The Greatest Gift I Gave my Kids

This week I was reminded of how precious life has been with my children. They truly are the apple of my eyes and my life has been insanely blessed because of them. I adore my kids, can you tell? :)

I have been in a reminiscing mood because recently I had an incident in my household that kinda shook the foundation. Oh not mine! The foundation of my kids I meant.

Recently my children were exposed to the cruelty of their grandfather through a series of texts. It shocked them because they couldn't believe their beloved grandfather could be so hateful. I was sorry...not sorry that he was exposed but sorry that my children had to experience the deep emotion of disappointment.

Well we as parents are the bringer of experiences are we not? What I perceived as a cruelty was in fact a kindness because it came attached with the gift of a lesson. The lesson which was quite simply, Trust what you feel despite what others do.

See my children knew a little bit about my estrangement from my parents but they never really knew why. By them having to experience what I routinely was use to as a child gave them a new found perception of family dynamics and ultimately made them understand their mom more. A truly bonding experience....all thanks to my father.

Some who know my story have sympathized with me and I appreciate that. I am ready to close the doors on the past though because in my children, my future is looking brighter.

The way my child handled the situation made me proud. He knew his ethics and morals and understood what felt right to him. I told him that was the only way to go- you have to trust what you feel despite what others do. This was his first lesson in manipulation and I am glad I was there to explain it to him.

This week I feel grateful for the good and bad experiences that make up my life. I am appreciative of the people who bring me both pleasure and pain. It is in the duality that I found my peace and my path. Stay true to yourself and don't be swayed by others.

Until next time, have a namaste!

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Handling Online Bullying-3 Tips to Move Through it easily

I woke up this morning to someone sending me a screenshot of my face on an account that was not mine. I have been sabotaged lol.

I guess someone made a whole account on the streaming site I am on to troll me. Jokes on them because I don't take their actions personally. In fact I reposted the picture of me on my IG story to show that I am not afraid. I knew what I was getting into when I became a social media personality and this just comes with the territory.

I wasn't always like this of course. When I first began livestreaming on Facebook and Youtube in my earlier days, I got trolled and it took me down....sometimes for weeks because my mental health wasn't as strong as it is now.

I guess time and knowledge grew my inner strength so when things like this happen, I respond with logic not emotions. I've done my inner work to resolve past pains so things like this don't trigger me as much.

Things don't have to be as dramatic as it can be. Peace can reign over drama.

My friends have been noticing my peaceful side more recently and they ask me, "Uma how can you forgive someone who hurts you?"

You just do.

I have some tips to move past people who bully you. Hopefully it helps you as much as they have helped me. Let me know!

1) Don't take things Personally

The Four Agreements is one of those inspirational books that gave me the outlook on life- don't take it personally. Written by Don Miguel Ruiz, it outlines four simple principles to follow to lead a healthy life. I read this book a decade ago but since becoming a livestreamer, I have been relearning the principles again as life forces me to remember.

If someone bullies you, it speaks more about their character than yours so don't take it personally when they lash out. They clearly have issues and time on their hands to dedicate so much energy to you....in fact, take it as a compliment. You are the center of their attention so that's pretty cool in a way!

2) You are Doing Something

I once had a woman tell me that dogs don't bark at parked cars! That simple sentence changed my perspective greatly. People aren't paying attention to you when you are not succeeding in life because you are not a threat.

The minute you start elevating your life and becoming more successful, the haters come out because they can't stand to see someone else do what they could have done.

Today when I saw that fake profile of me, I actually smiled because I said, "Wow! I am definitely making it now! Someone wants to be a fan of me! " It touched me that I triggered someone so much that they had to take action. Imagine if I could trigger more people like this, we could have changed consciousness on a worldwide level!

The next time someone trolls you, remember what I said: dogs don't bark at parked cars! You are going places and that is something more to focus on.

3) You can't change!

My partner gave me the lyrics to Jay Z's Success Song and it goes like this:

Your success took a shot at you
What are you gonna to do now?
How are you gonna kill it?
You're gonna become unsuccessful?

It made so much sense. Even if I was to feel defeated by someone else's actions, what could I do about it? The only way to satisfy a hater is to fail....who in the world will allow that to happen to make someone else happy? The concept is ridiculous,

The only action for you is to keep going, keep striving so eventually one day you do make it to your destination. I heard the view there is great and keeps you far away from the haters.

This week your homework is simple, don't take it personally when someone hurts you. Try to see what the underlying reason is and if you can't figure it out, forgive them anyways. Sometimes they just wanna be you.

Until next time, have a namaste!

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It starts with stillness...

I love what I do as a Soul Alignment Coach because it gives me the space to meet ordinary people that do extraordinary things. I want to dedicate this blog to one of these clients and we will call her Anna to protect her identity.

Anna is a successful 30 something beautiful woman with a good head on her shoulders and extremely good business sense. She has made a career for herself and has a full life with her pets, friends and life! However Anna like most successful young women...get in their own way of enjoying the life they created and developing healthy mindsets that allow them to thrive.

When I met Anna I wasn't sure I could help her. If a client is very headstrong or resistant to change, sometimes it's best for both of us not to work together but Anna is different. Even though she is a strong personality, she was also curious and eager to try something different so I took a chance and enrolled her in my four week Soul Alignment Coaching program. I am glad I did!

Last week Anna told me that she had a great week! She manifested so many things that she wanted for her life but it was a long time in the making....try ten years! That's how long she has been paying student loans off and within two weeks of manifesting and setting her energy, she received her loan forgiveness letter which wiped out the remaining debt! She also manifested some romantic possibilities and other career goals were met.

You are probably wondering, "Uma what did you do?" And I would tell you absolutely nothing. This was all Anna.

Funnily enough Anna did not give herself credit after all of that. I had to remind her that these manifestations were not the result of the government or society but her! Just her tuning in to the silence every day, focusing her thoughts and staying in alignment.

The idea of sitting in stillness can be frightening for some but if you can just lean into it, I promise you it will not be so bad. Here are some of my recommendations for starting a meditation practice:

1) Go up in Increments of 5 minutes

Set your alarm to go off in 5 minutes when you start your meditation practice. When you feel comfortable sitting for that time, go up to 10 minutes. Increase only when you feel comfortable. Ideally you are aiming to meditate 15-20 minutes per day.

2) Be Consistent

Do your best to show up everyday at the same time in the same place to meditate. This allows your mind to get comfortable with the consistency and in time, you will retrain your brain to look forward to your daily sessions.

3) Be Patient

We have had these negative mindsets and wrong programming for AWHILE! Rome wasn't built in a day so I need you to give yourself grace and time to make changes. If you fail, forgive yoursef and try again. It will be ok! Just don't ever give up and in time you will achieve freedom from your past.

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Leaving the Imprisonment Behind

I am going to take you on a little journey within your imagination but trust me when I say, I have a point to make! We just need to take a little excursion for us to understand what I am about to speak on.

Imagine you have been wrongfully detained in a mental asylum You aren't crazy but everyone determines that you are so they lock you in an asylum to "get right".

Imagine being the only sane person in an insane asylum. What do you think would happen? In the beginning you would understandably resist. You would try to get the insane people to listen to logic but they wouldn't. The same with the authority figures. You would probably try to explain that this was a mistake and you didn't need to be here. No matter how much you talk, reason or scream, they wouldn't listen to you.

Eventually after weeks and months of being in this situation you will eventually wear down and actually do something you never thought you would....you will join them and then pretty soon the insane doesn't look so insane anymore. This is your new norm.

Sounds like a made up story right? What if I told you this is the story for many who are sensitive. Sensitive people are people who are highly sensitive empaths that have psychic and mediumship abilities.

Their deep connection to Source allows them to have a strong self awareness quality and they can also use this intelligence to gain awareness about others too. Think about yourself- do people always come to you with their personal information? Do random strangers strike up a conversation with you? Have you been told you are an old soul?

You may be a sensitive and if so, you probably feel like you don't fit it anywhere-with your family, your job, your friends....ever felt like the black sheep? You are a sensitive that's why!

So what do you do? Do you just commit to the system and go insane with everyone else? NO! You are actually here to rally against the system and to keep speaking your truth. In time other sensitives will find you and guess what? They will have the same truth as you-one of a higher vibration than the insane people.

This week I ask you for three things:

1) Find a spiritual community or at least somewhere you fit in with other like minded individuals. If you exist in an insane asylum by yourself it can be scary....with friends it is more fun! Also it is nice to have people who get you! Join a local center and take some classes! This is the best way to form new friends!

2) Find a mentor and start to learn who you truly are. You are not insane, you are not of this world and you are in fact here to change this world. Get busy! For me, I do work with clients in a one on coaching program called my 4 Week Soul Alignment Program. (If you do decide to go with me, I have a special on the program taking $333 off the total cost! )

3) Trust and Follow your Own Instincts-you know what you know and you are here to share what you know with others...trust it! Don't let the system break you down!

It brought me so much freedom to finally understand that I was NOT CRAZY! I very much have sense and that is why I am able to see things others can't. I hope this information makes you feel free too. So many of us have walked around with the burden of not fitting in and I just want you to know you are not crazy, you are one of us. So start living that life and see how you take off. I can't wait to hear the stories!

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Getting in our Own Way

I have spent decades learning and relearning metaphysical knowledge all to get to understand the meaning of life and how to create a life worth living. Do you know the main thing I took away after all those years of learning? The main reason the majority of us aren't enjoying life is because we get in our own way!

The only problem with your life is the way you think about it. Most of your unhappiness comes from a lack of appreciation for what you do have and an intense focus on the things you don't have. Welp....Law of Attraction says this is a recipe for disaster!

Flip it and you have a better outcome, meaning focus on the things you do have and ignore the things that aren't here...yet.

When I work with my coaching clients, I teach them how to rewire their thoughts process because the solution to most of their problems just requires a simple change in their mindset. For example, I have a saying that I have my clients memorize: Your Thoughts do not create My Reality!

When my clients understand that people's opinions are largely projections of how they see themselves in the situation, they are better able to let go of giving importance to other people's thoughts.

Here are some other ways we get in our own way:

1) You are mentally lazy

You know the benefits of meditation and mindfulness but yet you wouldn't put in the effort to learn or practice it. There is no other reason besides being lazy and not making this a priority. What if I told you that meditating everyday will bring in an annual income of a million dollars. Would you do it then? Of course you would! Well funnily enough, meditating everyday will bring you more than that so stop being lazy and get out there and meditate! Of course if you need help you can turn to meditation coaching (hit me up!) or take classes if needed.

2) You are comfortable staying in the comfort zone

You would rather remain comfortable in uncomfortable situations than do something and make a change. Fearing change is futile as all of life changes all the time. You can train yourself to get more acquainted with change so that lessens the fear you feel. The fear of change is irrational and as long as you keep fearing change, you will have to exist in uncomfortable situations.

3) You do not evolve your Self Image

As I said earlier, everything changes in life especially you. If you keep trying to be who you use to be then evolution will not come. Allow growth in and it is ok to let go of traditions or patterns or people that no longer interest you. Don't be ashamed for wanting more or wanting different, this is part of life too. Nothing lasts forever, not even the old image of who you used to be.

I know for most of us, we have inner turmoil caused by earlier life trauma but it doesn't have to keep you from moving forward. Get the help you need! You got unresolved issues? Get a therapist! You have no direction in life? Get a soul alignment coach! Need help making your life easier? Get an accountability partner! Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help because there are many people wanting to help you for free or in exchange for payment. Just DO something and stop getting in your own way.

This week I am asking you to take a hard look at your life and analyze whether you get in your own way or not. If you have been feeling the same symptoms/issues for the past 5-10-20-30 years maybe it's time to elicit help from someone else if you haven't been able to solve them on your own. There is no shame in reaching out but there is plenty of disappointment if you allow simple things to block you that you could have easily resolved with the help of someone else.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Overwhelment means Something

I am overwhelmed and have been for the past few months. Sometimes I feel like i am drowning in massive fears, worries and the unknown and like I can't breathe with the weight of so much responsibility placed on me.

Responsibility that comes with the titles of mother, daughter, sister, partner, friend, employer and social media personality. I feel sometimes like I am being pulled in various directions and have no time for myself or to do the things I love to do.

And you know why I feel comfortable writing this? Because most of you know EXACTLY how I feel.

But all is not lost in this dark and dreary place....in fact, it is the path you have been searching for to lead you to better places...you just gotta go through the discomfort of change and transitions.

As a Capricorn I get impatient with change and want things done right away. Of course I understand the Law of Attraction and the reasons behind why some things take time and others manifest quite easily. Despite knowing all of that my emotions get the best of me from time to time and I can lose my cool about it.

It is times like this that I take a moment to pause and feel my way into my situations. What is really going on here? I have been a Spiritual Coach long enough to know that whatever is appearing to bother us is never the real reason for interference.....most likely it is something deeper.

Take for instance this feeling of overwhelmed that I am feeling. At a glance it looks like I just have too many things on my plate and I am overworked. But if I dig deeper I can find the positive aspect of overwhelment and it is Self Belief.

Self Belief is the understanding that you have what it takes to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself. If you feel overwhelmed, you can feel you are so close to accomplishing what you desire but the rush of emotions and excitement can easily be mistaken for fear or panic.

Learn to interpret your feelings and understand what your Soul is saying to you.

This is the cornerstone of the work I do with my coaching clients- unwrapping their fears and deprogramming their definitions of what they are feeling and repackaging it in better, high vibrational emotions.

It takes work but it can be done!

After I took some time to meditate and decompress, I looked into my own overwhelmed feelings and I realized that there are several things in my life I am SUPER EMPOWERED and EXCITED about but because they were all happening at the same time it became fearful for me. I also realize that there was another issue I wasn't fully integrating into my knowing and it was causing me some distress.

SO what did I do? I made a schedule to tackle the stuff that is moving me ahead and called my therapist for the stuff holding me back. Done and Done!

Your body is always talking to you through your physical, mental and emotional symptoms. Learn to read them and this week refuse to accept the negative thoughts in your mind as truth. Train yourself to see the light because when you do, the world shifts in your favor. Of course, if you need a little mindset reset help, I am here for you! Book me for a free discovery call and let's see how we can work together!

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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You don't need to heal from it...You need to understand it

I was recently asked to be interviewed for a podcast interview series and the question posed was intriguing enough for me to answer it. The question was, "What do you see as a changing trend in your community?"

I am a part of the metaphysical spiritual community where the general community believes in the natural laws of the Universe (think Law of Attraction), energy healing and psychic abilities. I have been in this field over 14 years professionally and over 30 years personally. I have seen firsthand the many changes that have occurred in this community but the biggest one to date is seeing the shift in healing for clients.

When I started, Reiki was a big and common modality as healers used it to bring energetic healing to their clients. Energetic healing was the buzz word in the early 1980s and it became a lucrative business because .....well....everyone had some form of trauma to heal from. Whether it was early childhood, past life or karmic cycles, people were flocking to the Reiki healers and healers of other trades to be healed permanently.

The boom was successful but it slowly petered out....why? Because there is something better than energy healing. I love Reiki and am in fact a Reiki Master Teacher so I believe in the work of Reiki. Reiki is a Japanese energy healing modality that invites in universal energy to a client for betterment and healing of emotional, mental, physical and spiritual issues. It works but despite the best sessions, a client always comes back.

Think of Reiki like gas, it fuels a car and the car runs great until it runs out. If you are not maintaining your reiki flow of energy (self healing or seeing a healer) then it can run out and you can return to the issues you had before.

The industry's leading lightworkers and practitioners noticed this trend and so the collective conscious was blessed with the question: What can be better than energy healing?

The answer was mindset reset work. We started to see the shift from energy work to mental work with modalities such as hypnosis, past life regressions and access bars....all of which I do!

The mindset reset techniques understand that key concept which says, "Your thoughts create your Reality". Following that logic, it is understandable that people need to have the right mindset to essentially live this life.

So a practitioner could learn the arts of mindset reset work to bring clarity not healing to a client. This was the shift- when practitioners started realizing, "It wasn't that they needed to heal from a situation...it was that they needed to understand it."

Once understood, the person is well equipped with their own survival instincts to make the necessary shifts to bring about better outcomes. Brilliant yet so simple- change your thoughts to positive if you want to have a great life.

I too followed the trends and change in my industry and while I still give and teach energy healing modalities like Reiki and IET, I focus more on one on one soul alignment coaching sessions to get clients to do the mindset reset work.

Change your thoughts, change your life! Now that is the key to manifesting your dreams.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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3 Tips to Handle Conflict in Relationships

This past weekend there must have been some planetary movements happening (mercury gatorade?) because it felt like 95% of the coaching/reading sessions I gave were focused on people having relationship issues. Ayee Caramba!

The main question over the weekend was, "Does _____ still love me?" and that question was usually followed by similar questions of, "Will _______ come back?".

Unlike other psychics, I don't dismiss a person just because they are out of the picture, I see the beauty in separation and if you can too, then life becomes easier when you interact with others.

Think about this for a second. You are a complicated individual. You have your likes, your wants, your needs, your must haves and your heck no attitude about everything! Guess what? so do they.

You also have your hurts, your pains, your disappointments and setbacks in life.....just like another person.

Take that concept and multiply it by a billion people on this planet and you have the cocktail for relationships. Everyone has their list of do's and don'ts, joys and trauma.....you just can't take it personally when they are paying attention to their list. Aren't you after all...doing the same thing?

I will say that getting into relationships are harder these days because the general energy today is of expenditure than savings. There is a classic IG post going around that says, "I belong to a generation where if it is broke, you fix it. You belong to a generation where if it is broke, you replace it."

I say this because it is my sincere belief that relationships that are mended after a painful incident have a better chance of lasting than others. This isn't limited to love relationships, I mean this for all of them! Your friendships or family ones too. as well as career partnerships.

If you are like me and you want to be an open vessel of love to everyone in your life, including those that hurt you, then you are in luck today. First I have to tell you that I am ECSTATIC that you want to repair the broken relationships in your life. People are important and if they have a bond or spent time with you, then they are meant to be a part of your life. Honoring them and your relationships with them is a form of self love. You honor yourself when you see everyone in a beautiful and forgiving light. You practice love when you choose to forgive rather than harbor pain.

Whenever I have a falling out with a friend or end a relationship, I always leave an open door UNLESS the person caused me bodily or mental/emotional harm. If none of those were done, then there is an open door back into my life after a period of contemplation.

You might be wondering, "Uma how can you forgive people after they hurt you?" Well for starters, I don't take them back right away. A small period of absence serves both of us and after that time, I am open to communication to decide how best we move forward again. Sometimes a relationship is resumed and sometimes the relationship changes format. For instance, an ex boyfriend may come back and after communication, we decide its best for us to stay friends in this new chapter.

Here are some tips I follow when I have a falling out with a loved one. I practice these three tips during the absence and allow the energy of these suggestions to soothe me.

1) Space is Healing

The first thing that happens mostly when two people have a falling out is one or both parties require space. Now if you have codependency or attachment issues, separation can be seen or felt as painful because you can't focus your energy on anything else besides that person. You may have abandonment issues or feel left out if you are not a part of that person's life anymore but trust me when I say, space is normal and healing in a relationship.

When you have love and trust of someone, your emotions can be deeply attached to them so when things go wrong, you can feel a lot of intensity in the moment. Taking space gives you each a chance to disconnect and reflect on where things went wrong. If your loved one is accountable and mature, they will see the role they played in bringing the end of the relationship.....as you should too. It takes two people to make a thing go right as the song goes so in the space, focus less on the other person and what they are doing or could be doing and focus more on the part you played in the downfall in the relationship.

If you use the space apart wisely which means to heal yourself then if the other person comes back, you will be in the right receptive mode to have honest and open communication with them about future plans.

2) Change your Perspective

If you and your loved one had a falling out, the time before, during and right after it is focused on YOU. How you feel, what you want and where you want it to go. During the time apart, I challenge you to take another step- try seeing things from their perspective. Yes you know how you feel but can you try to imagine what it was like for them?

Every single time I do this, I am immediately filled with regret over my actions and compassion for my loved one because I understand and can see the bigger picture. I couldn't see it before because I was too emotional but again, the power of space is that it allows the emotions to cool down and let logic in.

Putting yourself in someone else's shoes remind you that not everyone is "out to get you". That's just your anxiety talking. Everyone has their reason for doing what they do and most times it comes from a place of self interest. When you take the time to see things from someone else's perspective you are actually operating on a spiritual level. Stay on this level because in the grand scheme of things, we are meant to be lovers not fighters of each other.

3) Trust What You Know

This last point is crucial. You have to stop giving away your power in your life by listening to other people and trusting what you know about yourself and your loved one. No one else is living your life, they have the highlight reel and you have the whole experience. Just as you wouldn't trust someone else with your whole paycheck, don't trust others to make decisions for you.

When I have a falling out with a loved one I immediately tell our mutual friends, don't tell me anything! Whatever that person is doing with their life, I don't need or want to know because it doesn't concern me.

Remember immediately following a breakup, people are emotional and prone to making emotional decisions that may be reckless or hurtful to you. It is best to avoid them until the smoke clears and logic returns.

When I was younger I actually prefer it when my exes blocked me on social media after a breakup because i know me and I know I would be watching their social media like a hawk! Now in my mid 40s, I have way more self restraint and I don't need to be blocked because I have trained myself to not go to their social media to check up on thm.

What propels me to do this? My self love and my knowing. I know my loved one loves me and I know they are hurting so whatever they do in the aftermath is not my concern. My interest is only in our connection so I wait until things are calmer before I reach out or they reach out to check to see where we are at with it.

If someone slips up and tells me what they are doing and its hurtful, I remind myself that everyone is human and prone to making mistakes. I would hate to be judged when I fail so I try to suspend judgment on them too.

As you get older you realize that having good quality people around you is more important than having quantity so you tend to fight to keep good people in your life rather than let them walk away.

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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When bad things happen-Is it me Attracting this?

This week has been stressful from the jump! Don't you hate that? When everything hits at once and you feel your world spinning out of control?

That's where I am at......everything "bad" is hitting at once and I feel lost. For now.

My Paypal account is in the negative because I am having an issue with a client who signed an agreement and paid for a program but then changed her mind. As I sort this through legally with her, my funds are unavailable for the time being until I can get it sorted. That's #1.

Over the weekend I got an email from my hotel chain thanking me for booking a room in North Carolina. How wonderful! Except I didn't book it! My account was hacked and someone stole my points. That's #2.

Then I had a falling out with a friend that was so bad we had to separate and part ways from each other to protect our individual peace. This person (as much as I know they love me) started to lash out in anger and decided to do demeaning things to try to paint me as a bad person to our mutual friends and family. Tragic. That's #3.

How do you cope when you feel the beautiful world you created is falling apart? How do you see the good in people when they are doing things to harm you? How do you remain positive when everything seems so negative?

You trust and believe that everything will get better eventually.

100% of my Success comes from my determination to see the positive in life no matter what. When I was a young girl, people thought I was naive because I just choose to remain optimistic in bad times. Turns out, I was practicing Law of Attraction at a young age!

How come I got it when no one else around me did? Because I maintained my connection with Spirit so I heard clearly time and time again, "Just Love Uma Just Love."

So that's what I do, I just love myself and hold space for those around me as best as I can.

Today I share with you the coping mechanisms I use to get me through these tough times I listed above. Of course it may be hard to institute if you haven't really taken control of your mindset and thoughts but trust me, despite all the bad things happening, I am able to keep my focus on staying positive so if I can do it, so can you.

1) Be Patient

Resolving a dispute with an unhappy client does not happen overnight. It takes time as the credit card company and Paypal review the evidence provided by each party. This is not the time to stress out or worry. If you know you haven't done anything wrong, then relax! It will work out in your favor. This is the time to focus on other things going on in your life and turn away from this situation. Being patient allows you to ease the stress and worry vibes you send out therefore preventing the Law of Attraction working negatively in your favor.

Practicing patience is a hard one for people because we do live in a fast paced first world country where we are used to getting everything we want right away. Don't be mad at yourself if you become impatient or work yourself up over these issues. Do things to distract you from your pain. Meditate, workout, take a walk outside in nature, hang with your friends. Do whatever you need to do to distract yourself from this situation and you will see, in time it will resolve in your favor.

2) Don't Retaliate

When someone is angry with you, ignore them. I promise it works! If you engage with an angry person, their words and actions will only hurt you. Whatever they say or do is out of anger not a correct representation of who they are. Jesus said it best when he said love them anyways. My friend has their own reasons to be mad at the world right now, so as much as it hurts me to hear negative things about myself, I know this is not my friend. The best thing I can do is distance myself and take care of me while simultaneously praying for their betterment and good health.

I know you might say, "But Uma! They are spreading lies about me to everyone!" Trust me, as a social media personality, I have been here before! I have had people record me or post my private text messages online in an effort to embarass me but can I tell you something? They can't embarrass you if you were being who you truly are. I took my friend food because I knew they were hungry and they decided to record me without makeup (and lack of sleep) and send it to everyone we knew. I didn't care. When people called to check on me, I told them I was ok with it because I was there for the right reasons- to help someone even if they were not appreciative.

When you don't retaliate, the actions of the other person speak for itself. As I told my friend who later complained to me that everyone was mad at them for doing what they did (and of course they blamed me for that), I reminded them that was their own doing. People view you differently when you have the intent to hurt which they did. People are going to be mad at them not you because they can see you caring and the other person being destructive. Trust in the good nature of people to see right from wrong. Even if they don't and they side with the person hurting you, that is positive for you as well. Why? Because it shows you who rather believe beautiful lies instead of living with the ugly truth. I don't know about you, but I can do without delusional people in my life.

3) Stay Positive

All this stuff happened to me between Saturday-Monday and I refused to be sucked into it. I stayed positive, I went to bed earlier, meditated more and focused on the work I had to do and guess what? By Tuesday I had two big WINS! A beautiful soul joined my Lotus Center on Tuesday and will now be renting from me as she provides her light to the world AND I hit 1000+ followers on TikTok allowing me to create another revenue stream. Wednesday I got a check in the mail for a refund! How does it get better than that?

Life is merely your perception. If you stay committed to seeing everything working out for you, then no matter what happens, it has to happen exactly that way. Trust me on this.

If you want to work more with the Law of Attraction and learn how to do these mindset reset techniques with me, contact me about my Manifestation Coaching Program! I work with you over the course of four weeks to retrain your brain to only see the positive in everything you are going through! Who knows, you may be able to see a turnaround within 24 hours the way I did!

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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When you Know....You Can Flow

When people think of psychic abilities, mostly they think of how cool it is to help others by giving information that could change their lives. Possibly but I hold a different viewpoint. After spending the last 14 years doing over 13,000 readings for other people, I have come to my own conclusion of the #1 reason to be a psychic and it's not about other people.

It's about me.

We are all equipped with intuition and gut instinct because these are the senses that help us CREATE our path forward. Somewhere along the life span we lost the general gist of who we are and why we originally came here. Ahem, let me remind you quickly:

We are here for the experience of living nothing more nothing less.

And yet, despite us all coming for the same reason, we have different requirements for what that living experience looks like. That is why someone else can't tell us our path...we have to find it and guess what we are equipped with to do that?

You guessed it....our intuition and gut instinct.

This past weekend I was reminded WHY I love following my intuition and doing what I do, because when the Universe gives you confirmation that you are on the right path, it is the best feeling in the world. So euphoric! Orgasmic even!

Ok so what happened over the weekend Uma? Right let me get to it.

Recently I have been debating slowing down on some work requirements because my busy schedule doesn't allow me the time to do everything. I was thinking of letting my newsletter go because I rarely get feedback on it and I never know if people who sign up for classes or services with me come from the newsletter or my other advertising methods.

As I was debating letting my newsletter go, I had the strong urge not to! I felt like I needed to send the newsletter out for the week (even though it was a couple of days late) and just leave the topic alone for now. So I did just that.

IMAGINE my surprise when I held a class on Saturday and a student THANKED ME for my newsletter! I have never met her before and she told me she was recommended to me by a friend and she signed up on my website to join my newsletter!

She has been reading my newsletter for months and finally decided to come in for a workshop! I was so elated!

Following my intuition got me to the point where the Universe could validate my feelings and show me I was on the right path. It felt sooooooo good.

So of course the newsletter stays but now I have the added insight that doing what feels right to you, is the right course of action always.

This technique of following my intuition despite all odds have proven successfully over life and this is why I train thousands in person and online in psychic development courses. At my center, I rather teach people how to fish instead of providing them with a meal.

Yes I can read your cards for you, but how soulfully fulfilling is it to find the answers yourself by following your intuition and having the confidence to stand by your decisions? Powerful.

Here are my recommendations for increasing your intuition. This advice comes from my own personal journey and being a psychic mediumship mentor to thousands:

1) Meditation

I meditate every morning to develop a clear channel between Source and myself. This makes it easier to hear the voice of Spirit which is quiet and low. If you don't know how to meditate, book me for an online session or take a beginner meditation class at your local center. Meditation is the best tool for calming yourself and developing a natural trust with your intuition.

2) Psychic Development Courses

When I was in training, I enrolled in as many classes as I could to develop my psychic abilities and strengthen my intuition. Courses allow you to practice giving readings to fellow students usually in a calm and safe environment under the watchful eye of your mentor. You can find classes on hosting platforms like Eventbrite or Meetup and choose to attend in person or online.

3) Test it Out!

If someone calls, try to guess who it is. Have a box of crayons and close your eyes and pick one out, guess the color. Little games like this can strengthen your intuitive muscles and also give you confidence in knowing what you know.

Of course in each of the three steps outlined, it may be a real struggle at first and that is normal. In time, it gets easier and easier and soon you are like me and refusing to do anything without meditating on it first.

Your Spirit knows everything you need, so learn to trust it and all will go well.

To my new friend Iren this weekly newsletter goes out to YOU! Thank you for your kind words and support of my work. I just wanted you to know it meant alot to me, enough to be the topic of the week so thank you!

My wish for everyone this week is simple- start trusting your intuition and tuning out others!

Only you know you and only you know where you are going. Learn to tap into your hidden wisdom and live this life boldly for what you came for.

When you know, you can flow so start today living your best life in accordance with your soul plan. You got this.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Failure is Part of the Plan

Failure is a part of life and as much as we know this, it is still hard to accept.

We have been taught as children to "always do our best" or "if you aren't first you are last", little cute sayings that bring a sense of dread and shame at the thought of not living up to them.

We can't blame our parents though, they were doing the best they could when they could. I am thankful to be a parent in this day and age because I have so many resources to help me and the awareness that every word I speak to my children can either harm them or lift them. I forgave my parents a long time ago for the harsh realities I was exposed to while under their care...it doesn't serve me or our relationship to hold on to the past.

However, the shame is still there about failing. The dread of getting it wrong and worse yet in front of other people....sometimes I think I rather the ground open up and swallow me up than face the humiliation of being wrong in front of others.

I think a major reason for that IS other people. As much as we say, we don't care what other people think....we really do because the thought of failing in front of others or worse yet, failing others? It is unacceptable.

For most of us, we were taught failure is a horrible thing but recently I have been seeing the beauty of not getting it right. Lots of lessons that are profound and touching enough to make me ease up on myself when I make a mistake. Life is funny like that.

We live life by accepting the opinions of others as truth over the acceptance of our own truth. Why is that? Because we believe at a subconscious level that other people have everything figured out but we don't. And that couldn't be further from the truth.

Today when people ask me, "Uma how can I trust my own intuition over the opinion of others?" I start with that concept. Everyone else has no idea (just like you) about what is going on so its best to trust your own insight over theirs because at least with yourself, you KNOW you! They have an idea of you but they will never live every single day in your life. Only you can do that.

But I am not telling you this to avoid failure by trusting your own intuition 100%. I am telling you this so you can have ease in the choices you make (hey once it makes you happy, go for it) and to hold space when you do get it wrong. Sometimes failure is just the turn signal you need to get off the wrong road and redirect to the right path.

When I fail now, I hold space for myself as I give myself time to figure out what went wrong or what mindset I was in to create the less than desired results. Most times that little timeout and self reflection yields to me the answers I need to make the necessary changes and try again.

Honestly if you can switch your mindset about failure and let go of the need to always get it right, the journey can be quite exciting and adventurous as you find your way. Do you like puzzles? I do! So I think of failing now as a game where I have to follow the clues (signs) and make my way to the right path from the wrong road. Exhilarating!

In owning my metaphysical center, I fail every week in some aspect but I rebound quickly and success follows. For example, I have had to change the date on several classes due to lack of attendance but I never wavered or thought to myself, "Maybe I should stop teaching" Heck no! I am amazing as a metaphysical mentor!

If I put up a class and two days out, it isn't full, then I cancel or reschedule it and do more advertising with different media for different results. Sometimes it's that simple tweak that fixes it or sometimes it is a bit more such as the understanding that it is time to retire that class. Whenever I get my intuitive hits on to why the thing failed, I move in accordance and watch the success come in. A simple mindset switch that allows me back on the journey of happiness.

This week I ask you to be easy on yourself when you fail and take time to understand why it did not give you the results you were looking for. Most times you will get the clarity on your own or sometimes you need a mentor or coach to help you. Either way, take the time to explore the supposed failure and when you get your insight and move in a different direction, I am pretty sure it will work out for you.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Upleveling requires Changed Behavior

The whole point of existence some would argue is to learn, grow and expand. I tend to subscribe to this theory as well. It makes sense to me that we would start with ignorance and develop awareness as we move through life experiences, learning as we grow.

However....I have met some of you (and lived my own life) and welp...this theory remains a theory because of our interactions. I have seen many people (including myself) repeat lessons, not learning the point the first, second, thirteenth time. I have seen people witness other people's downfall with choices made and yet repeat the same choices.

Why do we do this?

Simply put, many of us are living on auto-pilot, not really thinking about our choices or direction in life. We allow life to lead us and then get upset when things don't go our way instead of actively envisioning and choosing the options that best serve us.

Why do we do this?

Because many of us haven't been taught to. None of us were given an instruction manual at birth letting us know the easiest way to a successful and productive life.

Many of us get caught up in the smallness of life (gossip, pettiness, loneliness, pessimism etc..) and fail to keep an eye on the big picture.

Some of us just gave up on being and doing better and made peace with our situations.

But it doesn't have to stay this way and at age 45 I am learning this for myself. I can ASK for more but when I do....I have to prepare to change my behavior to receive it.

In true Uma fashion, let's give some examples!

When I first started livestreaming on an app, I did it for fun and laughs. I was wild on there! Drinking and getting high, being toxic but get this....despite my own efforts to keep myself down, Spirit had other plans for me. The admin saw potential in me and started making offers for my stream advancement. Close to two and a half years later, I am now a Top Badge on that app with a featured weekly show.

What does that mean for me realistically? It means that the higher vibration required a changed behavior to maintain that vibration.

I couldn't do what I was doing before. After I started making waves on the livestreams, I became more consistent in my streams and developed content for shows. I stopped with the 24-7 toxic behavior and saved the drinking and partying for selected nights as part of the show. I began to live the role I was assigned.

The same thing with relationships. When I was single I lived a certain way but anytime I joined with another in a love relationship, I changed the ways I was living as a single girl.

Every part of life requests you to change when you elevate. If you choose to practice old habits with new energy, you will fail.

And it is documented. Think of how many riches to rags stories you have heard of lottery winners going broke or famous celebrities who lost it all due to drug or alcohol addictions.

When your Spirit elevates you, your mind and your body has to follow for it to be successful and for it to be lasting.

I find myself yet again in a new situation where I am being asked to elevate my thinking and my behavior, so as I pondered on my next steps, I thought I would share with you my plan of action as I enter into this new space of life. Hey maybe it will help you when you uplevel your life! Ok here we go:

1) Get a Routine

Usually I have a morning routine already established but my life changed drastically a few months ago and I haven't been able to find my footing due to the change of schedules and life. Because I was off my daily yoga/meditation schedule, I became stressed and exhausted with the life changes that were occurring.

This week I plan to get back on my morning schedule no matter what because the one thing my morning routine does is help keep me grounded and calm. I love my morning routine so much I even came up with a name for it! I call it my MERRY mornings as I spend time doing Meditation, Exercise, Reiki, Readings and Yoga to start my day. Doing each of these activities help me stay spiritually connected, mentally stable. emotionally calm and physically fit. Trust me, when your mind, body and Spirit are tended to, it doesn't matter what is going on in the real world, you are calm within.

2) Get Help

I remembered when my metaphysical center began really thriving, I changed tax brackets and had no idea about money management. Once I started having extra finances after paying bills I decided to hire an accounting firm to do my taxes and take care of my financial planning.

Same thing happening now. As I move into this new era of my life, I find myself unable to assimilate the new challenges so I decided to go back to therapy and see a therapist weekly to discuss my life and gain insight into how best to proceed.

3) Be Flexible

Change requires patience. Yes your spirit elevated you to your next level, but your mind and body need some time to catch up. Be easy on yourself as you navigate these changes and don't take things too seriously. You may want it all to happen at once, but there is beauty in the unfolding. Allow it to happen at its natural pace.

4) Have Fun!

All change is for the betterment of you so rejoice in that fact! These uncomfortable times will not last forever so try to think of the big picture and not get caught up in the details. Move through the difficult times with laughter and humor, rest when you can and keep moving! One day you will be in the sunshine so just tolerate the rain as much as you can.

Life challenges us to be better and do better, it's up to us to make the choices that support that not take us backwards.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Biggest Self Love Challenge-Living for Myself

I love myself. I know I love myself. I know I treat myself right but yet I also fail myself everytime I do this one thing: pay more attention to what other people want over my needs.

It's ingrained in us I think. From our childhoods we are taught to listen to elders and in time that translated to just listen to everyone but your own intuition. The main theme is this: Trust the opinions of others over your own.

It never sat right with me back then and it still doesn't stick with me now. It bothers me so much to listen to other people's opinions that I rarely have long term friendships. I have learned the hard way that in some friendships, people expect you to take their advice if you are going through something and if you don't, they get personally upset with you.

This shouldn't be and if this is the dynamic in your friendships I suggest you take the time to explore if the friendship works for you. This is my theory of how friendships should work:

Two mature people from different walks in life are friends. They should be open to exploring the friendship based on the mutual appreciation for each other and develop patience and understanding as they learn about new perspectives from each other. At no point should either party feel guilty about their life experiences when retelling to each other and be made to feel obligated to listen to advice especially if it goes against your own intuition.

Sounds easy right? Not so. I have lost the friendship of many people who attempted to advise me and they got upset when I just did what I wanted to do.

So what do we do? Do we keep trying to forge friendships and hope we can come across people who are open minded and non judgmental or do we give up all together and just remain dedicated to living a solitary life?

The latter is out of question because we did not come here to be solitary. We are use to being around people, it's how we grow and live to learn. We learn what we like and don't like in our human interactions, things we cannot figure out living by ourselves.

So how can we create meaningful friendships that inspire us to grow and not stifle us? I don't know fully yet. I DO have conversations with my friends about what I want in friendships and they tend to be on board with it....unless they are not and then I hear an earful lol.

So here are some tips for creating meaningful relationships in our mature years, hopefully they help you too and you can create some meaningful interactions in your life:

1) Express your Intent

As I make new friends, I always find a way to slip it in conversation what my intentions are and what my expectations are concerning friendships. It's easy actually- be a nice fkin human being and be open minded because my stories will blow your mind and I don't need your judgements or condescension. By me laying out my expectations, I am respecting you enough to let you know that I trust you with the inner workings of my life and I hope you can enjoy the stories and not feel the need to give me input.

2) Establish Boundaries

Let your new friend know what is acceptable and not acceptable in your life. Ask them what their boundaries are and agree to respect them. We can't assume everyone wants the same thing out of friendships so take the time to explore your new friend needs and requirements as you express yours. If people look at you funny or make remarks when you try to do this, don't buy it and keep walking. These people aren't in the market for long term mature friendships, they are looking for people to dump their emotional baggage on and that's why they don't care to set the energy for the relationship. They rarely invest in one person so if anyone gets mad at you, let them go and thank the stars you didn't entertain a friendship with them. There are real genuine people out here, you just gotta take the time to find them.

3) Be true to Yourself

Friendships should never become an integral part of life to the point where you value them more than you value yourself. They should be complementary to your life not your life. If you find that every major decision you make requires input from your friends then you may need to make adjustments. Think of friends as cheerleaders, part of the squad but the head cheerleader and team captain is YOU. You direct the flow in your life not your friends, remember that.

As for me, I will continue being me and loving me as I am and keeping an open door for friends to come in. Some may stay, some may go but at the end of it, I will be ok because I got me, and that's all I need.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Why doesn't the Law of Attraction work for me?

It's not that enlightenment isn't for everyone.

The Law of Attraction works but yet people tell me frequently that it doesn't. The thing is, you have to be ready to receive it.

Have you ever had a dream where you were somewhere and you were unprepared? Maybe a dream of being in class and naked? Or being at work and unprepared for a meeting? Do you remember the feeling of dread and shame you felt? Why? Because you knew (even in a dream state) that you were not supposed to be there. You needed to be clothed or prepared before you got there.

It's the same thing with the Law of Attraction. The enlightenment we seek to have happy and peaceful lives comes with real power and if you are not ready to receive it, you can actually turn away your own manifestations.

How can we not be ready to receive that power? If we have fear, anxiety, doubt, dread or other lower emotions, we will not be able to handle the power. It's physics. The "thing" we are calling in and manifesting is of a higher power and if we are in a lower energy, we can manipulate the energy to bring us what we want but it wouldn't be enjoyable because we will not be at the level we need to be to receive it.

I witnessed it myself with a particular friend. I taught her everything I knew about this power in a sincere effort to help her out of her self sabotaging ways but it didn't work. Well it did for a little and she was soaring high! She manifested new love that looked stable and a new job that looked promising and a move that she dreamed of that looked full of potential.

She thought she created her fantasy world and we were rejoicing but as quickly as she manifested it, it was as quickly as her dream turned to a nightmare.

The new love turned out to be insecure, possessive and highly jealous. Her new job started to change on what they offered her to a lesser offer than what she desired. Her own family member wished her dead for relocating.

I watched her hide from the harsh realities of her new world that she was denying but everyone around her could see. She thought she could pretend to be happy and it would all pick back up but instead things got worse and dangerous.

What happened to her scared me. It scared me because I started wondering if I really had the power or an image of it like she did. So I pondered this thought and went into my own meditation asking for clarity on this issue. Was I faking it too? At that moment I was happy and peaceful enjoying my life but was I lying to myself as well?

Thankfully, I received the clarity (and results) within a few hours to remind me that I DO indeed work with this limitless power and it wasn't based on favoritism, just actions.

Actions that I share with my clients in a one on one coaching program. Actions that I was ready to take and commit to so I could have this wonderful and happy life.

It was here that I understood the distinction of why LOA works for some people and for some it doesn't. It is manifestation vs. manipulation.

See my friend was pretentious and she wasn't really learning the LOA from me for the betterment of herself and her world, she was learning it to get things.

I see now that if a person has that intention, it will not work. The main driving force behind the LOA is a sincere desire to be a better person by being in better alignment to yourself. It is here in this place of complete alignment with your inner being that you can begin to use the power to unravel the mysteries of the universe ....and your heart.

This week your homework is simple-look at the list of things you desire and see where you are at with it. Are you moving towards your goals or are you stagnant? If you find yourself stagnant, do you know now why you aren't moving in that direction? Remember! You can always book me for an energetic clearings call to help you get back on track with your manifesting goals!

Until next time, have a namaste!

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It's not meant to break you....it's meant to MAKE you!

I keep seeing too many people who go through things and allowing that thing to bring them down. Stop it.

I am about to be that Aunt Bee who straightens you up so you can fly right. Now this post is not for the faint of heart so if you take things personally, like to make assumptions, want to avoid personal responsibility then this is not the post for you. Keep sliding down and find one better suited to your temperament. For the rest of you....here we go.

1) Stop blaming people

Let's say you got into a relationship with someone (it could be romantic or platonic) and after a period of fun and enjoyment it ends. Please for the love of God stop classifying them and diagnosing them especially when you don't have a license to do so. It's the funniest thing to me when I hear most people leave a relationship and refer to their exes as a narcissist. Stop it.

Just because you didn't get your needs met or that person didn't treat you the way you wanted to be treated, doesn't mean there is something psychologically wrong with them. It just means that you two aren't meant for each other and it's time for you to move on.

It's that simple but yet I find many people make excuses for their inability to leave. If I was to reword a scenario it would go from, "Oh I hate my ex, he is such a narcissist and i am glad that relationship is over." to "I wasn't getting my needs fulfilled but I was too scared to leave because I am insecure and anxious about being single. I am not sure I can get into another relationship OR I don't want to do the work and start all over again so I will just sit here and hope and pray for him to change."

The truth is this Universe (and you) operate by natural laws and there is a Law of Free Will which means that nothing can enter your life without your invitation. So whoever is in your life is by your intentional or unintentional focus. Stop blaming them for being there.

As a Law of Attraction coach I find that most people invite people and things into their life unintentionally, meaning they aren't focusing on the right things. Case in point, imagine a woman who only complains that men are dogs and list all the reasons something is wrong with them. Do you think she is going to attract a sweet, sensitive man capable of loving her or is she going to attract exactly what she has been talking about for awhile? Bingo.

The first step to emotional intelligence is understanding that bad relationships don't come in to break you...they come in to make you choose better so you can have the relationship of your dreams.

2) Own your Stuff

News flash-if you are 30s and younger, you are still growing and you are bound to make mistakes. If you mess up (and you know you will) be humble about it, learn and process it and then allow yourself the freedom to move on from it. Don't become the next category...ahem.

If you are 30s and older, learn to accept defeat and move on from it. Don't patronize others, don't put others down and definitely don't get a gang of your friends to cosign that you are right and they are wrong. As loving as they are being, they are not helpful.

We are not perfect creatures and we aren't expected to be so we really need to stop holding ourselves to this old paradigm that clearly isn't working anymore.

There will always be contrast and turmoil in life, the key to life is not to avoid it or live your life fearing it but to face things head on and change your attitude when things go south.

I am talking about myself of course. I use to be the woman who labeled every man as toxic if our relationship didn't work out but guess what? I grew up and took ownership of my behavior.

I stopped fearing change and started asking questions such as,

"What is this?"

"What is this bringing me?"

"How can I grow from this?"

"What new direction am I heading in because of this?"

When you start accepting the turmoil that comes with life, you show dominance in personality and power. Why? Because you refuse to be shaken. You understand that the Universe is a living, energetic entity only responding to our signals, nothing more and nothing less. So you learn to take things less personally and redirect a new course.

If a relationship ends? I accept it and see it only as a redirection not a rejection. If that man doesn't want to be with me, he is only making room for the one who can't live without me.

If I find out friends aren't really friends to me, I accept it. It only means that I outgrew that energy and am now open to inviting in a better fit for friendship.

If a job fires me, I accept it. I understand that there is something better coming my way and I need the time off to rest and prepare for this next adventure.

Once you start to see things as positive, you gain power over your outside circumstances. It all comes down to mindset. As a former athlete I can tell you that excellence in a sport is maybe 40% technical and physical skill and definitely 60% mindset.

You gotta think the right thoughts to make this life work. So....the next time you have a shake up in life, please remember...it came in to make you not break you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep it moving. SO far you have succeeded 100% of the times you were knocked down. Own your thoughts and see your life flourish in amazing ways.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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You are What You are

Today I woke up late (around noon!) because for the past few weeks I have been running from one success to another. It all started a few backs when I placed #10 in a Worldwide contest on the app I stream on. Then I went on to celebrate gaining the 15 million diamond level on that app. Then I went on to celebrate 14 YEARS of owning The Lotus Center. Then I recently celebrated yesterday my book launch of "Chronicles of a Spirit Walker" and becoming an Amazon Best Seller in four categories.

Yea I was wiped.

But I am also truthfully....emotional as I was in a bit of a depression and trying to keep going while handling my symptoms.

See this is a momentous occasion for me but there are two important people who are no longer here with me to celebrate this with. My mentors Mavis Pittilla and Janet Nohavec are in Heaven and as sure as I am that they are proud of me, I also miss their company and their words.

I am also feeling a little overwhelmed. These two women were great powerhouses in their work and I enjoyed my time studying under them. With their absence and the training they provided me over the course of a few years, I find myself wondering what this means for me.

I came to Janet and Mavis a naturaL medium which means I have been a medium since I was born. When that ability started becoming more pronounced in me, I decided to take formal training so I could provide the best possible experience for my clients.

It was an interesting experience becoming a mediumship student when I was already a medium. I learned from many teachers but I will only name the ones I had a positive experience with- namely Mavis Pittilla, Janet Nohavec, Eileen Davies and Colin Bates.

Some classes I took I was disgusted to see how the mediumship teachers abused their students. Some teachers talked down to grown adults like they were little children. Then there were others who failed to recognize a student's natural ability or competed with them for attention in class.

I quickly learned that spiritual teachers were after all, people and that if they didn't do their own self work they were just as liable as others to spew their inner turmoil to the outside world. It was interesting and scary to watch.

I loved working with Janet because she was strict and she was fair. I didn't experience preferential treatment and I had to earn my right to sit at her table. Yes I actually got to sit at her table when she invited me out to lunch one day. Janet took an interest in me and even offered to help me open my church when I was in her ministry program. She said she would help me with the bylaws and everything. I was deeply touched but yet saddened when I left her program when I realized internally becoming a Minister was not part of my path at that time. I did cut ties with her but maintained the respect and loyalty to her work. Later on when I began teaching mediumship, I referenced her frequently as the place to go after students learned with me so they could continue their development.

Mavis had a whole other special place in my heart. I worked with her for three years and just loved being in her energy. She was in tune with Spirit and it was a marvel to watch. I wanted to be like her as a professional medium- accurate, confident, loving and compassionate. Mavis saw something in me too. I remember one day after class, she pulled me aside and said, "Uma you got it. You got what it takes not only to become a medium but a mentor and I want to train you more. Will that be ok? I will be harder on you than others because I see something in you that makes you stand out." I was honored of course and Mavis was true to her word. She would call on me in class to demonstrate techniques and after a practice she would ask me to follow her outside while she smoked her cigarette and go over the class with me showing me how to be a proper mentor. It was bittersweet for me to leave Mavis but during my time with her, she had health issues that impacted her travel. After a few times of missed classes and reschedules I had to leave because I couldn't accomodate her changes as my schedule was so packed up. To this day I miss Mavis and being in her presence but I am glad for the recordings I have that I can play back and relive my memories.

After leaving these two wonderful mentors, it was hard for me to stay in the mediumship community because there was a lot of nastiness I didn't approve of. Mediums were tearing down other mediums or judging their work. Mediums were scamming clients and the worst were teachers who had a lot of ego and took it out on helpless students. When George Floyd was murdered, I left the mediumship community because I noticed an absence of our mediumship organizations speaking out against racism. The Spiritualists community has been very vocal over the years for the Women's Suffrage Movement and LGBTQ rights....I couldn't understand at the time why they were not addressing racial concerns.

I also felt left out as a minority in the mediumship community. When I was assessed for my mediumship presentations it usually included comments to make me more "white". I would be told to not be so loud or fun, to be more subdued and dress more plainly. This was hard to hear as a Caribbean woman where my whole culture was about joy and vibrancy.

I left the mediumship community in 2019 and have not been practicing or actively teaching mediumship for about 3 years but with the deaths of my two beloved mentors and the release of my book on mediumship, I am wondering if it is my duty to pick up the mantle and keep it going?

Interestingly enough there is also a new SNU President in the UK that I love and she is a modern woman keen on bringing order to the Spiritualist community again. Change is afoot and I am curious as to whether there is a place for me in this new world that seems to be developing.

I am wondering if Spirit is asking me to come back to the fold.

I don't know yet but I honor the signals I am feeling and will make a decision soon about it. After all, life goes on and what we need are honorable and trustworthy practitioners and teachers in this craft. I know I am but the question is, do others recognize that in me as well?

So this blog I am sure some of you can relate to. When you see all the signs and synchronicities lining up, you can't help but think that no matter how far you run, how much you distract yourself......You are What You are.

For me, when I find myself in this position, I become silent and make no moves. I wait for three signs to indicate which direction to move in. Those signs come with alarming crystal clear clarity and it makes me understand what is next in my path.

So what are my next steps? Well interestingly enough I was planning them while I was in confusion so now that the clarity hit, I am ready to roll! I actually have a mediumship mentorship program coming up in May! For me, I believe i have taken enough of a hiatus from the psychic mediumship world and it is time to make an appearance. The three signs that showed me this path was back for me to pursue took a few weeks with the last sign coming in just yesterday:

1) I keep getting client testimonials about the accuracy of my readings and for many, they were life changing.

2) I recently started bringing through viewers' loved ones from the other side with ease. Almost like they were just waiting for me to say something.

3) I wrote a book about my psychic mediumship life and within 24 hours it became an Amazon Best Seller in four categories!

Ok Spirit I have heard the call and I plan to follow in the footsteps of my beloved mentors. I aim to bring more awareness and insight into the world of mediumship with integrity, accuracy and truth. I aim to be an amazing psychic mediumship mentor.

Until next time, be good, do good and have a Namaste!

xo Uma

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Hacking Life- a game of chutes and ladders

I never saw life as a box of chocolates (sorry Forest Gump) but more like a game, specifically the game of Chutes and Ladders. Wow I am really dating my self with that comment but hopefully those of you who read this will remember and understand.

A quick summary for those of you who DON'T know, I apologize in advance because your childhood as lovely as it was, definitely missed out of one of the most fun and enlightening games in history.

Picture it! A board filled with ladders to go up and chutes that slide you down. The object of the game is simple really, to get from the bottom of the board to the top quickest out of all the players. Simple right? Nope. When you roll the dice, you are constantly praying to land on a square with a ladder so it fast tracks you to the top but sometimes that dastardly dice put you in the square with a chute and you watch gloomily as your piece slides all the way down. Oh! and to add to the fun, not all the ladders and chutes are the same size! There are some that are shorter, longer and there is one chute and ladder that is the biggest going from the top to the bottom and vice versa. It is a game of luck, chance, focus and strategizing. Sounds like life right?

Let me explain.

In life we all start at the bottom of the board and the aim is to get to the top. As we roll the dice, we see what fate has given us. Some of us are born with a ladder so we automatically get a hand up and some of us have to work hard to reach a ladder to give ourselves that leg up. Some of us, no matter how hard we work or try, we keep hitting chute after chute making us feel like three steps forward and ten steps back. A constant struggle of wit and inner strength to keep going despite all odds.

Now you might say, "but Uma! I can't win in this game because some players keep getting ladder after ladder and I keep getting chute after chute." Not quite. I have played this game many times in my youth and let me tell you one thing- it is anyone's game.

I have seen people make it to the top easily with the help of the ladders and then lose it all by hitting that one chute that wipes it all away.

I have seen people struggle with defeat after defeat and then hit that one lucky ladder that catapults them throughout the whole game to the top and they win!

I have seen other players have a mixed bag of chutes and ladders and they either make it out to win or not.

Get where I am going with this? It's all a game and it's not so important that you win but that you have fun while playing it.

In terms of life, this message applies. We are all going to die at some point or another so it doesn't matter if you arrive there first or last, the point of life is to enjoy it while you are living it.

I was reminded this weekend about chutes and ladders during my spiritual staycay. My friends and I went to a Korean spa house on Friday and spent 8 hours day. We journeyed, we swam, we sat in hot rooms and we slept. We laughed, we talked, we stayed quiet and we pondered. When I left my friends I found only a third of me wanted to go back to the land of the living, the other two thirds wanted to continue this detox and destress from life and so I chose that option and did that. I spent the weekend sleeping, eating, watching my netflix shows and pondering. I felt a tad bit guilty as I have my new book launching in exactly a week and I have so much to do but I relaxed, remembering the game of chutes and ladders. It is all a game and my only purpose is to have fun and enjoy it while I am in it.

In playing chutes and ladders I am reminded that in the game as in life, the board is already set. We call that destiny and each time the dice is cast, we anticipate our fate. THe best way to play the game as in life, is to be excited and hopeful for positive results. When the bad times hit, laugh as loud as you can while sliding down those chutes and enjoy the fun of it. It makes for a great experience not just for yourself but for those playing it with you as well. Remember, no one likes a sore loser! So when you see someone else winning, cheer them on and be happy for them. That might not have been the game you won but you will win others in the future so for now be happy and content your friends are winning. Your turn will come soon enough.

Your challenge is simple this week-buy a game of chutes and ladders and play it! Well you can if you want to but I was joking. Your challenge is simply to shift into the perspective that brings you the most joy and see this life as a game. Pretty soon you will be surrounded by other happy game players and then life will really become more enjoyable.

Until next time, have a namaste!

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It's not Rejection, its redirection-the law of duality

I am happy that I understand natural laws because if I didn't, I swear I would be a heaping mess on the floor every time something unpleasant happened to me.

MY learning of the Law of Duality came in handy these past two weeks when things seemingly took a downward turn. My first instinct, as is every human's instinct is to self blame and depreciate my worth. "It's my fault this is happening." I found myself almost saying but then quickly following up with another thought much more lighter and realistic, "No it's not, it's the Law of Duality in effect again."

Let me explain.

This past week I fell out of favor with approximately three friends. THREE people that I have been rocking with and enjoying their company for a few months now. I felt saddened by the loss and their subsequent departures from my life.

But then, by glorious intervention brought to me through my daily morning meditations, I realized this was all part of the plan. Well the Universe's plan that is.

See, I have been doing some extreme self work since the beginning of the year and it has elevated my consciousness in meaningful ways. In January I did a 30 day yoga and meditation challenge to kickstart my daily spiritual practices. I had to do a yoga session followed by meditation for everyday for a month. Wow it was a little brutal! I mean I had to include it while on my birthday trip to California! Can you imagine trying to get up earlier than everyone else and get some asanas in?

Then in February I started a 90 day workout challenge that required me to do a form of workout everyday for you guessed it....90 days.

Between these two challenges, I have been exhausted physically but revived mentally and spiritually.

So how did these great self care challenges create disaster in my life? Well, I stopped relating to the people I was hanging out with. At first I tried to ignore the growing sinkhole developing between us but in time it caught up to me. I had to either get out or be swallowed up with them.

I need to include in this conversation that the people I no longer talk to are not bad people. In fact they are all amazing in their own way....we just came to a fork in the road and I had to go left and Spirit pulled them to the right.

You might think, "Well Uma it's not such a bad thing. You could have stayed friends with them." I understand that from your point of view so hopefully you can understand mine.

I have a deep requirement of my friends to be two things: open minded and chill. My inner circle is my safe place, my haven from the outer world. When I get together with my friends whether in person or online, I need to feel and have only one thing: fun.

I am not the friend who wants to focus on the bad in life or talk about my problems. I have a therapist for that. I am not the friend that wants to gossip viciously and hurt other people, I have streams watching and reality shows for that. I am the friend who works extremely hard to create waves concerning my goals so when it is time to relax (a rare occurence) I need to be free and easy with the people I hang with.

But I digress. This blog is not about my WHY for cutting cords it's about the mindset reset I did to make myself feel better about the cuts. No goodbye is ever easy even if you are the one creating it so I felt just awful after the three goodbyes I had to say this week....until I remembered the Law of Duality.

The Law of Duality simply states that everything is a continuum and has a complementary opposite within the whole. For example, there are two sides to a coin but yet it is one coin. Or there is hot/cold but it is the same medium (water) just at different temperatures.

The idea is that whatever you create, something must be uncreated as a result. SO let's apply that knowledge to my experiences.

Since the beginning of the year, I have been steadfastly focused on my goals and creating a larger platform to run my big mouth. As a result of this action creation, other things had to be uncreated that were getting in the way of my goals. And that is what happened.

One friend I had to let go of because they were consumed with revenge on an ex and it became excessive. The mood swings and intense focus on someone else's actions were distracting for me because I found that after a call, I would still be wondering about them. They did an unforgivably wasteful and privileged thing that turned me off and I had to go. It was opposite to the way I lived my life- in humility, fun, ease and service.

Another friend was in a toxic relationship with a woman that was jealous of me and our friendship (his words). I ignored it at first until this woman started to interfere into my life and subsequently into our friendship which as you guessed it, became a distraction for me. I tolerated her ill behavior for awhile until she did something very disrespectful and I decided to leave. He may be ok with the disrespect she dishes out but I wasn't dating her so I chose to leave. He remained committed to this woman he only knew for a few months and never met in person over the loyal friendship I had with him for years and that was enough for me to walk away. His actions were opposite to the way I treated my friends- with care, respect and appreciation. I had to go.

The third person was a relationship I just got into for a few months until we decided to call it quits. It wasn't actually a bad ending and we are still friends platonically. What happened was that this person had a lot going on in his own life and coupled that with the distance between us (we live 5 hours away by car) and my own hectic schedule, it became more of a burden to plan to see each other than a blessing. We ended on good terms and I am actually glad for the experience because in the short time, he brought a lot of love and healing that I needed. I wish him the best always. Grudgingly I had to go.

The thing is, I am aware now that I UPped my game and it would be silly and foolish to expect everyone around me to UP theirs too. We were good when we met and were on the same level but life is ever happening and I being the spiritual seeker that I am, cannot sit still. I wanna keep going because I want to see the best version of myself and what that looks like. So if I keep upleveling like this, I have to get use to the law of duality kicking in and reminding me, "Hey Uma! these people you have outgrown, now it is time for a new crew."

I hear you Spirit and i am excited to meet my new playmates.

I chose to write on this topic this week because with all the planetary shifts happening, I am sure you too are going through some form of transformation for yourself. Are you? If so, I have some tips for you if you find yourself outgrowing the company you keep. I used them and hopefully if you use them too, they can garner a safe passage out of the old energy and into the new.

1) Communicate

Don't ghost people! I know it is never an easy conversation when you outgrow a friendship, relationship or partnership but it is cruel to just walk away without an explanation. These people did nothing wrong to deserve that. In each situation, I explained clearly (or over explained as my ex said lol) why I was leaving and I created space for a dialogue. In only one situation I did not have the conversation because the person showed no interest in me or my friendship as they were more obsessed with their beau so I thought it best to keep it moving and leave the toxicity there.

2) Be ready for a Fight-but don't fight

When you hit them with the news that this isn't working and you are out, they are not going to receive it well. NO one likes a breakup! So be prepared for them to throw low blows at you or fight back with their reason and logic. Remain calm, listen and agree with them. Remember they are not going to to understand your reasons because well, you both are on different levels now. You can't hear them and they can't hear you so the best thing is to just listen and let them vent and be firm in your decision. Now if they debase or demean you, then get out of there quickly! One friend started attacking my character and the friendship I provided them and I drew a line quickly. I told her that the conversation was done as I did not need to tolerate disrespectful behavior, I wished her well, told her I was hanging up and then did. Don't stick around to hear them hurt you because that stuff will stay with you for days, weeks or even months and years. It's not your fault you are growing and it's not their fault they are staying where they are at. At all times be respectful and as kind as you can before leaving.

3) Grieve

Yes you will miss them and their presence in your life and that is ok. I cried and held hurt for awhile but I kept reminding myself that this is needed because where I want to be and go requires my full attention and commitment. I cannot slow down for anyone and that tends to make me feel better. OH! and friends! I immersed myself in my other friendships and even spent a whole Sunday on the phone with a group of people for my healing! All endings are hard so surround yourself with kind and compassionate people who make time for you and bring the fun and laughter, trust me you are going to need it.

Some of you might be listening to me thinking, "Oh God Uma I can't do that for the rest of my life! Have a turnover in my relationships every few months or years!"

The beautiful thing is you don't have to. This is the life of someone who chooses self evolution over everything else- fame, riches, love, relationships etc.... It isn't for everyone.

This week your homework is simple. Take an inventory of your life and see if the relationships in it are working for you. If they are, then good! Enjoy them while they last and if they are not, well now you have a few tools to help you navigate out of them and continue on your path at your pace. Keep going and I will meet you at the top.

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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It's not about the Journey or Destination

There is a saying that goes something like this, "It's not about the destination, it's about the journey."

For the longest time I agreed with this idea until a few months ago when life brought me a bunch of different lessons. Lessons that included people and I found myself changing the saying to, "It's not about the destination or even the journey...it's about the people who walk besides you."

Think about your own life for a minute. When you think of a source of stress in your life...doesn't it include another person?

It could be your lover/partner/situationship mate that is driving you crazy.

It could be your boss or coworker stressing you out.

It could be friends or family irritating you. Or anyone else like people cutting you off in traffic or being rude in the grocery store line.

Most of our stress and strife come from people in our lives because we care. On some level we do care what certain people think about us and if they aren't in alignment with us, this can cause havoc or destruction in our lives.

This is why it is so important that you CHOOSE your circle. Just hanging out with a bunch of people through association to other people is not the way you go. You have to make sure that what you are filling your life with on a daily basis is consistent with your goals.

For example I have two active sets of friend groups right now. My inner circle consists of three friends I see on a weekly basis where I live. My girlfriends Sarah, Dannea and Zorayma talk to me on a daily basis sometimes 5-10 times a day. We have group chats where we send funny memes or encourage each other with our life goals. We meet up once a week in person to be together and have our bonding moments. Its very healing for me and I find I look forward to these events like an excited kid every time we have them.

My second friend group is a family of streamers that can understand the heavy responsibility of streaming. I also check in with them on a daily basis and have several calls a day before or after a stream. They help keep me positive in my mental health by talking to me about things I experience through streams. It's very insightful for me to have these friendships because they bring a larger perspective and show me things I might be missing.

Being in the spotlight for the work I do is challenging because nearly everyone who meets me on social media has an opinion about me and that can become taxing. It is super helpful to be around people who know you and can remind you that other people's opinions don't define you, only you do.

I couldn't do half the things in my life without my support network and that is my request of you this week. Show love to those who love on you and let them know just how much you appreciate them. They will feel so loved by this small action.

For those of you who don't have a support system, get out there and start meeting people! Create your own friend group but once you do, put effort into maintaining the connection! Like relationships, friendships need nurturing so you have to put time and effort into making it grow.

My recommendations for those of you who don't have friends, join social clubs or online meeting websites like Meetup or Eventbrite and sign up for social events! If you go consistently enough to a place you will naturally form friendships with people who have similar interests to you. I know many friendships have been formed with students attending my classes and are still active to this day. Find a group and participate! Sometimes you leave the group but you may pick up a friend or two.

For those of you who have friends, nurture the connections! Check on your inner circle daily and your outer circle weekly or monthly. Make time to visit or spend time in person with them and really get to know them. Friendships bloom and create love in your life which nurtures you. Enjoy the feelings.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Your perception is not my reality

Life comes with a plethora of struggles as we all know but in my humble opinion, the top two struggles have to do with other people.

The first and most important struggle is believing in yourself and your dreams despite what others think about it. We have been conditioned since youth to want, crave or desire other people's input and when we don't get their support, we can feel alone or even wrong.

My personal opinion is that part of our life purpose is finding our own voice amidst the cackle of noise from others. Its hard enough to actually be considered a life lesson! I know for myself I had a voice since young but didn't truly stand behind it until my forties.

You want what you want and you have what you have, period. Whatever anyone else thinks or says about it, is just an opinion and that leads me to my next point on the second struggle.

The second struggle is allowing what other people think of us to affect us. You gotta get use to saying, "Your perception is not my reality."

Let me explain.

The fact of the matter is simple: while we are all living on this planet, we are not all living in the same dimension. Facts.

Now you may not understand when I say third dimension, fourth dimension, fifth dimension etc.... but you will understand it this way.

If you believe drinking soda is good, you are correct. If you believe drinking soda is bad, you are correct. Different dimensions we exist in because of our different living experiences.

Think about it this way, if you grew up in a household that focused on healthy habits then your perception will be negative towards soda consumption. If you grew up in a third world country where the drinking water wasn't deemed potable then soda might be a good option to prevent dehydration. See how that works?

It's like going to a party with a bunch of friends. At the end in the car ride home, you can see different dimensional perspectives play out in the conversation:

" I hated the party, everybody was fake, the food was terrible and the music too loud."

" It was ok. I just kinda sat in the corner and waited for you guys. Had a nibble too."

"OMG that party was everything! I got to catch up with a bunch of our friends, danced the night away and even tried sushi for the first time. Lit!"

We see evidence of different dimensions everyday but yet we allow ourselves to get triggered when things pop up due to our differences. The key to living peacefully and happily with others is to just see everything they say as an opinion not a command, judgment or accusation. Just an opinion.

Our perceptions are formed through the experiences we have and it is important to remember that. If someone has a different opinion than you, it doesn't mean you are wrong, it just means that they experienced life differently. That is all.

This is why it is so important for self development. You want to exist at a higher vibration to be on a higher dimension so you can actually participate in life with fun not toil or fight with others about whose way is right.

You gain your power back when you don't respond to criticism or ill intent sent your way. If someone vehemently disagrees with me or my choices in life, I tend to let them talk and return their energy not with anger but a blank stare. After they have worn themselves out, I say quietly, "Thank you for your opinion but I am going to do what i am going to do." and leave it there.

As someone who is predominantly opinionated on social media i constantly get dragged into arguments or debates when people don't see my point of view. I ignore them. I have even had people invite me to their stream or social media to "battle" me with wits and judgments. I decline. I have been called a coward or fake because I refuse to defend my beliefs and I am fine with that. Fine and peaceful and happy in my corner of the world.

Your opinions are your own and they are formed through your experiences in life. You don't owe an explanation to anyone. Besides, even if you were to explain your actions to them, it will still fall on deaf ears especially if they haven't lived experiences you did. So save your breath (and your sanity) and keep doing you. Most times when people invite you to explain your views, they aren't doing it to reach a level of understanding with you, they are doing it to cut you down or prove you wrong. Stop feeding the animals and avoid the zoo all together. Your peace is more important.

Life has a ton of struggles but you checking and double checking with others about your choices don't have to be one of them. Remind yourself that you don't owe anyone an explanation and continue to live life on your terms.

This week your challenge is simple: remind people who overstep your boundaries that their perception is not your reality. Say "thank you, I will take that into consideration when making a choice" when you get opinions on your next steps. Say it and then don't do it. This week I am challenging you to say whatever you need to say to keep the peace with others and yet do what you want to do. Eventually your circle will be like my circle who know that despite their well meaning advice, Uma is going to do what Uma wants to do. Trust me, if they really are your circle, they will still love you after the fact.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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