Happy Mother's Day to every mom out there! I hope you had a day to spend as you please and you got some rest, love and appreciation for all the hard work you do. I am writing this blog after spending a wonderful day with my children who spoiled me today and rightfully so! I deserve this goodness.

I really wanted to come on here and write a post about motherhood or nurturing but I just can't get it out of my mind something my partner told me. It's like I am fixated on it so I guess this is the topic we will explore this week. Let's get to it.

Side note, ladies get you a man who loves to have conversations with you. Not just conversations about sexy time or romantic in nature (oooh those are good too!) but about life and thoughts.

One day last week we were having our usual morning conversation, talking about the sad progression of events with the Will Smith and Chris Rock incident and he said to me something I will never forget. He said, "Uma doesn't it bother you how much they keep distracting us? I mean every time some insignificant news pop up, I have to wonder what they aren't telling us. Attention is the new currency."

Of course I am paraphrasing because 1) I don't listen too well and 2) my memory sucks. Despite those setbacks I heard the most important part (to me) of that conversation: "Attention is the New Currency."

He couldn't be more right.

One of the reasons I stopped looking at the news is that it became very distracting. I noticed the news anchors were really good at getting us to get worked up about something- be it an impending snow storm, possible World War III or another pandemic but when said things came and passed without incident, they rarely addressed it again. Do you notice that? No one apologizes after the fact and I mean it's the least they can do.

"Sorry we got you all worked up about a possible snow storm when it was only a passing rain shower. My bad." that would go a long way! But they don't offer it so I don't watch the news anymore.

I like living trauma free and I feel that way about a lot of things not just the news.

Your attention to matters is what gives things life. When you learn this, you will stop giving your attention to unwanted things and only focus on things that you do want.

My partner recognizes this and takes it a step further by saying that everything and everyone in this world is vying for YOUR attention! How are you spending it?

It makes you stop and think doesn't it? Questions I have begun asking myself since that conversation go along the lines of:

1) Who is buying me through my attention?

2) What am I distracting myself from by focusing my attention on these things?

3) Am I in charge of my attention or has it been bought already?

I am a little bit of a geek and like to play word games and sudoku. I realized shockingly that these phone games were definitely costing me a lot because at any point in the day you can find me on my phone playing games. Yes I can explain it away by saying things like:

- This is relieving stress

- This is building my mental capacity

- This is healing

But the reality is? They take up a lot of my time that I could be using for self reflection, spending time with my loved ones or even upleveling my businesses. My clarity is these games are healthy in moderation and I made a plan of when to play them so they don't consume me.

Your attention is the new currency so are you liking what you are buying with it?

That's All. Answer that question and be open to the answers that may come flying in.

This week I challenge you to pay attention to what YOU are paying attention to. What consumes the majority of your thoughts? Is it healing you or sickening you?

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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the art of living a soulful life

Well there's always a first time for everything.

Usually I write my blogs early Sunday Morning as the sun greets the day and I have had my first cup of coffee. Today I am writing as dusk settles in while munching on some green apples and salt (try it, it's a thing).

This weekend I have no partner and no kids and I found myself strangely waking up alone. Usually there is always someone in the house listening to music, watching the game replays or slamming cupboards in the kitchen (doesn't anyone ever gently close them?!). This weekend however the kids are with their dad and my partner is back home visiting family so I had the house all to myself.

Ok ok before your imagination runs wild, I will say as animated as I am on social media and in my public appearances, I am very subdued in my private life. In fact, I love the sound of silence. So today I don't know, I guess I celebrated my solitude a little too much and that's why I find myself addressing my work obligations at 7pm. Haha!

And there is the beauty in following your joy. Today in the midst of catching up on my shows, enjoying some delicious Indian take out, taking a nap and grocery shopping, I received clarity on what I wanted to talk about this week: The Art of living a Soulful Life.

I am not many things and I do not have many things but the one thing I do have is inner peace, joy and contentment....all by products of living a soulful life. So let me divulge on this particular area of expertise and hopefully it motivates some of you to also follow suit in making a few changes in your life to create a soulful experience. That is if you want inner peace, joy and contentment. If not, carry on doing you boo! As I have found out plenty of times, it is naive to believe that everyone wants this kind of life. It is truly for the mature, the humble and those ready to live their purpose. Let us begin.

First let's define a soulful life. Of course everyone is going to have their own definition but mine is simple: A soulful life is living for the purpose and experience of living not anything else.

What is "anything else"? Oh so many answers!

- Living to please others

- Living to gain material things

- Living to meet goals and deadlines

- Living for a love relationship

The list goes on and on but you get the picture. When we live a soulful life we remove those distractions and focus on the idea that we are a Soul visiting this planet intent on learning and experiencing the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly for our own purposes. Of course everyone's purpose differs as we all came here to learn different lessons but the intent to know them is the same in each of us.

Don't know the lessons you came to learn? That's easy! Get a natal chart or soul plan reading done! Sometimes when I do a soul plan reading for a person I find out things like they came here to learn how to create time for relationships and solitude or they came here to learn to balance the spiritual with the material.

When you are living with the intent of having a soulful experience, life becomes sweeter and more enjoyable...even the bad times! Because you have the general overview of what is happening instead of feeling personally attacked by each negative situation you experience. Whew, that alone should make you want to pay attention and make changes right?!

Well for those of you who are interested, luckily I came up with some tips on how to create a soulful experience. You never know, you may be actually doing some of these things subconsciously. See the soul always knows what's best.

Tips to Living a Soulful Life:

1) Tune other people out

I can't stress this enough. That family member or friend or partner as loving and caring as they are about you need to pipe down. I have a rule that I do not offer advice to anyone unless asked. Of course I have valuable and a wealth of knowledge but come on! What's the fun of living if you don't make a few mistakes along the way? We all know our loved ones love us so when they offer their well meaning advice, do them the courtesy of listening but reminding yourself that ultimately you get to make the decisions of how you want to proceed. This is your life so live it. You can't make mistakes and everything even the bad, are valuable lessons.

2) There are no deadlines

I do not rush for anything anymore. I use to, hello I am a Capricorn. While I still have schedules in my life, I honor them if I can and I relax if I can't. If I have 6 things to do in a day and I am out of time, I give my attention and time to the things that I can and want to do and everything else gets left behind (hence why I am writing this blog later on in the day, it just felt more important to catch up on Selling Sunsets!). The same goes for working with people and I understand some of you may shake your head at me or fight for your limitations (I have a boss, the contract has a deadline etc...) but remember always, you have the choice. You can choose to honor your living experience or you can choose to honor the needs of others.

I have lost plenty of contracts, opportunities and relationships because I operate on my own time table. And honestly? I have gained so much more. It is quite freeing to just BE and to make movements when inspired. In the beginning this may be one of the biggest obstacles you have as you create your soulful experience because people pleasing is ingrained in us from childhood but trust me you can do it. And if you need help? You can always book me for a coaching session, we can talk through what you perceive as your block to honoring your own schedule and work it through. Everything is just a mindset and opinion, find the one that aligns with a soulful experience.

3) Love your Space and Solitude

A trick of the matrix is getting us to believe that we need people to thrive. People distract you from noticing things. I get a lot more out of solo vacations because I am required to pay attention more. If i have a companion, as lovely as they are, I am more focused on them and us. I remember when I went to St. Petersburg last year Thanksgiving by myself, I had such a joyful trip because i got to do things I know the people I love wouldn't enjoy as much. I went to the Dali museum, one of my favorite artists and spent hours just sitting and pondering on his mindset while he painted what he did. I enjoyed appetizers at a local seaside beach bar and I stayed up late at night binge watching Ozark while in my hotel room with room service.

When you are alone, you are practically forced to pay attention to everything you are doing as you don't have the company of another to distract you. I tend to take a solo vacation every year but you don't have to! Start small by spending a weekend at home alone or visiting something in your city by yourself. You would feel awkward at first but eventually you will learn to love the experience. After all, in having a soul you truly are never alone.

4) Let go of Material Obsessions

I don't know if you know this but I am 99.99% positive that you do not need to or have to work as hard as you do. Many of us work hard to gain money to buy things that in a few years we would donate to charitable organizations.

Living a soulful life reminds you of the basics. A purse is meant to hold things as you leave the house. It doesn't matter if it's from Prada or target. A shoe is meant to protect your foot as you step outside the safety of your home. It doesn't matter if its Gucci or from Payless. Now some may argue that the quality is important and sure it can be...but let's be real...how many of you buy one pair of shoes to last a lifetime? We like change and we like variety so inevitably at some point we will buy new ones...usually before the old ones are completely worn out.

I don't have a problem with name brand and I do have some pieces that I buy if its on sale and I have the money to do so. Gone are the days of working to make five figure months just so I could have the latest or newest trends that come out. 90% of the time I shop clearance and sale racks and I think I look pretty good so it works out.

BY working less and refusing to enter the rat race to be the best, look the best and have the best afforded me much quality time to have a soulful experience. I am rested, I am well and I have the space and time to have awareness of life.

5) Spiritual practices are a daily MUST

SO far I have been telling you what not to do but there is definitely something you need to do to have a soulful experience. You have to create time to spend with your soul. This goes beyond working less hours and travelling alone- this goes to the heart of the matter. You have to create time to tap into the subconscious parts of you where the Soul resides.

Every morning I meditate and do yoga to connect to my mind, body and Spirit. You have to nourish all parts of you. I am a multifaceted being and I think of my morning practice as nourishment for my soul, exercising and eating healthy as nourishment for my body and reading/learning as nourishment for my mind. When you create time in your day to self nourish you are absolutely getting the hang of what it means to live a soulful life. Why on earth would you come here to run after everyone and everything and not take care of yourself? You owe it to yourself to be kind and loving to you. In my morning practices, I feel so deeply connected to myself that it allows me to create space for intimacy with others which I have been told is quite enjoyable by those who come into my presence. You can do the same and in fact I would go so far to say that if you truly love those that are in your life, you owe it to them to create this sacred space. The ironic thing is by having a spiritual practice which allows you to live soulfully, you also create space for others to experience soulful living through you. Many times people leave my company feeling refreshed, uplifted and positive.

What a world this would be if we all lived from a soulful place. There would be less wars, less negativity and more focus on peace, love and joy. Until that happens I can do my part by just focusing on creating a soulful experience for myself. Who knows, maybe I can start a trend and in create a community of soulful living people. Now wouldn't that be a legacy to leave behind?

This week I challenge you to create changes in your life to welcome in a more soulful experience. Of course if you need help, you can always book me for the Law of Attraction Coaching package because there is nothing that brightens my day than helping someone relax and enjoy the bounty of the Universe. It is definitely here for the taking.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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It's not the Law of Manipulation...Relax and allow things to

Sigh......as elevated and advanced as we are as the human species, we can also be a little bit silly and immature.

We are unlimited beings with so much potential but yet we choose to live in a closet cloaking ourselves and masking our true intent. In actuality we don't need to live like this any longer because we are definitely living in a day and age where anything goes and we have scientific knowledge explaining the laws of the Universe so we can better line up with what we want.

Too many times I teach people the Law of Attraction but somehow it translates to the Law of Manipulation and then in turn, it doesn't work because surprise surprise, there is no such thing as the law of manipulation.

"UMA! What IS the Law of Manipulation?" you might ask me and I giggle at my own creativity. It's not a law just my wit.

People watching is fun because I get to learn about myself, human behavior and see just how we live. Some of us live to survive and some of us live to thrive. What do you do?

When I say someone lives from the Law of Manipulation, what I mean is that they use the law of attraction forcefully to manifest their desires in their speeded up time frame.

Now before you shake your head and click your tongue in disapproval, let me remind you of some instances you may have done this too. I will list three instances that happened just this week as examples of energy manipulation and I will excuse you to hang your head in shame if you identify with one, two or all three of these incidences in some shape, way or form. Don't worry, we are all human and bound to make mistakes. The goal here is not to embarrass anyone but to educate everyone that the power of the law of attraction works every single time and you don't need to manipulate anything.

1) Copycatting

This week a dear friend reached out to me on IG about a post I made about my live streaming. See I am making moves in the streaming world and doing really well! I recently took part in an elite training program for future representatives of this particular platform I am on and well I made a post reflecting on my journey. They reached out to me to congratulate me then slip in the old, "Oh which platform are you on because I want to come see you!" line. Now for those of you who don't deal with this on the regular, you may assume it is a harmless question, it isn't. I have noticed in a variety of settings that when I am doing well at something, someone always invariably comes along and want to know what/who/where/why/how I am doing the said thing so ta da! they can copycat it. 100% of the time it is cloaked in pleasantries and the person just wanting to see how I am doing. Why do I know it is fake? Because these people never check on me unless they want something from me, that's how.

Stealing someone else's idea or trying to mimic their success rarely works because the idea did not naturally come to you, it was shown to you through another and it cannot be recreated for you.

2) Rushing Desires

This week a client reached out to me for a coaching session because I kid you not, she wanted to manifest her ex coming back to her even though he broke up with her and moved on with someone else. As I explained the 5 steps of Law of Attraction to her, she rushed the explanation and specifically requested what she can do to bring him back. Lady there is no spell or charm that can infringe on someone else's free will but that's another topic for another blog.

On a side note to those of you who want an ex back.....make it make sense. If you love this person and you swear this is YOUR person, then why rush it for them to come back to you? If you know this is your person then natural laws say they will eventually find their way back to you. It can be months, years or even decades but they will come back. The reason why this is not enough to satisfy you is because you may have lustful love for that person not unconditional love and that is why you require their physical presence NOW. Just some food for thought.

Rushing desires is not following the law of attraction, it is manipulating energy to bring you what you want.

3) Acting Out

This week I also watched someone from streams create a whole elaborate scene to gain attention and gifts from viewers. She believed her drama so much that she was oblivious to the fact that everyone saw through her bad acting and knew what was up. It became hilarious as she tried to regain control of her stream by denying her true intentions and sticking with her made up script. Eventually she ended her Live because she was embarrassed that people caught on to her fake act.

Feeling the need to con others to get what you want is hardly needed. You can have pretty much everything you want by manifesting not manipulating and that takes time, patience and focused intent to create. That's all.

There are several marked differences between manipulation and manifestation, let me share them here:

1) Manipulation requires a lot of effort and hard work to get up and running and then to maintain. Manifestations require nothing but pure focused thought.

2) Manipulation can bring in some of your desires but they will be fleeting or small. Manifestations arrive in a grand manner and are here to stay.

3) Manipulation drains you because subconsciously you know you are fighting the natural order of things. Manifestations enhance your life and energize you with being in the flow of the natural universe.

I use to live from a place of manipulation so that's why I don't look down on anyone who still tries to manipulate energy to get what they want. I just want to show you that there is a better way. Be still. Meditate and TRUST in the natural laws. They will always work for you and bring you what you desire. Plus it's an easier and more enjoyable ride.

This week I challenge you to think rather than act, sit rather than do and focus rather than make moves. If you need a little group energy to help you with your manifestations, check out my Monday night Manifestation Meditation class! We are always in need of cheerful energy to keep the positive vibes flowing to all of our desires! Or you can book me for the Law of Attraction Coaching package because there is nothing that brightens my day than helping someone relax and enjoy the bounty of the Universe. It is definitely here for the taking.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The Lesson in the Pause

Grand Rising and happy full moon Libra this weekend! I write this blog on the sunday after the full moon and let me tell you....synchronicity strikes again!

The full moon Libra brings into focus our love partnerships and relationships as well as a need to regain balance in our lives between our desires and other people's needs of us. It can absolutely be a win-win situation for everyone involved but the key for that lies in the lessons of patience, understanding and compassion.

Interestingly enough this was exactly the theme last week for me in my personal life- I was forced to make decisions that either honored me or other people's desires of me. I chose me....and them hence bringing a win win situation in. Let me explain.

I had several things pop up last week that on introspection, I realize could have led to some serious emotional discomfort if not handled properly. Luckily it didn't happen that way but yet I will discuss them here because who knows? Maybe one of you reading this blog may be moved. Maybe my words may help one person going through something similar or maybe it's just cathartic for me to write and get it out on screen for my own personal healing and enlightenment. In any case, here we go:

Last week was spring break in my area so my kids made their annual trip to their dad's house to spend with him. My partner and I were alone for the week and contrary to popular opinion, we did not house party it up every day...in fact we went the opposite way by toning down our activity and used the week to catch up on things we were meaning to do. I recommitted back to my diet and exercise routine and also took the chance to begin my new streaming schedule with two streams daily ( a total of 12 streams a week). Now I know many streamers do this and more, but I am guessing they are superhuman! I made it to Wednesday and then conked out in sheer exhaustion. Between coming up with ideas/planning and prepping for the shows and tending to my metaphysical center duties of seeing clients and hosting classes...I was wiped out. Literally.

And this is where the lessons came in. I took two days off streaming on Thursday and Friday to just rest and relax. I got that and more. Here are the lessons I learned in the pause:

1) It's all in your head-get ahead of paranoia

When I realized I was energetically tapped out, my next reasonable step was to contact my stream shows admin and let them know I needed a day off. Well....as easy as it sounds, it became a whole production in my head. It was such late notice and we already had guests lined up for the shows that I felt like I was letting everyone down. I bit the bullet and contacted Rob my Thursday stream admin with my tail between my legs. I told him what was going on and that I just needed a day off. Well to my surprise he was ok with it! Not only was he ok with it but apparently due to personal reasons in his own life, he kinda needed a day off too so it ended up working out for both of us! I was so joyful that I guess my glee translated in my messages to my other stream admins when I wrote them to let them know I wasn't performing Thursday. My friday admin Nick wrote me privately and said, "You know what Uma, you work hard everyday on this so why don't you take Friday off too?" I was speechless. I didn't even think to ask off for Friday but yet the Universe seemed fit to give it to me. And that is how I got two days off.

The lesson I learned here is that sometimes fear can persuade you to believe things that simply aren't true. None of my stream admins were upset with me and in fact encouraged me to take a day off. My fear of letting people down got the best of me and made me (almost) believe things that weren't true. Be aware of your thoughts and the feelings you have when you think them. If it feels low vibrational, it is and probably untrue. Communicate with other or ask questions to get the clarity you need.

2) Older manifestations can catch up

Months ago when I knew it was going to be Spring break week, I focused my thoughts on envisioning a week off from work/streams and just hanging out with my love. The kids were going to be away so why not take a little trip away ourselves?

As the time got closer, I forgot about that desire and pushed for other desires (getting back on my diet/exercise, starting a new stream schedule etc..). When my body forced me to take a mandatory two days off, funnily enough my older desires came back into play. On those two days my partner and I went on a few dates and got a chance to deepen our bond for each other with some much needed quality time.

The lesson I learned here is that all your desires will come true but it may arrive not as you expect it. I wanted a week of hanging out with my man and a week of getting back on track (schedule, diet, exercise). What I got was a happy compromise in that I got time to spend with my partner for two days and honor my new schedules for three days. Sometimes a pause in life is not necessarily a pause but a chance for our desires to catch up with us. It feels so satisfying to see an old desire manifest because it gives you comfort in knowing that the Universe and the natural laws didn't forget about you- you are always creating and your creations no matter how long ago wished for, will always manifest.

3) Space is needed to Receive

We are so use to giving that receiving feels abnormal. We are so busy doing it all that no one else has a chance to contribute to us. A pause gives others a chance to give and gives you a chance to humble yourself to receive.

My stream admins contributed to me by graciously allowing me time off and not being bothered by it. I felt moved by their genuine compassion and kindness. My stream fans reached out to me on social media to check on me because they didn't know about my time off. That made me feel appreciated.

The biggest and most amazing thing to happen this week came from my partner. He took my two days off seriously and wanted me to be off not only from work but from life too as well. He did this by taking over my duties to allow me rest. He cleaned the whole house, did laundry, took out the trash, bought meals so I wouldn't have to cook, took me on dates and honored my love languages with excessive attention. I felt so incredibly nurtured back to life in his care and i got to see his caring side as he contributed to me. It deepened my love for him and now makes me want to give to him even more in appreciation and reciprocity.

The lesson I learned in this pause is that I am loved, deeply loved and sometimes I am going so fast that those who love me don't have a chance to show me just how much I mean to them. By slowing down and creating space to receive, I was surprised and moved by just how much people wanted to love on me and show gratitude. God it feels so good. This lesson alone gives me the desire to create more space in my life because receiving is so so amazingly healing.

As I start this week, I feel ready to jump into the stream of Life because the pause was anything but boring and a waste of time. I found myself, my balance and my people in this pause and as I said before, all synchronistically lined up with the full moon Libra.

As lovely as it would have been to say I planned and executed all of this to happen as it did....I did not. The Universe made it magically fit together so nicely and you know all that was required of me was only my trust and patience.

You may be wanting it to go your way...and it will...if you can only trust the Universe to work it out for you and be patient to receiving it.

This week I enter into gladly, fully rested and eager for new adventures because my cup runneth over. I am glad for the pause and I am ready to return full tilt to the amazing adventure of my life.

My wish for you this week is simple- that you start to appreciate the pauses in your life and look for the lessons that quietly appear. I am sure you will be just as mesmerized as I am by just how well the Universe knows you. All you gotta do is trust and receive.

You are limitless and you can have anything you want so live your life accordingly. If you are struggling with a pause right now in your life, contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful advice about what your pause means and help you look for the silver lining in this seemingly dark cloud. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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What's the rush?

Recently Spirit has been showing me patterns in human behavior and I (as the excellent writer I am!) have been observing and taking notes. One kept coming to the forefront as it pertained to my personal life in addition to the human observations. This pattern is the one of impatient timing.

The concept of timing is interesting. It is so ingrained in our society that we live our entire lives by timing- when we wake up, when we work, when we have weekends and when and how we fall in love all involves timing.

Living as a human, you understand and respond to timing very well. It is a necessary part of your day to day life. But we aren't just human.....we are souls having a human experience.

What does that mean? It means that you are a limitless being that has lived many lifetimes and yet here you are, trying to cram your life into a schedule. It makes no sense.

Timing is fear based and creates fear based thinking. Things like FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and "My biological clock is ticking!" constitute that kind of thinking.

These thoughts are counter productive to a person living and feeling good in the moment because it robs them of being present as their mind continuously concoct more timing situations to be acted upon. In essence it can keep people up at night with insomnia when they focus on just how much they are or are not doing.

As bad as this is, it gets worse as we force our idea of timing unto others. I have watched quietly as good people ruin good relationships because each person's timing was different to each other. I have seen too many women leave good men because he was happy with the relationship as it is and he wasn't ready to take it to the next level of moving in or proposing.

I myself was curiously surprised when it started happening to me. My beautiful partner and I recently moved in together and have been enjoying domestic bliss for the past month. As happy as we are in this moment, we both began to get bombarded with questions from well meaning acquaintances on our next steps. "When are you proposing to Uma?" and "When is the wedding?" keeps popping up. Even thought we both don't feel the need to rush the next steps, the unasked for guidance does bring a little dark cloud to our blissful happiness as it forces us to look to the next steps......which we both are not prepared to do at this moment. These few examples of time rushing situations lead me to ask this question to the Universe:

"Why can't we all just be happy as we are and as things are?"

What's the rush?

The rush.......is symbolic of people who live for the destination and not the journey.

Think about it....if you prefer the destination then the journey becomes intolerable and unbearable especially when things don't go your way.

You can absolutely do this if you want, remember all of life is a choice but my question to you is, "Are you completely happy in every moment of your life?"

And be honest with yourself.....when you arrive at your destination...are you happy or still wanting more?

My experience has been negative. When I use to live for the destination, it didn't matter how fast or efficiently I got to it because my mindset was wrong. So as soon as I got to a destination, I was already looking to the next one. I never rested and was never happy.

I lived that way until one day I decided to make a choice and change my mindset.

I explored what life would look like if I enjoyed the journey instead of the destination. It felt weird at first to be honest but in time, I got use to not knowing what my next steps were and learning how to be still and enjoy the moment as it presented itself. I learned what it meant to truly love myself by slowing my pace and enjoying every bit of this thing we call life.

And then? life became marvelous in the unknowing and trusting that things were always working out for me in the right time and I was always in the right place.

Here are three tips I consider when life is going too fast and I catch myself aiming for a destination instead of enjoying the journey. I hope they are as helpful to you as they were to me!

1) Refocus and Reset

Sometimes you can't help but become focused on the destination and then life feels like a constant struggle. When you find yourself looking/hoping/wishing for something in the future, catch it and acknowledge it. Then look to the moment you are in and think about what you can do to have some enjoyment.

I am excitedly getting ready for a family vacay in the summer with my partner and family but recently started running into problems thinking about financing that trip. It caused me so much stress that my hair started falling out! When I became aware of what I was doing, I acknowledge it and then reset my energy to enjoy my time in the here and now. I would say things to myself like, "Ok if we can't make this family trip, we can do it in a few months when we are more settled" or I would remind myself that the trip is not for a few months and there was still time for things to change so we can attend. I then turned my attention to enjoying the time with my family through calls and texts and more frequent check ins. I felt better instantly.

2) Limit Attention

Sometimes we do the opposite to what Law of Attraction requires for us to change a situation. We feel that if we keep thinking or obsessing about a thing, it will change for the better. Actually the opposite happens as we energetically push that thing further away from us.

If there is a goal you are working towards, think no more about it. Leave it alone and focus on things that bring you joy. If you can't help yourself, then allow a few short thoughts on the matter and leave it alone again. For instance, using my summer vacation as an example, if I really wanted to think about it- I could think of already being there and having fun at the pool with my family. I can see us laughing as we play games or enjoying the food with my love. Notice none of the thoughts involve ideas on how we get there or how things change to get us there.

I just focus on feeling good whether it's in the present time or envisioning the future goal.

3) Be Grateful

So many times we are running after desires that we perceive will make us happy but we neglect the things in our lives right now that give us a reason to be happy as well. If you feel so terrible about your life (no need for this mindset) then go basic in your gratitude. Here are 3 gratitude examples you can use:

- I am grateful that I live in a country that has running water and electricity

- I am grateful for the clothes that i have that allow me to show my personality

- I am grateful to have people in my life that love me and support me

My wish for you this week is simple- that you realize timing is a mind made construct and does not apply to you as a Soul. You are limitless and you can have anything you want so live your life accordingly. Use my tips above or contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful and healthy tips to begin to change the vibration in your life and manifest ease, joy and abundance. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Why do I attract toxic people? Part two!

This topic was soooooo good, we had to bring it back! So here we are, part II of "Why do I attract toxic people?"

Last week we talked about our core wounds that create an avenue for toxic people to come into our life. Here's a recap:

"Toxic people aren't choosy. They go to everyone. Those of us who let them in, have underlying abandonment issues not dealt with and their neediness of us is what we are craving and missing. We want their attention so we entertain them because negative attention is better than no attention at all."

This week we are going to focus on a paradox we create by our focused intention. As a spiritual mentor I come across many people who seek me out to find their life purpose. The conversation sounds like this, "Uma I have a life purpose to help people. I am here to be of service."

Firstly, let's address this. The concept of a life purpose....has been popularly misconstrued in the spiritual community. Somehow the idea of a life purpose has been tied to a job and usually a job in the metaphysical field. Who started sowing these seeds anyways?

From my own investigation, it is usually kick started by spiritual teachers greedy to line their own pockets. I can't tell you how many times I hear this, "Uma I had a reading and she told me I am supposed to be a medium. She gave me her card because she has a mentorship program and wants me to enroll but I don't know. I am not really called to it but I don't want to give up on my life purpose." This scare tactic sickens me so much that it makes me hesitate to mention my own programs to interested students in case they take it that way.

Stop.

Firstly, let's banish that concept of YOU needing to DO something for money to live your life purpose. What happens to people who die not having a meaningful career but have a meaningful presence in their children's lives?

You ARE living your life purpose! Each soul is incarnating to have their own experience and learn their own lessons in a personal way. Some souls make it big and may even learn their lessons as a celebrity but most of us are happy to learn our lessons and live quietly.

I know it is a popular concept to take a class or get your birth chart reading done to discover your life purpose but it is truly not needed. When I do a soul plan reading on a client, I never tell them their life purpose but instead I tell them based on their birth, what they naturally equipped with and what path they naturally gravitate towards; the rest is up to them.

So what does this talk have to do with attracting toxic people to your life? Follow me on this.

If you are a person that fell into the earlier category, this is how you attract toxic people:

Let's say you begin to believe that you have a life purpose to be a healer even though you had no desire prior to receiving a reading from someone who told you that.

You can then use the law of attraction to manifest needy people into your life so you can "heal" them. Happens too often.

I had a client who began his healer career this way and it didn't go as he expected. He was told he was to be a mighty shaman so he studied with the shaman who told him that and after spending a lot of money and time with the shaman, he decided to open his own business but it was met with low interest. He couldn't understand why so he booked me for my soul alignment coaching program. As we dug deep into his experiences, came to find out while he enjoys learning about healing, he had no desire to use it to help others...he was more interested in using it to help himself. However he felt a moral obligation to use it to help others because he didn't want to miss out on his life purpose. That pressure placed on him made this an unbearable path when it should have been one that brought him joy.

Not only that, but then he started having issues in his personal life as his relationships soured.

Here's the second truth now about how you can attract toxic people into your life.

If you are not meant to be a healer and you are manifesting a healer's path, then you will not be paid for the toxic people in your life. Instead you will attract them to be family with them, friend them and/or date/marry them.

Projecting a vibration of "Need Fulfillment" attracts needy people to you so you can fulfill your desire to heal them. Listen, even as a paid and professional healer, I don't wish this for myself! My personal life is meant to be happy, abundant and fruitful. My work is my work and it is seperate from my life. I also don't believe my career is the fulfillment of my life purpose- but what I do in my free time fulfills that.

This is the truth about your life purpose- you don't and will not be paid to live it. Your purpose is unique and personal to you. It has nothing to do with helping others and if you keep saying that, then you run the risk of creating an invitation for toxic people to enter your life.

It all comes down to our intentions. It is a misconception that we live to serve. Most of us don't. We like serving and it brings us emotional satisfaction to do so....don't tie it to a life purpose because you know why? when you feel obligated to DO something, then you create an uneasy energy imprint that goes out to the universe.

An old vibration of being a martyr is not required anymore. Most of us can live happily ever after by taking care of ourselves first and then tending to others when we can. The help will still be well received trust me.

Here are my tips about living a life of service if this is something you truly desire but also desire to cut down the toxic people in your life. As a spiritual teacher and CEO of a metaphysical center, my work is about service but I also have some things in place to ensure that toxic people aren't part of my day to day life. Here are my tips:

1) ME First Always

I take care of myself. If I have extra money, I am spending it on myself not donating it first. If I have a free hour in the day, I am using it for myself not someone else. By putting myself first, I make sure my needs are adequately taken care of so when it is time to give to someone else, I am full and have energy and love to spare. Most people are exhausted and running on fumes when giving to others. This martyr energy is so 19th century! There is no need for it anymore!

2) Know the Type

As a healer you will naturally attract people requiring healing. Before you let your guard down and let them into your personal life, take a pause and assess the situation. I meet people who want to be my friend but their personal habits deter me from wanting the same thing. Once I figure out what people's intentions are, I move them into the appropriate categories in my life.

3) Protect your Peace

You don't owe anyone time or talks if they offend you and disturb your peace. Become more vocal about what is acceptable and not tolerated in your life. I don't have energy to listen to my friends complain about other people. It's not that serious for me so I let me friends know I rather talk about other things and if they can't respect that, then I start to withdraw from their presence. We have limited time on earth, why would you ever want to spend it in negativity?

Protecting my peace means saying and doing things that sometimes go against the norm but I do it anyways. Why? I am here to enjoy life and I will do so on my own terms.

When we realize that the good and bad in our lives are created by our own thoughts and choices, we gain the power to do things differently. The toxic people in your life are there by your invitation so....rescind it. This is within your power to do.

My prayer for you this week is simple- that you honor and acknowledge all the ways you give away your own power and you remedy the situation. Use my tips above or contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful and healthy tips to begin to change the vibration in your life and manifest ease, joy and abundance. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Why do I attract toxic people?

Recently I was having a conversation with a friend who was lamenting on this question and asked me, "Uma why do I attract and keep attracting toxic people into my life? What is wrong with me? Why do I see the good in people and want to help them instead of walking away?"

It was a valid question. My beautiful friend recently came out of a toxic relationship with a man she believed to be true and real until it was discovered that he wasn't. She also left a best friend who she thought had her best interests at heart until she found out that she was doing the opposite in tearing her down and embarrassing her publicly.

She was, as she should be, fed up. I felt her sentiments.

Over the years I too have "attracted" toxic people into my life. People who used me, gaslighted me, lied to me, tricked me and disliked me but pretended to like me. It hurts two fold because first the actual discovery of these people as fake in your life is upsetting but the second hurt is the worst. The second hurt is our realization that we allowed that into our lives and the shame that follows.

At this point we all understand the power and law of Attraction. Nothing can come into our lives without our invitation and acceptance. So that means we attracted these people to us right? There is something wrong with us to want to readily inflict harm on ourselves? Are we monsters?

No we are not. We are human.

Here is the answer to many situations of many people inviting toxic people into their lives. Be easy on yourself and understand the root cause. The root cause is this:

Toxic people aren't choosy. They go to everyone. Those of us who let them in, have underlying abandonment issues not dealt with and their neediness of us is what we are craving and missing. We want their attention so we entertain them because negative attention is better than no attention at all.

I had both my parents growing up but they traveled a lot. I was left with a babysitter more times than I can recount, so much so that my babysitter started calling me her daughter and she felt like a second mom to me. Even though she gave me enough attention, I missed the attention of my parents and especially my dad who was never present, even when he was in the house. I grew up always seeking attention from a man specifically because of this dynamic.

I was so willing to entertain the negative behaviors of my partners because in one week of arguing, there could be 2 days of peace. 2 days of him wanting me, wanting to hear from me, missing me, needing me. It sounds sad as I type it but that is the reality of my relationship life for many years.

So when more toxic people poured into my life, I had already gotten use to turning my red flag signal off for my man, so it remained off for them too. Welcome in everyone.

If you identify with this message and you feel doomed, don't be. I write to you from a much better place. It has been a few years of peace in my life. I am surrounded by loving friends and family who wish well for me and my man is a super star in kindness, love and affection. They all meet my need for love and attention in healthy ways. So if I can do it you can too.

Here is my advice for those of you wishing to overcome your original abandonment wounds and live a life with shiny, happy people not toxic people. This is my advice based on what I did and what happened for me so if it doesn't resonate, that's ok, take what you can and leave the rest.

1) Be patient. Having the realization that you are the cause of the toxicity in your life is well....it is humbling and your first instinct may be to feel shame. Feel it and release it. Remind yourself that this happens to a large percent of the population and it doesn't mean you are weak...it means the law of attraction is well at work. It means that you have a strong desire to be a part of partnerships and relationships and the universe is responding to you. Now it is just a matter of cleaning up your vibration so you attract to you what you truly desire not what you are haphazardly thinking about. Cleaning up your vibration is what I excel at by the way! ;)

2) "Vet" people better as my partner would say. What he means is spend more time asking questions and getting to know people before investing your time and energy and trust in them. I have a rule of thumb that I don't confide anything personal in a person unless I have been rocking with them for over a year and they have consistently been the same person. A year is a long time for someone to wear a mask so it is bound to come off. Let it come off and then decide for yourself if this person is worth investing in.

3) Be accountable for your desires. When someone's mask comes off and you still want them in your life, pause. Take a loooooong pause and remind yourself to be accountable. Have a conversation like this with yourself, "Now Uma you just found out this person is lying to you. I know your beautiful heart is willing to forgive them and let it go but you are letting down your soul and your mind who knows you all deserve more respect than that. So we will start to withdraw quietly from this person and turn our attention elsewhere."

My 3 little tips may or may not help you as you meet new people. If it doesn't? Please be kind and remind yourself that you are a work in progress. Trust that one day you will make it to a place where it will be easy to see things as they are and not as you want to see them. You will make it there, of this I am sure because I am here and I know you can be here too.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The art and lesson of receiving

A funny thing I learned within the past few months.....I was not open to receiving my blessings.

See I had spent such a long time asking for things that I rarely spent time receiving them. So now the tables have turned and I receive....a lot. A whole lotta lot.

Did you know it is an uncomfortable feeling especially when you are not used to receiving?

It happened slowly. First when a few good things started happening for me, I felt lucky or like the stars aligned for me to have this good fortune. I still believed that my living experience was determined by outside forces.

Then my manifestations became more rampant and a few were manifesting at the same time. I felt anxious and afraid that something would go wrong. I didn't trust this simple and easy process of having a desire and then seeing it come true. My distrust was the biggest shadow emotion I had to work through as I entered this new phase of receiving. I had to believe that I deserved good things and everyone does too.

When my manifestations started manifesting within a quick timeframe (make an ask and receive the fulfillment of the ask within hours) I knew that life required me to be a whole different type of person to exist in this beautiful alignment space. I had to let go of all lower emotions and get use to living in an abundant Universe. That took time.

Sometimes our manifestations don't come true because we aren't ready to receive. In essence, we stop ourselves. My suggestion is to start to prepare your way to be ready to receive the delivery of your desires. Here are my three tips below:

1) Learn to Receive

Be grateful for every single wish made and seen in your life. Start small such as enjoying the win when you ask for a parking space and you get it. Learn to sit in that moment and feel it completely. Replay it in your mind and allow your body to get use to feeling the joy of receiving something asked for. It's a rush to be sure!

2) Don't Label Quickly

When we experience emotions we seldom feel, it is important to take notice of it and not define it by a past experience. In the beginning of my receiving graces, I would get so excited that I mislabeled it as anxious feelings. I wasn't anxious, waiting for something to go wrong as I did in the past....instead I realized i was happy and feeling excitement at the impending delivery of my requests. I had to learn how to read my body's feelings differently as I got use to the new level I was at. Don't be quick to label something, instead work through it and try to see it from a higher perspective.

3) Feel the Fear and Do it Anyways

We were not meant to be born and die living in our comfort zones. We were meant to continually ask for things and have Source deliver it to us based on the clarity of our thought, the belief in our ask and the faith in the process. When you feel afraid to take your next step or ask for your next desire, that is a good sign. It means you are asking for more and outside your comfort zone. It indicates growth and courage.

These tips and more I share with my coaching clients when we work to get them into a space of alignment so they can receive whatever they desire. Its a funny thing though, the more I work with people, the more I understand just how toxic and unhealthy our past programming has been. It has completely taken us off the path of true alignment and living the lives we desire and that's a shame.

Now that I am living my best life with ease, peace and joy, I desire everyone to have this kind of freedom and happiness for themselves. And it's so easy too- change your mindset and unleash in your world. You deserve it as much as I do.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The #1 tip to living with ease and peace

I have it. I found the secret formula to everlasting happiness and joy. That will be $500 for the secret please.

I kid! I kid! The funny thing is, the secret to living with ease and peace has been talked about and shown by gurus and sages throughout the ages. It has been written about and shared from one peaceful person to the next stressed person. It is something I talk about on a daily basis.

It is the Path of Least Resistance.

The Path of Least Resistance simply states in terms of human behavior do what feels light and fun for you to do. When you do things that feel good to you to do, it requires the least energy from you. Think about it.

If you come home to your young child spilling juice in the kitchen, what is easier for you to do? Yelling and screaming at them first then cleaning up the juice or forgiving them (as you see the fear in their eyes) and cleaning up the juice?

In the moment it may feel like the easiest thing to do would be yelling and screaming. It might even feel healing! But afterwards you would still require energy to deal with the shame or guilt you might experience after for yelling at a child.

So how do you practice the path of least resistance? Well it requires a few but simple steps:

1) First take a pause. When you are in the middle of a situation that makes you feel sad or angry or uncomfortable, don't react. Pull your senses in from the situation and assess yourself. Ask yourself questions like, "how am I feeling in this situation?" and "how would I like to feel?"

2) After your pause then figure out ways to make you feel better to get to the place you want to feel. For instance if you feel angry and you want to feel calm, you can focus on ideas or behaviors that make you feel calm. For myself personally, coloring and playing puzzles keep me calm so in intense situations I tend to get on my phone to play puzzles or color in my coloring book.

3) Trust in the process. When you are taking the path of least resistance, you aren't focusing anymore on the problem. You are trusting in the timing of the Universe and the delivery of the solution when the time is right. It may feel uncomfortable in the beginning but in time it gets better

Let me give you an example that happened just this week. One morning I woke up late and didn't get to do my daily morning meditation. I came down to my office and opened a comcast bill for my center and it was $300! I immediately and instinctively freaked out. I then gave myself a few minutes to run through in my head all the worst case scenarios (hello anxiety) and then I took a breath and calmed down. I put the comcast bill to the side because to deal with it now in my heightened state would only create more drama around it. I put my attention on other things I had to do but that I enjoyed doing- creating my daily IG posts, advertising my classes etc....

Later that evening, after spending a day doing things I enjoy doing and working on resetting my energy, I then brought back my attention to the comcast bill. I thought then about all the positive situations that could come from this and then called Comcast. Their automated line gave me my balance and it was $20.89. See one of the positive situations I envisioned was that the paper bill was a mistake and when I called in, the automated would tell me my real bill amount. And so it was.

Everything in this Universe is vibrational and intentional not factual. What we see with our own eyes and hear with our own ears can be manipulated by following the law of Vibration. Simply put, raise your vibration and then you raise the standards you live in. It sounds like a lot of work but it really isn't and it is something I teach my clients to do in my four week coaching packages.

Take control of your energy and you will take control of the world you live in.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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