Summering....are you making the most of it?

Happy Summer!

We are officially halfway through Summer and I GOTS TO TELL YOU.....I am very pleased with myself.

Every summer I set goals, things I want to do and feelings I want to feel and without fail....most summers I set myself up for disappointment.

Sometimes I get disappointed because I depend on other people to help me fulfill my summer goals and sometimes it's because I set too many expectations that are not realistic.

I am happy for those failed summers though because each time I learned a little bit more about what I want and what I can get.

For instance, I use to hold the expectation that my partner would drop everything and just be up on me during the summer. Welp. Clearly that didn't work out in my last relationship but a funny thing about failed expectations...it can lead to brighter times ahead. Now in my current relationship, I hold no expectations of my partner's time and I enjoy the time together and I look at the time apart from him as time to do the other things I had planned! Win Win.

I use to also look to my friends to be available all the time to do things with me. I mean come on, its summer! Time to be outdoors! Well I have learned to do things on my own and it feels good. This summer I have been enjoying my Super Soul Sundays which is basically spent with half the day doing self care things like having massages or going to bookstores and the other half of the day with my partner on the couch watching our favorite shows. I am definitely enjoying this so much I might take it into the Fall with me too!

I also usually set a goal of getting things done around the house in the summer and hold a desire of wanting to do nothing. How in the world I expected that to work out in the past beats me! I would set these really high expectations and then feel awful at the end of summer when things weren't accomplished.

Because of those experiences, I entered this summer with no goals besides going to the pool/beach (check), hanging out late nights (check), traveling (check) and reading more (check). Ding ding ding! I completed my summer goals and it's not even over yet! :)

The funny thing about letting up about expectations and just being in the flow is that it allows space for other things to happen that you want to happen.

Even though I didn't set any expectations for household chores, I got some done! Things that have been on my to do list for awhile just got completed and with total ease and joy.

What I learned so far this summer is that being easy and happy, letting go of my expectations and learning to just BE is the key to enjoying the moment.

This week I ask you to do the same. We are halfway through summer and I ask you to focus on just enjoying the weather and doing activities that you can't do in other seasons. Let that be your focal point so when summer is over and the chill starts to come into the air, you can feel good about spending time as you wanted to and enjoying all that summer has to offer.

In life we don't have to push as much as we think we do. We are enough and we can just focus on being in the moment and trusting that everything will workout for us. In the end, it usually does.

Until next time, be good, do good and have a Namaste!

xo Uma

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The tower fell....and im still here

So here we are.....unable to escape fate and reeling from a week of revelations and intense clarity about a lot of things in life. The tower well and I am still here.

For those of you who don't get the reference, let me give a little back story. In tarot we have a tower card (see photo) and it gives an eerie meaning as eerie as the photo looks. It suggests a sudden and tragic ending in your life that will be catastrophic to you. It could be a literal ending like the death of a loved one, an end of a relationship or job or unexpected relocation/expenses. Yikes!

Well this was my card for my May Reading followed with the 3 of Cups (family, relationships, celebration, reunions) and Ace of Wands (new energy, new opportunities). So when I started May I had a small sense of dread mixed with relief that whatever happened, it will be quick and painful but I will have new doors open and a community of loving people supporting me.

I had no idea what was to come.

Of course when you get a reading like this, your logical mind starts to think logically about what could logically happen. So logically I assumed my partner and I were breaking up this month LOL. Yes very logical thought as I have a history of being super emotional during mercury retrogrades (thanks to my Gemini moon) and I was pretty sure I was gonna show him what that mouf do when I am triggered.

It wasn't him. It was a friend I have been rocking with for close to a year. She betrayed me and the tower fell. God it hurt on so many levels.

The first hurt came from the actual events that unfolded. In a summary, she changed her energy towards me but maintained her friendship with my partner. Now she met him through me last April to be exact when I invited her to hang out with us when we were in NY. She seemed cool and easy to get along with so I invited her and she made a few more trips to see us. I didn't think anything about it until a month ago when my partner had to go back to his home state for family stuff. In those 3 weeks he was away, I hardly heard from her and if I did, it was only in response to something I did. Him? He heard from her practically every day. Well this week the confrontation came about by surprise, surprise, her accusing me of changing the energy towards her! At first I didn't take it personally because with Mercury Retrograde, I was sure she was reacting emotionally. I carefully explained to her my facts- the text messages, the calls etc....staying away from opinions and only stating what I noticed. The response was simple and in text- "I really was only interested in a friendship with you to get to your partner because I felt we had more of a bond." Ouch.

The second hurt came from my ability and inability. A few months ago I had this vision that this was coming. It was such a strong feeling that I told my partner, "I have a feeling she isn't going to be in our lives anymore and I am sad about it." Of course he didn't believe me....it's not usual for a guy to date a psychic haha. I am use to my partners not believing me when I see things so far out. And a bit of hurt came from the inability of me unable to stop it. These things hurt but it does get easier.

Now that a few days passed, I have so much clarity about this tower moment in my life and this is what I want to speak on.

Life is always going to have tower moments, you cannot avoid it but you can choose how you react to it.

As shocking as the news were this week, I allowed myself to receive it because the lesson I have learned in life is this- life is always working out for me. I may not see right now why this ending had to happen but I trust it happened for the best for me and mine.

Why am I so sure?

Because I have been focused and committed to my vision. I haven't been distracted or out of alignment. I have been killing it in all areas of my life so whatever is happening now in any part of my life, it is happening for the best. That is how much I know and trust the Law of Attraction.

So how did this end?

Peacefully. My partner and I took some time off from streams for two days and reconnected. We used this opportunity to talk about what our expectations were about outside influences and friendships. This situation actually afforded us some much needed communication about what we want and did not want to invite into our lives. We became stronger.

That person? She tried several times to create more chaos but we stayed united. He showed me the messages she was sending him putting me down and I showed him the same. We stayed united and eventually she walked away.

Will she be back? Probably to his life but that would be for him to deal with. I have learned in life the best thing to do is to trust your partner and give them space to show you they are capable of handling things without your interference. Besides it wasn't my intention to break their friendship up....far from it! My intention was to uncover the lies that were pretty much forced in my face. She acted like she wanted to be a friend to me but that wasn't true. It is enough to uncover that and move on with my life. I trust him to handle it if she returns.

In the end I am grateful. I saw a storm coming and I didn't shrink from it or fear it and that empowered me. Why? I didn't know how, who or what was going to go down so how could I act in such a calm fashion? Because I learned to trust and rely on myself. When you learn that lesson you become invincible.

This week I challenge you to be brave about whatever adversity you are going through. Live with the motto, "Everything is always working out for me" amd become empowered in your life. You will always be ok when you trust in yourself.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Accountability is a sign of growth

I recently joined a 6 Week Boot Camp to give it one last push before summer gets here. It was absolutely an intuitive move. I have been feeling a little down about my happy weight (happy events in my life led to my overindulgence) and as a Law of Attraction coach I know that for me to make a change, I first have to think it into existence. So that is what I did. I imagined myself on the beach in a cute new bikini and feeling easy in my body as I wore summer clothes.

Just by doing that for a few days, I "coincidentally" found a local boot camp last Thursday that started on Tuesday! What luck! (wink) I enrolled immediately without thinking it through because I knew if I intuitively was led there, it was part of my bigger mission to slim down before beach season.

That was the easy part. Now comes the hard lesson of accountability. When you are accountable, it means you are willing to accept responsibility. I found out quite quickly in my first session that I had a lot of excuses that my trainer was able to spot easily. When he pointed them out to me, I yielded and did not argue for my limitations. He was right and I was wrong and I was willing to accept responsibility for that.

The lesson of accountability showed up for me in other areas of my life last week too. I started to feel "bad vibes" from a fellow streamer friend and I actually felt that the person had ill intentions towards me. It's funny how people outside of us can make us believe the worst things.

I allowed that energy to take up space for maybe two days as I battled it but in the end, my higher Self won. I consistently meditated every day and in that sanctuary, I found my peace with the situation.

After all, I am the creator of every situation in my life according to the Law of Attraction right? So either I was imagining it or it is an ending meant to be.

Here's how I deal with either situation:

- If I was imagining it, that means I was paying attention more to their actions than ignoring their actions and continuously loving them as is. It also suggests I was out of alignment with my inner being because when you are high vibing, you really don't pay attention to what is going on around you in the current reality. In this situation, if it truly was my imagination (and time will tell) then it is an easy fix. I can continue to treat this person with love and respect and act like nothing happened.....because nothing did. I can work on getting myself back into alignment and start high vibing again.

- If it is an ending meant to be and I wasn't imagining it then I can also stress less and worry less about it. My inner being always know what is best for me so despite my feelings about this person, my inner being has determined that on the road of life, wherever I am headed to, this person cannot come with me. It's not a dis or insult to them and it definitely does not suggest they are beneath me. It just means that our time together served its purpose and now its time to move on to the things that truly inspire us....which may mean we are heading into different directions. So I allow myself to move and I wish that person well as they move into their new direction too.

The most important thing I want to stress here is that it didn't matter the situation, whether it was my gym routine or the issue involving a friend, my answer was always the same- be accountable for MY actions, thoughts and words. I do not need to look to another and see what they are doing and I do not need to create drama because I am uncomfortable. I can sit in the silence and patiently await outcomes while being accountable for my own thoughts and actions. This is the next level in our evolution.

This week I challenge you to look at difficult situations you are experiencing in your life and find out how you can be held accountable for them. In doing so, I ask that you do not look to others and place blame at their feet for how you feel. You can only affect you so ease up on others. Reach your next level with this!

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Full Moon Scorpio is here-what can i do?

Unless you have been living in a cave, this past week has been tumultuous as we had several major influences coincide this week/weekend.

Mercury Retrograde started on May 10th and that's always a fun time to be around people (I am kidding if you couldn't tell) as we tend to operate more from our emotional sides than our logical ones. This means arguments, petty quarrels, irritation and a whole lotta of "taking it personally". If you don't know much about Mercury Retrograde, check out my latest video on Youtube to get a basic starting lesson to learn about it.

Sunday midnight on the East Coast ushers in the Full Moon Scorpio and it is also a total Lunar Eclipse. This combination is asking us to honor what we truly feel and express that to others. That may sound lovely and all but I am betting it is going to go south very fast. Instead of deep, intimate conversations with our significant others and people we love, I am pretty sure it's going to be a time of impulsive decisions, explosive diarrhea of the mouth and more relationship wrecking actions than peaceful ones. We are a funny bunch, us humans.

My advice? Be the observer this week, reflect and meditate more, speak less! If you feel triggered, automatically assume responsibility and work it out within yourself (or call me for a quick 15min or 30min Access Energetic clearing!). Do NOT and I repeat do NOT take your opinions and feelings to others if they are mean, degrading, angry, hurtful or otherwise.

Full Moon Scorpio is a time of to work on yourself and clear up past patterns that are preventing you from living a life of peace, happiness and joy. If you have a chance to join a group meditation, do so because now is the perfect time to cut your negative attachments to your past and destructive behavior. Want something to do Monday Night? Check out my online Violet Flame of Transmutation event I am having at 7pm EST on 5/16/22. The Violet Flame meditation is an incantation we repeat 33 times to clear our karma, elevate to 5D from 3D and cut attachments to people and situations that continue to hold us. Check it out!

Here are some other things I will personally be doing in addition to the Violet Flame meditation during this auspicious time. Feel free to join me and do them too!

1) Charge my Crystals

All crystals are on the window ledges so the full moon can shine its blessed light upon them and clear them of any stagnant energy they are holding from past use. This is a better way to cleanse crystals as some crystals can dissolve in water baths. Also wave your sage stick around your crystals for added benefits.

2) Do a House Clearing

I have a little cauldron (so cute) and I put some special herbs mixed for various reasons (love, health, wealth, clearings) into it and burn it around the height of the full moon. Even though it will be at 12am (I wouldn't be up), I will probably do this ritual around 9pm and then go to bed for sweet sleep. I let the herbs burn safely in the cauldron and the beautiful smell fills my home.

3) Write my Pain

Full moons are great for letting go and moving on. I write on a piece of paper all the things I am ready to let go of and then burn them. I can release people from karmic bonds this way, let go of mental and emotional attachments to people and things and also let go of old mindsets that are limiting me. For those of you in situationships, why not take this time to write a letter to the other person and burn it? It symbolizes your readiness to cut ties and walk away from this kind of relationship in hopes for a new one.

4) Crystal Reiki Healing on Myself

I energize my being with reiki while listening to sound bowls and place crystals on my chakras. I can't begin to tell you how amazingly healing this is and most times I fall asleep during the session! If you would like to book me for this healing session this week, let me know! I have crystals at my office space that I use specifically for this service and I also incorporate tuning fork therapy with it! Come check it out!

This week I challenge you to be mindful of your words and actions towards others and to go inward. Now is not the time to pick that fight with your loved ones. Now is the time to be quiet and listen to the truth of your Soul.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Attention is the new currency

Happy Mother's Day to every mom out there! I hope you had a day to spend as you please and you got some rest, love and appreciation for all the hard work you do. I am writing this blog after spending a wonderful day with my children who spoiled me today and rightfully so! I deserve this goodness.

I really wanted to come on here and write a post about motherhood or nurturing but I just can't get it out of my mind something my partner told me. It's like I am fixated on it so I guess this is the topic we will explore this week. Let's get to it.

Side note, ladies get you a man who loves to have conversations with you. Not just conversations about sexy time or romantic in nature (oooh those are good too!) but about life and thoughts.

One day last week we were having our usual morning conversation, talking about the sad progression of events with the Will Smith and Chris Rock incident and he said to me something I will never forget. He said, "Uma doesn't it bother you how much they keep distracting us? I mean every time some insignificant news pop up, I have to wonder what they aren't telling us. Attention is the new currency."

Of course I am paraphrasing because 1) I don't listen too well and 2) my memory sucks. Despite those setbacks I heard the most important part (to me) of that conversation: "Attention is the New Currency."

He couldn't be more right.

One of the reasons I stopped looking at the news is that it became very distracting. I noticed the news anchors were really good at getting us to get worked up about something- be it an impending snow storm, possible World War III or another pandemic but when said things came and passed without incident, they rarely addressed it again. Do you notice that? No one apologizes after the fact and I mean it's the least they can do.

"Sorry we got you all worked up about a possible snow storm when it was only a passing rain shower. My bad." that would go a long way! But they don't offer it so I don't watch the news anymore.

I like living trauma free and I feel that way about a lot of things not just the news.

Your attention to matters is what gives things life. When you learn this, you will stop giving your attention to unwanted things and only focus on things that you do want.

My partner recognizes this and takes it a step further by saying that everything and everyone in this world is vying for YOUR attention! How are you spending it?

It makes you stop and think doesn't it? Questions I have begun asking myself since that conversation go along the lines of:

1) Who is buying me through my attention?

2) What am I distracting myself from by focusing my attention on these things?

3) Am I in charge of my attention or has it been bought already?

I am a little bit of a geek and like to play word games and sudoku. I realized shockingly that these phone games were definitely costing me a lot because at any point in the day you can find me on my phone playing games. Yes I can explain it away by saying things like:

- This is relieving stress

- This is building my mental capacity

- This is healing

But the reality is? They take up a lot of my time that I could be using for self reflection, spending time with my loved ones or even upleveling my businesses. My clarity is these games are healthy in moderation and I made a plan of when to play them so they don't consume me.

Your attention is the new currency so are you liking what you are buying with it?

That's All. Answer that question and be open to the answers that may come flying in.

This week I challenge you to pay attention to what YOU are paying attention to. What consumes the majority of your thoughts? Is it healing you or sickening you?

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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the art of living a soulful life

Well there's always a first time for everything.

Usually I write my blogs early Sunday Morning as the sun greets the day and I have had my first cup of coffee. Today I am writing as dusk settles in while munching on some green apples and salt (try it, it's a thing).

This weekend I have no partner and no kids and I found myself strangely waking up alone. Usually there is always someone in the house listening to music, watching the game replays or slamming cupboards in the kitchen (doesn't anyone ever gently close them?!). This weekend however the kids are with their dad and my partner is back home visiting family so I had the house all to myself.

Ok ok before your imagination runs wild, I will say as animated as I am on social media and in my public appearances, I am very subdued in my private life. In fact, I love the sound of silence. So today I don't know, I guess I celebrated my solitude a little too much and that's why I find myself addressing my work obligations at 7pm. Haha!

And there is the beauty in following your joy. Today in the midst of catching up on my shows, enjoying some delicious Indian take out, taking a nap and grocery shopping, I received clarity on what I wanted to talk about this week: The Art of living a Soulful Life.

I am not many things and I do not have many things but the one thing I do have is inner peace, joy and contentment....all by products of living a soulful life. So let me divulge on this particular area of expertise and hopefully it motivates some of you to also follow suit in making a few changes in your life to create a soulful experience. That is if you want inner peace, joy and contentment. If not, carry on doing you boo! As I have found out plenty of times, it is naive to believe that everyone wants this kind of life. It is truly for the mature, the humble and those ready to live their purpose. Let us begin.

First let's define a soulful life. Of course everyone is going to have their own definition but mine is simple: A soulful life is living for the purpose and experience of living not anything else.

What is "anything else"? Oh so many answers!

- Living to please others

- Living to gain material things

- Living to meet goals and deadlines

- Living for a love relationship

The list goes on and on but you get the picture. When we live a soulful life we remove those distractions and focus on the idea that we are a Soul visiting this planet intent on learning and experiencing the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly for our own purposes. Of course everyone's purpose differs as we all came here to learn different lessons but the intent to know them is the same in each of us.

Don't know the lessons you came to learn? That's easy! Get a natal chart or soul plan reading done! Sometimes when I do a soul plan reading for a person I find out things like they came here to learn how to create time for relationships and solitude or they came here to learn to balance the spiritual with the material.

When you are living with the intent of having a soulful experience, life becomes sweeter and more enjoyable...even the bad times! Because you have the general overview of what is happening instead of feeling personally attacked by each negative situation you experience. Whew, that alone should make you want to pay attention and make changes right?!

Well for those of you who are interested, luckily I came up with some tips on how to create a soulful experience. You never know, you may be actually doing some of these things subconsciously. See the soul always knows what's best.

Tips to Living a Soulful Life:

1) Tune other people out

I can't stress this enough. That family member or friend or partner as loving and caring as they are about you need to pipe down. I have a rule that I do not offer advice to anyone unless asked. Of course I have valuable and a wealth of knowledge but come on! What's the fun of living if you don't make a few mistakes along the way? We all know our loved ones love us so when they offer their well meaning advice, do them the courtesy of listening but reminding yourself that ultimately you get to make the decisions of how you want to proceed. This is your life so live it. You can't make mistakes and everything even the bad, are valuable lessons.

2) There are no deadlines

I do not rush for anything anymore. I use to, hello I am a Capricorn. While I still have schedules in my life, I honor them if I can and I relax if I can't. If I have 6 things to do in a day and I am out of time, I give my attention and time to the things that I can and want to do and everything else gets left behind (hence why I am writing this blog later on in the day, it just felt more important to catch up on Selling Sunsets!). The same goes for working with people and I understand some of you may shake your head at me or fight for your limitations (I have a boss, the contract has a deadline etc...) but remember always, you have the choice. You can choose to honor your living experience or you can choose to honor the needs of others.

I have lost plenty of contracts, opportunities and relationships because I operate on my own time table. And honestly? I have gained so much more. It is quite freeing to just BE and to make movements when inspired. In the beginning this may be one of the biggest obstacles you have as you create your soulful experience because people pleasing is ingrained in us from childhood but trust me you can do it. And if you need help? You can always book me for a coaching session, we can talk through what you perceive as your block to honoring your own schedule and work it through. Everything is just a mindset and opinion, find the one that aligns with a soulful experience.

3) Love your Space and Solitude

A trick of the matrix is getting us to believe that we need people to thrive. People distract you from noticing things. I get a lot more out of solo vacations because I am required to pay attention more. If i have a companion, as lovely as they are, I am more focused on them and us. I remember when I went to St. Petersburg last year Thanksgiving by myself, I had such a joyful trip because i got to do things I know the people I love wouldn't enjoy as much. I went to the Dali museum, one of my favorite artists and spent hours just sitting and pondering on his mindset while he painted what he did. I enjoyed appetizers at a local seaside beach bar and I stayed up late at night binge watching Ozark while in my hotel room with room service.

When you are alone, you are practically forced to pay attention to everything you are doing as you don't have the company of another to distract you. I tend to take a solo vacation every year but you don't have to! Start small by spending a weekend at home alone or visiting something in your city by yourself. You would feel awkward at first but eventually you will learn to love the experience. After all, in having a soul you truly are never alone.

4) Let go of Material Obsessions

I don't know if you know this but I am 99.99% positive that you do not need to or have to work as hard as you do. Many of us work hard to gain money to buy things that in a few years we would donate to charitable organizations.

Living a soulful life reminds you of the basics. A purse is meant to hold things as you leave the house. It doesn't matter if it's from Prada or target. A shoe is meant to protect your foot as you step outside the safety of your home. It doesn't matter if its Gucci or from Payless. Now some may argue that the quality is important and sure it can be...but let's be real...how many of you buy one pair of shoes to last a lifetime? We like change and we like variety so inevitably at some point we will buy new ones...usually before the old ones are completely worn out.

I don't have a problem with name brand and I do have some pieces that I buy if its on sale and I have the money to do so. Gone are the days of working to make five figure months just so I could have the latest or newest trends that come out. 90% of the time I shop clearance and sale racks and I think I look pretty good so it works out.

BY working less and refusing to enter the rat race to be the best, look the best and have the best afforded me much quality time to have a soulful experience. I am rested, I am well and I have the space and time to have awareness of life.

5) Spiritual practices are a daily MUST

SO far I have been telling you what not to do but there is definitely something you need to do to have a soulful experience. You have to create time to spend with your soul. This goes beyond working less hours and travelling alone- this goes to the heart of the matter. You have to create time to tap into the subconscious parts of you where the Soul resides.

Every morning I meditate and do yoga to connect to my mind, body and Spirit. You have to nourish all parts of you. I am a multifaceted being and I think of my morning practice as nourishment for my soul, exercising and eating healthy as nourishment for my body and reading/learning as nourishment for my mind. When you create time in your day to self nourish you are absolutely getting the hang of what it means to live a soulful life. Why on earth would you come here to run after everyone and everything and not take care of yourself? You owe it to yourself to be kind and loving to you. In my morning practices, I feel so deeply connected to myself that it allows me to create space for intimacy with others which I have been told is quite enjoyable by those who come into my presence. You can do the same and in fact I would go so far to say that if you truly love those that are in your life, you owe it to them to create this sacred space. The ironic thing is by having a spiritual practice which allows you to live soulfully, you also create space for others to experience soulful living through you. Many times people leave my company feeling refreshed, uplifted and positive.

What a world this would be if we all lived from a soulful place. There would be less wars, less negativity and more focus on peace, love and joy. Until that happens I can do my part by just focusing on creating a soulful experience for myself. Who knows, maybe I can start a trend and in create a community of soulful living people. Now wouldn't that be a legacy to leave behind?

This week I challenge you to create changes in your life to welcome in a more soulful experience. Of course if you need help, you can always book me for the Law of Attraction Coaching package because there is nothing that brightens my day than helping someone relax and enjoy the bounty of the Universe. It is definitely here for the taking.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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It's not the Law of Manipulation...Relax and allow things to

Sigh......as elevated and advanced as we are as the human species, we can also be a little bit silly and immature.

We are unlimited beings with so much potential but yet we choose to live in a closet cloaking ourselves and masking our true intent. In actuality we don't need to live like this any longer because we are definitely living in a day and age where anything goes and we have scientific knowledge explaining the laws of the Universe so we can better line up with what we want.

Too many times I teach people the Law of Attraction but somehow it translates to the Law of Manipulation and then in turn, it doesn't work because surprise surprise, there is no such thing as the law of manipulation.

"UMA! What IS the Law of Manipulation?" you might ask me and I giggle at my own creativity. It's not a law just my wit.

People watching is fun because I get to learn about myself, human behavior and see just how we live. Some of us live to survive and some of us live to thrive. What do you do?

When I say someone lives from the Law of Manipulation, what I mean is that they use the law of attraction forcefully to manifest their desires in their speeded up time frame.

Now before you shake your head and click your tongue in disapproval, let me remind you of some instances you may have done this too. I will list three instances that happened just this week as examples of energy manipulation and I will excuse you to hang your head in shame if you identify with one, two or all three of these incidences in some shape, way or form. Don't worry, we are all human and bound to make mistakes. The goal here is not to embarrass anyone but to educate everyone that the power of the law of attraction works every single time and you don't need to manipulate anything.

1) Copycatting

This week a dear friend reached out to me on IG about a post I made about my live streaming. See I am making moves in the streaming world and doing really well! I recently took part in an elite training program for future representatives of this particular platform I am on and well I made a post reflecting on my journey. They reached out to me to congratulate me then slip in the old, "Oh which platform are you on because I want to come see you!" line. Now for those of you who don't deal with this on the regular, you may assume it is a harmless question, it isn't. I have noticed in a variety of settings that when I am doing well at something, someone always invariably comes along and want to know what/who/where/why/how I am doing the said thing so ta da! they can copycat it. 100% of the time it is cloaked in pleasantries and the person just wanting to see how I am doing. Why do I know it is fake? Because these people never check on me unless they want something from me, that's how.

Stealing someone else's idea or trying to mimic their success rarely works because the idea did not naturally come to you, it was shown to you through another and it cannot be recreated for you.

2) Rushing Desires

This week a client reached out to me for a coaching session because I kid you not, she wanted to manifest her ex coming back to her even though he broke up with her and moved on with someone else. As I explained the 5 steps of Law of Attraction to her, she rushed the explanation and specifically requested what she can do to bring him back. Lady there is no spell or charm that can infringe on someone else's free will but that's another topic for another blog.

On a side note to those of you who want an ex back.....make it make sense. If you love this person and you swear this is YOUR person, then why rush it for them to come back to you? If you know this is your person then natural laws say they will eventually find their way back to you. It can be months, years or even decades but they will come back. The reason why this is not enough to satisfy you is because you may have lustful love for that person not unconditional love and that is why you require their physical presence NOW. Just some food for thought.

Rushing desires is not following the law of attraction, it is manipulating energy to bring you what you want.

3) Acting Out

This week I also watched someone from streams create a whole elaborate scene to gain attention and gifts from viewers. She believed her drama so much that she was oblivious to the fact that everyone saw through her bad acting and knew what was up. It became hilarious as she tried to regain control of her stream by denying her true intentions and sticking with her made up script. Eventually she ended her Live because she was embarrassed that people caught on to her fake act.

Feeling the need to con others to get what you want is hardly needed. You can have pretty much everything you want by manifesting not manipulating and that takes time, patience and focused intent to create. That's all.

There are several marked differences between manipulation and manifestation, let me share them here:

1) Manipulation requires a lot of effort and hard work to get up and running and then to maintain. Manifestations require nothing but pure focused thought.

2) Manipulation can bring in some of your desires but they will be fleeting or small. Manifestations arrive in a grand manner and are here to stay.

3) Manipulation drains you because subconsciously you know you are fighting the natural order of things. Manifestations enhance your life and energize you with being in the flow of the natural universe.

I use to live from a place of manipulation so that's why I don't look down on anyone who still tries to manipulate energy to get what they want. I just want to show you that there is a better way. Be still. Meditate and TRUST in the natural laws. They will always work for you and bring you what you desire. Plus it's an easier and more enjoyable ride.

This week I challenge you to think rather than act, sit rather than do and focus rather than make moves. If you need a little group energy to help you with your manifestations, check out my Monday night Manifestation Meditation class! We are always in need of cheerful energy to keep the positive vibes flowing to all of our desires! Or you can book me for the Law of Attraction Coaching package because there is nothing that brightens my day than helping someone relax and enjoy the bounty of the Universe. It is definitely here for the taking.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The Lesson in the Pause

Grand Rising and happy full moon Libra this weekend! I write this blog on the sunday after the full moon and let me tell you....synchronicity strikes again!

The full moon Libra brings into focus our love partnerships and relationships as well as a need to regain balance in our lives between our desires and other people's needs of us. It can absolutely be a win-win situation for everyone involved but the key for that lies in the lessons of patience, understanding and compassion.

Interestingly enough this was exactly the theme last week for me in my personal life- I was forced to make decisions that either honored me or other people's desires of me. I chose me....and them hence bringing a win win situation in. Let me explain.

I had several things pop up last week that on introspection, I realize could have led to some serious emotional discomfort if not handled properly. Luckily it didn't happen that way but yet I will discuss them here because who knows? Maybe one of you reading this blog may be moved. Maybe my words may help one person going through something similar or maybe it's just cathartic for me to write and get it out on screen for my own personal healing and enlightenment. In any case, here we go:

Last week was spring break in my area so my kids made their annual trip to their dad's house to spend with him. My partner and I were alone for the week and contrary to popular opinion, we did not house party it up every day...in fact we went the opposite way by toning down our activity and used the week to catch up on things we were meaning to do. I recommitted back to my diet and exercise routine and also took the chance to begin my new streaming schedule with two streams daily ( a total of 12 streams a week). Now I know many streamers do this and more, but I am guessing they are superhuman! I made it to Wednesday and then conked out in sheer exhaustion. Between coming up with ideas/planning and prepping for the shows and tending to my metaphysical center duties of seeing clients and hosting classes...I was wiped out. Literally.

And this is where the lessons came in. I took two days off streaming on Thursday and Friday to just rest and relax. I got that and more. Here are the lessons I learned in the pause:

1) It's all in your head-get ahead of paranoia

When I realized I was energetically tapped out, my next reasonable step was to contact my stream shows admin and let them know I needed a day off. Well....as easy as it sounds, it became a whole production in my head. It was such late notice and we already had guests lined up for the shows that I felt like I was letting everyone down. I bit the bullet and contacted Rob my Thursday stream admin with my tail between my legs. I told him what was going on and that I just needed a day off. Well to my surprise he was ok with it! Not only was he ok with it but apparently due to personal reasons in his own life, he kinda needed a day off too so it ended up working out for both of us! I was so joyful that I guess my glee translated in my messages to my other stream admins when I wrote them to let them know I wasn't performing Thursday. My friday admin Nick wrote me privately and said, "You know what Uma, you work hard everyday on this so why don't you take Friday off too?" I was speechless. I didn't even think to ask off for Friday but yet the Universe seemed fit to give it to me. And that is how I got two days off.

The lesson I learned here is that sometimes fear can persuade you to believe things that simply aren't true. None of my stream admins were upset with me and in fact encouraged me to take a day off. My fear of letting people down got the best of me and made me (almost) believe things that weren't true. Be aware of your thoughts and the feelings you have when you think them. If it feels low vibrational, it is and probably untrue. Communicate with other or ask questions to get the clarity you need.

2) Older manifestations can catch up

Months ago when I knew it was going to be Spring break week, I focused my thoughts on envisioning a week off from work/streams and just hanging out with my love. The kids were going to be away so why not take a little trip away ourselves?

As the time got closer, I forgot about that desire and pushed for other desires (getting back on my diet/exercise, starting a new stream schedule etc..). When my body forced me to take a mandatory two days off, funnily enough my older desires came back into play. On those two days my partner and I went on a few dates and got a chance to deepen our bond for each other with some much needed quality time.

The lesson I learned here is that all your desires will come true but it may arrive not as you expect it. I wanted a week of hanging out with my man and a week of getting back on track (schedule, diet, exercise). What I got was a happy compromise in that I got time to spend with my partner for two days and honor my new schedules for three days. Sometimes a pause in life is not necessarily a pause but a chance for our desires to catch up with us. It feels so satisfying to see an old desire manifest because it gives you comfort in knowing that the Universe and the natural laws didn't forget about you- you are always creating and your creations no matter how long ago wished for, will always manifest.

3) Space is needed to Receive

We are so use to giving that receiving feels abnormal. We are so busy doing it all that no one else has a chance to contribute to us. A pause gives others a chance to give and gives you a chance to humble yourself to receive.

My stream admins contributed to me by graciously allowing me time off and not being bothered by it. I felt moved by their genuine compassion and kindness. My stream fans reached out to me on social media to check on me because they didn't know about my time off. That made me feel appreciated.

The biggest and most amazing thing to happen this week came from my partner. He took my two days off seriously and wanted me to be off not only from work but from life too as well. He did this by taking over my duties to allow me rest. He cleaned the whole house, did laundry, took out the trash, bought meals so I wouldn't have to cook, took me on dates and honored my love languages with excessive attention. I felt so incredibly nurtured back to life in his care and i got to see his caring side as he contributed to me. It deepened my love for him and now makes me want to give to him even more in appreciation and reciprocity.

The lesson I learned in this pause is that I am loved, deeply loved and sometimes I am going so fast that those who love me don't have a chance to show me just how much I mean to them. By slowing down and creating space to receive, I was surprised and moved by just how much people wanted to love on me and show gratitude. God it feels so good. This lesson alone gives me the desire to create more space in my life because receiving is so so amazingly healing.

As I start this week, I feel ready to jump into the stream of Life because the pause was anything but boring and a waste of time. I found myself, my balance and my people in this pause and as I said before, all synchronistically lined up with the full moon Libra.

As lovely as it would have been to say I planned and executed all of this to happen as it did....I did not. The Universe made it magically fit together so nicely and you know all that was required of me was only my trust and patience.

You may be wanting it to go your way...and it will...if you can only trust the Universe to work it out for you and be patient to receiving it.

This week I enter into gladly, fully rested and eager for new adventures because my cup runneth over. I am glad for the pause and I am ready to return full tilt to the amazing adventure of my life.

My wish for you this week is simple- that you start to appreciate the pauses in your life and look for the lessons that quietly appear. I am sure you will be just as mesmerized as I am by just how well the Universe knows you. All you gotta do is trust and receive.

You are limitless and you can have anything you want so live your life accordingly. If you are struggling with a pause right now in your life, contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful advice about what your pause means and help you look for the silver lining in this seemingly dark cloud. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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What's the rush?

Recently Spirit has been showing me patterns in human behavior and I (as the excellent writer I am!) have been observing and taking notes. One kept coming to the forefront as it pertained to my personal life in addition to the human observations. This pattern is the one of impatient timing.

The concept of timing is interesting. It is so ingrained in our society that we live our entire lives by timing- when we wake up, when we work, when we have weekends and when and how we fall in love all involves timing.

Living as a human, you understand and respond to timing very well. It is a necessary part of your day to day life. But we aren't just human.....we are souls having a human experience.

What does that mean? It means that you are a limitless being that has lived many lifetimes and yet here you are, trying to cram your life into a schedule. It makes no sense.

Timing is fear based and creates fear based thinking. Things like FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and "My biological clock is ticking!" constitute that kind of thinking.

These thoughts are counter productive to a person living and feeling good in the moment because it robs them of being present as their mind continuously concoct more timing situations to be acted upon. In essence it can keep people up at night with insomnia when they focus on just how much they are or are not doing.

As bad as this is, it gets worse as we force our idea of timing unto others. I have watched quietly as good people ruin good relationships because each person's timing was different to each other. I have seen too many women leave good men because he was happy with the relationship as it is and he wasn't ready to take it to the next level of moving in or proposing.

I myself was curiously surprised when it started happening to me. My beautiful partner and I recently moved in together and have been enjoying domestic bliss for the past month. As happy as we are in this moment, we both began to get bombarded with questions from well meaning acquaintances on our next steps. "When are you proposing to Uma?" and "When is the wedding?" keeps popping up. Even thought we both don't feel the need to rush the next steps, the unasked for guidance does bring a little dark cloud to our blissful happiness as it forces us to look to the next steps......which we both are not prepared to do at this moment. These few examples of time rushing situations lead me to ask this question to the Universe:

"Why can't we all just be happy as we are and as things are?"

What's the rush?

The rush.......is symbolic of people who live for the destination and not the journey.

Think about it....if you prefer the destination then the journey becomes intolerable and unbearable especially when things don't go your way.

You can absolutely do this if you want, remember all of life is a choice but my question to you is, "Are you completely happy in every moment of your life?"

And be honest with yourself.....when you arrive at your destination...are you happy or still wanting more?

My experience has been negative. When I use to live for the destination, it didn't matter how fast or efficiently I got to it because my mindset was wrong. So as soon as I got to a destination, I was already looking to the next one. I never rested and was never happy.

I lived that way until one day I decided to make a choice and change my mindset.

I explored what life would look like if I enjoyed the journey instead of the destination. It felt weird at first to be honest but in time, I got use to not knowing what my next steps were and learning how to be still and enjoy the moment as it presented itself. I learned what it meant to truly love myself by slowing my pace and enjoying every bit of this thing we call life.

And then? life became marvelous in the unknowing and trusting that things were always working out for me in the right time and I was always in the right place.

Here are three tips I consider when life is going too fast and I catch myself aiming for a destination instead of enjoying the journey. I hope they are as helpful to you as they were to me!

1) Refocus and Reset

Sometimes you can't help but become focused on the destination and then life feels like a constant struggle. When you find yourself looking/hoping/wishing for something in the future, catch it and acknowledge it. Then look to the moment you are in and think about what you can do to have some enjoyment.

I am excitedly getting ready for a family vacay in the summer with my partner and family but recently started running into problems thinking about financing that trip. It caused me so much stress that my hair started falling out! When I became aware of what I was doing, I acknowledge it and then reset my energy to enjoy my time in the here and now. I would say things to myself like, "Ok if we can't make this family trip, we can do it in a few months when we are more settled" or I would remind myself that the trip is not for a few months and there was still time for things to change so we can attend. I then turned my attention to enjoying the time with my family through calls and texts and more frequent check ins. I felt better instantly.

2) Limit Attention

Sometimes we do the opposite to what Law of Attraction requires for us to change a situation. We feel that if we keep thinking or obsessing about a thing, it will change for the better. Actually the opposite happens as we energetically push that thing further away from us.

If there is a goal you are working towards, think no more about it. Leave it alone and focus on things that bring you joy. If you can't help yourself, then allow a few short thoughts on the matter and leave it alone again. For instance, using my summer vacation as an example, if I really wanted to think about it- I could think of already being there and having fun at the pool with my family. I can see us laughing as we play games or enjoying the food with my love. Notice none of the thoughts involve ideas on how we get there or how things change to get us there.

I just focus on feeling good whether it's in the present time or envisioning the future goal.

3) Be Grateful

So many times we are running after desires that we perceive will make us happy but we neglect the things in our lives right now that give us a reason to be happy as well. If you feel so terrible about your life (no need for this mindset) then go basic in your gratitude. Here are 3 gratitude examples you can use:

- I am grateful that I live in a country that has running water and electricity

- I am grateful for the clothes that i have that allow me to show my personality

- I am grateful to have people in my life that love me and support me

My wish for you this week is simple- that you realize timing is a mind made construct and does not apply to you as a Soul. You are limitless and you can have anything you want so live your life accordingly. Use my tips above or contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful and healthy tips to begin to change the vibration in your life and manifest ease, joy and abundance. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Why do I attract toxic people? Part two!

This topic was soooooo good, we had to bring it back! So here we are, part II of "Why do I attract toxic people?"

Last week we talked about our core wounds that create an avenue for toxic people to come into our life. Here's a recap:

"Toxic people aren't choosy. They go to everyone. Those of us who let them in, have underlying abandonment issues not dealt with and their neediness of us is what we are craving and missing. We want their attention so we entertain them because negative attention is better than no attention at all."

This week we are going to focus on a paradox we create by our focused intention. As a spiritual mentor I come across many people who seek me out to find their life purpose. The conversation sounds like this, "Uma I have a life purpose to help people. I am here to be of service."

Firstly, let's address this. The concept of a life purpose....has been popularly misconstrued in the spiritual community. Somehow the idea of a life purpose has been tied to a job and usually a job in the metaphysical field. Who started sowing these seeds anyways?

From my own investigation, it is usually kick started by spiritual teachers greedy to line their own pockets. I can't tell you how many times I hear this, "Uma I had a reading and she told me I am supposed to be a medium. She gave me her card because she has a mentorship program and wants me to enroll but I don't know. I am not really called to it but I don't want to give up on my life purpose." This scare tactic sickens me so much that it makes me hesitate to mention my own programs to interested students in case they take it that way.

Stop.

Firstly, let's banish that concept of YOU needing to DO something for money to live your life purpose. What happens to people who die not having a meaningful career but have a meaningful presence in their children's lives?

You ARE living your life purpose! Each soul is incarnating to have their own experience and learn their own lessons in a personal way. Some souls make it big and may even learn their lessons as a celebrity but most of us are happy to learn our lessons and live quietly.

I know it is a popular concept to take a class or get your birth chart reading done to discover your life purpose but it is truly not needed. When I do a soul plan reading on a client, I never tell them their life purpose but instead I tell them based on their birth, what they naturally equipped with and what path they naturally gravitate towards; the rest is up to them.

So what does this talk have to do with attracting toxic people to your life? Follow me on this.

If you are a person that fell into the earlier category, this is how you attract toxic people:

Let's say you begin to believe that you have a life purpose to be a healer even though you had no desire prior to receiving a reading from someone who told you that.

You can then use the law of attraction to manifest needy people into your life so you can "heal" them. Happens too often.

I had a client who began his healer career this way and it didn't go as he expected. He was told he was to be a mighty shaman so he studied with the shaman who told him that and after spending a lot of money and time with the shaman, he decided to open his own business but it was met with low interest. He couldn't understand why so he booked me for my soul alignment coaching program. As we dug deep into his experiences, came to find out while he enjoys learning about healing, he had no desire to use it to help others...he was more interested in using it to help himself. However he felt a moral obligation to use it to help others because he didn't want to miss out on his life purpose. That pressure placed on him made this an unbearable path when it should have been one that brought him joy.

Not only that, but then he started having issues in his personal life as his relationships soured.

Here's the second truth now about how you can attract toxic people into your life.

If you are not meant to be a healer and you are manifesting a healer's path, then you will not be paid for the toxic people in your life. Instead you will attract them to be family with them, friend them and/or date/marry them.

Projecting a vibration of "Need Fulfillment" attracts needy people to you so you can fulfill your desire to heal them. Listen, even as a paid and professional healer, I don't wish this for myself! My personal life is meant to be happy, abundant and fruitful. My work is my work and it is seperate from my life. I also don't believe my career is the fulfillment of my life purpose- but what I do in my free time fulfills that.

This is the truth about your life purpose- you don't and will not be paid to live it. Your purpose is unique and personal to you. It has nothing to do with helping others and if you keep saying that, then you run the risk of creating an invitation for toxic people to enter your life.

It all comes down to our intentions. It is a misconception that we live to serve. Most of us don't. We like serving and it brings us emotional satisfaction to do so....don't tie it to a life purpose because you know why? when you feel obligated to DO something, then you create an uneasy energy imprint that goes out to the universe.

An old vibration of being a martyr is not required anymore. Most of us can live happily ever after by taking care of ourselves first and then tending to others when we can. The help will still be well received trust me.

Here are my tips about living a life of service if this is something you truly desire but also desire to cut down the toxic people in your life. As a spiritual teacher and CEO of a metaphysical center, my work is about service but I also have some things in place to ensure that toxic people aren't part of my day to day life. Here are my tips:

1) ME First Always

I take care of myself. If I have extra money, I am spending it on myself not donating it first. If I have a free hour in the day, I am using it for myself not someone else. By putting myself first, I make sure my needs are adequately taken care of so when it is time to give to someone else, I am full and have energy and love to spare. Most people are exhausted and running on fumes when giving to others. This martyr energy is so 19th century! There is no need for it anymore!

2) Know the Type

As a healer you will naturally attract people requiring healing. Before you let your guard down and let them into your personal life, take a pause and assess the situation. I meet people who want to be my friend but their personal habits deter me from wanting the same thing. Once I figure out what people's intentions are, I move them into the appropriate categories in my life.

3) Protect your Peace

You don't owe anyone time or talks if they offend you and disturb your peace. Become more vocal about what is acceptable and not tolerated in your life. I don't have energy to listen to my friends complain about other people. It's not that serious for me so I let me friends know I rather talk about other things and if they can't respect that, then I start to withdraw from their presence. We have limited time on earth, why would you ever want to spend it in negativity?

Protecting my peace means saying and doing things that sometimes go against the norm but I do it anyways. Why? I am here to enjoy life and I will do so on my own terms.

When we realize that the good and bad in our lives are created by our own thoughts and choices, we gain the power to do things differently. The toxic people in your life are there by your invitation so....rescind it. This is within your power to do.

My prayer for you this week is simple- that you honor and acknowledge all the ways you give away your own power and you remedy the situation. Use my tips above or contact me for the April special this month! In a 30min coaching session, I can share with you helpful and healthy tips to begin to change the vibration in your life and manifest ease, joy and abundance. Our thoughts create our reality so learn to unleash your mind so you can unleash your world.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Why do I attract toxic people?

Recently I was having a conversation with a friend who was lamenting on this question and asked me, "Uma why do I attract and keep attracting toxic people into my life? What is wrong with me? Why do I see the good in people and want to help them instead of walking away?"

It was a valid question. My beautiful friend recently came out of a toxic relationship with a man she believed to be true and real until it was discovered that he wasn't. She also left a best friend who she thought had her best interests at heart until she found out that she was doing the opposite in tearing her down and embarrassing her publicly.

She was, as she should be, fed up. I felt her sentiments.

Over the years I too have "attracted" toxic people into my life. People who used me, gaslighted me, lied to me, tricked me and disliked me but pretended to like me. It hurts two fold because first the actual discovery of these people as fake in your life is upsetting but the second hurt is the worst. The second hurt is our realization that we allowed that into our lives and the shame that follows.

At this point we all understand the power and law of Attraction. Nothing can come into our lives without our invitation and acceptance. So that means we attracted these people to us right? There is something wrong with us to want to readily inflict harm on ourselves? Are we monsters?

No we are not. We are human.

Here is the answer to many situations of many people inviting toxic people into their lives. Be easy on yourself and understand the root cause. The root cause is this:

Toxic people aren't choosy. They go to everyone. Those of us who let them in, have underlying abandonment issues not dealt with and their neediness of us is what we are craving and missing. We want their attention so we entertain them because negative attention is better than no attention at all.

I had both my parents growing up but they traveled a lot. I was left with a babysitter more times than I can recount, so much so that my babysitter started calling me her daughter and she felt like a second mom to me. Even though she gave me enough attention, I missed the attention of my parents and especially my dad who was never present, even when he was in the house. I grew up always seeking attention from a man specifically because of this dynamic.

I was so willing to entertain the negative behaviors of my partners because in one week of arguing, there could be 2 days of peace. 2 days of him wanting me, wanting to hear from me, missing me, needing me. It sounds sad as I type it but that is the reality of my relationship life for many years.

So when more toxic people poured into my life, I had already gotten use to turning my red flag signal off for my man, so it remained off for them too. Welcome in everyone.

If you identify with this message and you feel doomed, don't be. I write to you from a much better place. It has been a few years of peace in my life. I am surrounded by loving friends and family who wish well for me and my man is a super star in kindness, love and affection. They all meet my need for love and attention in healthy ways. So if I can do it you can too.

Here is my advice for those of you wishing to overcome your original abandonment wounds and live a life with shiny, happy people not toxic people. This is my advice based on what I did and what happened for me so if it doesn't resonate, that's ok, take what you can and leave the rest.

1) Be patient. Having the realization that you are the cause of the toxicity in your life is well....it is humbling and your first instinct may be to feel shame. Feel it and release it. Remind yourself that this happens to a large percent of the population and it doesn't mean you are weak...it means the law of attraction is well at work. It means that you have a strong desire to be a part of partnerships and relationships and the universe is responding to you. Now it is just a matter of cleaning up your vibration so you attract to you what you truly desire not what you are haphazardly thinking about. Cleaning up your vibration is what I excel at by the way! ;)

2) "Vet" people better as my partner would say. What he means is spend more time asking questions and getting to know people before investing your time and energy and trust in them. I have a rule of thumb that I don't confide anything personal in a person unless I have been rocking with them for over a year and they have consistently been the same person. A year is a long time for someone to wear a mask so it is bound to come off. Let it come off and then decide for yourself if this person is worth investing in.

3) Be accountable for your desires. When someone's mask comes off and you still want them in your life, pause. Take a loooooong pause and remind yourself to be accountable. Have a conversation like this with yourself, "Now Uma you just found out this person is lying to you. I know your beautiful heart is willing to forgive them and let it go but you are letting down your soul and your mind who knows you all deserve more respect than that. So we will start to withdraw quietly from this person and turn our attention elsewhere."

My 3 little tips may or may not help you as you meet new people. If it doesn't? Please be kind and remind yourself that you are a work in progress. Trust that one day you will make it to a place where it will be easy to see things as they are and not as you want to see them. You will make it there, of this I am sure because I am here and I know you can be here too.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The art and lesson of receiving

A funny thing I learned within the past few months.....I was not open to receiving my blessings.

See I had spent such a long time asking for things that I rarely spent time receiving them. So now the tables have turned and I receive....a lot. A whole lotta lot.

Did you know it is an uncomfortable feeling especially when you are not used to receiving?

It happened slowly. First when a few good things started happening for me, I felt lucky or like the stars aligned for me to have this good fortune. I still believed that my living experience was determined by outside forces.

Then my manifestations became more rampant and a few were manifesting at the same time. I felt anxious and afraid that something would go wrong. I didn't trust this simple and easy process of having a desire and then seeing it come true. My distrust was the biggest shadow emotion I had to work through as I entered this new phase of receiving. I had to believe that I deserved good things and everyone does too.

When my manifestations started manifesting within a quick timeframe (make an ask and receive the fulfillment of the ask within hours) I knew that life required me to be a whole different type of person to exist in this beautiful alignment space. I had to let go of all lower emotions and get use to living in an abundant Universe. That took time.

Sometimes our manifestations don't come true because we aren't ready to receive. In essence, we stop ourselves. My suggestion is to start to prepare your way to be ready to receive the delivery of your desires. Here are my three tips below:

1) Learn to Receive

Be grateful for every single wish made and seen in your life. Start small such as enjoying the win when you ask for a parking space and you get it. Learn to sit in that moment and feel it completely. Replay it in your mind and allow your body to get use to feeling the joy of receiving something asked for. It's a rush to be sure!

2) Don't Label Quickly

When we experience emotions we seldom feel, it is important to take notice of it and not define it by a past experience. In the beginning of my receiving graces, I would get so excited that I mislabeled it as anxious feelings. I wasn't anxious, waiting for something to go wrong as I did in the past....instead I realized i was happy and feeling excitement at the impending delivery of my requests. I had to learn how to read my body's feelings differently as I got use to the new level I was at. Don't be quick to label something, instead work through it and try to see it from a higher perspective.

3) Feel the Fear and Do it Anyways

We were not meant to be born and die living in our comfort zones. We were meant to continually ask for things and have Source deliver it to us based on the clarity of our thought, the belief in our ask and the faith in the process. When you feel afraid to take your next step or ask for your next desire, that is a good sign. It means you are asking for more and outside your comfort zone. It indicates growth and courage.

These tips and more I share with my coaching clients when we work to get them into a space of alignment so they can receive whatever they desire. Its a funny thing though, the more I work with people, the more I understand just how toxic and unhealthy our past programming has been. It has completely taken us off the path of true alignment and living the lives we desire and that's a shame.

Now that I am living my best life with ease, peace and joy, I desire everyone to have this kind of freedom and happiness for themselves. And it's so easy too- change your mindset and unleash in your world. You deserve it as much as I do.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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The #1 tip to living with ease and peace

I have it. I found the secret formula to everlasting happiness and joy. That will be $500 for the secret please.

I kid! I kid! The funny thing is, the secret to living with ease and peace has been talked about and shown by gurus and sages throughout the ages. It has been written about and shared from one peaceful person to the next stressed person. It is something I talk about on a daily basis.

It is the Path of Least Resistance.

The Path of Least Resistance simply states in terms of human behavior do what feels light and fun for you to do. When you do things that feel good to you to do, it requires the least energy from you. Think about it.

If you come home to your young child spilling juice in the kitchen, what is easier for you to do? Yelling and screaming at them first then cleaning up the juice or forgiving them (as you see the fear in their eyes) and cleaning up the juice?

In the moment it may feel like the easiest thing to do would be yelling and screaming. It might even feel healing! But afterwards you would still require energy to deal with the shame or guilt you might experience after for yelling at a child.

So how do you practice the path of least resistance? Well it requires a few but simple steps:

1) First take a pause. When you are in the middle of a situation that makes you feel sad or angry or uncomfortable, don't react. Pull your senses in from the situation and assess yourself. Ask yourself questions like, "how am I feeling in this situation?" and "how would I like to feel?"

2) After your pause then figure out ways to make you feel better to get to the place you want to feel. For instance if you feel angry and you want to feel calm, you can focus on ideas or behaviors that make you feel calm. For myself personally, coloring and playing puzzles keep me calm so in intense situations I tend to get on my phone to play puzzles or color in my coloring book.

3) Trust in the process. When you are taking the path of least resistance, you aren't focusing anymore on the problem. You are trusting in the timing of the Universe and the delivery of the solution when the time is right. It may feel uncomfortable in the beginning but in time it gets better

Let me give you an example that happened just this week. One morning I woke up late and didn't get to do my daily morning meditation. I came down to my office and opened a comcast bill for my center and it was $300! I immediately and instinctively freaked out. I then gave myself a few minutes to run through in my head all the worst case scenarios (hello anxiety) and then I took a breath and calmed down. I put the comcast bill to the side because to deal with it now in my heightened state would only create more drama around it. I put my attention on other things I had to do but that I enjoyed doing- creating my daily IG posts, advertising my classes etc....

Later that evening, after spending a day doing things I enjoy doing and working on resetting my energy, I then brought back my attention to the comcast bill. I thought then about all the positive situations that could come from this and then called Comcast. Their automated line gave me my balance and it was $20.89. See one of the positive situations I envisioned was that the paper bill was a mistake and when I called in, the automated would tell me my real bill amount. And so it was.

Everything in this Universe is vibrational and intentional not factual. What we see with our own eyes and hear with our own ears can be manipulated by following the law of Vibration. Simply put, raise your vibration and then you raise the standards you live in. It sounds like a lot of work but it really isn't and it is something I teach my clients to do in my four week coaching packages.

Take control of your energy and you will take control of the world you live in.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Moving On from TRAUMA BONDING-a whole new experience

I am approaching a major milestone in my life and as excited as I am, I am also aware that I nearly didn't get here.

I didn't realize how many toxic and traumatic behaviors I had still presently running and as I embarked on my new journey, they came clearly into view.

Trauma Bonding is not Ok and can actually harm you more than heal you

What is Trauma Bonding?

Trauma bonding is the attachment an abused person feels for their abuser, specifically in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse. The bond is created due to a cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement. After each circumstance of abuse, the abuser professes love, regret, and otherwise tries to make the relationship feel safe and needed for the abused person.

I have a history of trauma bonding in various relationships not just romantic ones. I have had this type of bonding with friends and family members as well as certain clients! It has been so ingrained in me that when I finally left these abusive relationships, I felt a bit of guilt and shame.

Let's look at the types of trauma bonding I did which may resonate for you as well:

- Trauma Bonding in a relationship: I have sat too many times at tables where I wasn't fed or nourished but yet I remained. My sense of loyalty prevented me from moving on and there is/was a bit of me that believed I deserved this kind of treatment. The abuse I mostly experienced was abandonment. Men who would ghost me or ignore me and then bother me once I moved on and was feeling good. The ups and downs of these relationships left me starved for affection, longing for attention and desiring warmth of any kind. I was tired.

- Trauma Bonding in friendships: I gave way too many chances to people who didn't deserve a second chance. I had a friend who was spreading rumors about me and I heard back about it. I confronted her and she had many excuses even telling me I didn't hear what I heard (with my own ears). I easily accepted her gas lighting and ignored my very own experiences because I didn't want to lose a friend. I felt defeated.

- Trauma Bonding with family: I had an aunt who would constantly taunt and tease me about my weight. I didn't tell my parents or anyone because I felt as an older family member she had the right to do what she did. She continued to mercilessly abuse me well into my adulthood and when I walked away for good, I was shamed by family for doing so. I felt ashamed.

- Trauma Bonding with Clients: I have had clients throw temper tantrums when I didn't bend my rules or change my business practices to suit them. I use to give in to their demands and sometimes even fully refund a session after I did it because they found fault with me and the session somehow. I stayed in their good graces because I felt if they left I wouldn't have any more business so best to be thankful for the business I get than do without. I felt used.

Trauma bonding kept me locked in unhealthy relationships that ultimately broke my spirit and subdued my desire to have conscious love and relationships with authentic connections.

When I started leaving these types of relationships, the struggle didn't end, it actually became worse! Why? Because when faced with healthy relationships, I did not know how to act:

1) In a healthy love relationship, I was paranoid and always trying to calculate his next step so I could prepare for the backlash that would come. It took me a long time to stop living in a panic mode and just accept my new reality and healthy connection to a loving and patient man.

2) In healthy friendships I felt guilty if I wasn't checking in with my friends every moment of everyday. I learned to relax and that it was ok to focus on my own life with my friends still being there to support me.

3) In healthy family relationships I had a hard time accepting help and love from those that really just wanted the best for me. I would think they had a hidden agenda to hurt me and after awhile I learned to accept the love shared with me and not second guess it.

4) In healthy client relationships I was afraid to state my boundaries and let people know what was acceptable for me. Now I am clear and firm on what I need for the relationship to work and I don't second guess myself when it doesn't work out. I trust in the divine plan that runs my life.

It may have been a struggle for me to recover from the toxic relationships and learned behavior of my past but it was worth it to be in the place i am now. Happy and free, being loved in a quality way by quality people and learning to ease my barriers and reciprocate.

I wish you well....you who are still involved in trauma bonding relationships and i pray you see your way out of them. You deserve to be happy, whole and satisfied with all the relationships in your life. Much love and light to you!

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Living with the law of detachment

I wanted to talk about the Law of Detachment because well this weekend I came face to face with it yet again. This particular Law can be quite intrusive can't it?!

We go along our lives quite happily and peacefully and every now and then something comes up to be released from our lives a.k.a the law of Detachment. Bummer!

This weekend I taught my last Reiki I and II IN PERSON classes. Yes I stil teach Reiki but now they will be online and by personal request for one on one classes. It is a bitter sweet ending for me because of my fond memories of Reiki.

Reiki was the first certification class I taught at my center back in 2009 when my doors first opened. It was my "legitimate" class if you will because it truly garnered my spot in the Spiritual Teachers world and allowed me a seat at this coveted table.

I have enjoyed teaching Reiki over the years, hosting lively reiki shares with over 20 attendees and spreading the word of this amazing healing modality by doing free talks at shows, libraries or small group gatherings. Reiki had my heart .....until it didn't anymore.

I have been a spiritual teacher for close to 13 years and my interests have changed over the years. When I started my practice, I focused on the physical healing of my clients through the sharing and use of massage therapy, reflexology and reiki, As my consciousness expanded, my services reflected that and i drifted away from physical healing to more mental and emotional.

Now 13 years later, I am ready to let go of one of my most popular modalities as new classes and services are birthing through me at a rapid rate. The Law of Detachment says stay non attached to outcomes as they unfold because it is a necessary and normal part of life.

The law of detachment is the most challenging of the principles of spiritual growth because you can’t really try to do it or make an effort to be detached. Real non-attachment can’t be faked, it is the natural relationship of your silent witnessing awareness to your mind and the world.

Until your inner self is fully established and awakened, one’s self is tied up with your thoughts, feelings and desires. Even if you believe you are letting go of your intention, there is still a lot of subconscious attachment and involvement.

So what can you do? You can be kind with yourself as you understand and learn the laws that govern this Universe. You can develop awareness of where you are and where you want to be while maintaining patience as your being slowly makes that journey. You can have compassion for yourself and others as each of us struggles with letting go.

What I practice while in a moment of detachment I will share here. It's what helped me this past weekend and what continues to help me as I grow and evolve through life. I hope it is helpful for you too:

1) Meditate

Meditation allows me to feel the presence of my consciousness within . When I do that, I am reminded that I am a limitless being and everything around me is temporary. It helps me to stay grounded during changes and remind me that there is always something to look forward to.

2) Change my Perspective

Instead of focusing on what I am losing (teaching reiki classes to in person students) I choose to focus on what I am gaining (more freedom and space to offer new and creative classes, more personal reiki classes as I switch to online and one on one versions of this class). Choosing to look ahead is not avoidance, it is redirection and this can help tremendously with staying positive amidst change.

3) Focus on Other Things

If there is a major change in a relationship for me, I allow myself breathing room to take my mind off of it and focus on my other relationships. If I have to let go of something in the work setting, I then refocus on my health goals etc.... It's like playing a constant game of cat and mouse! When things aren't going as smoothly as I want them to in one area of my life, I allow myself to refocus on another part of my life and the momentum is maintained or it picks back up. Focusing on other things help takes the sting of whatever ending you have or are going through and it also reminds you that you have plenty to be happy for.

In life we will constantly be faced with change and that is ok. We just have to remember that we always have a choice in how we deal with change and it doesn't have to be as uncomfortable or painful as we allow it to be. Learn to embrace change and look ahead. Life is so much sweeter when we are constantly looking for the good in everything.

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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WHAT IS THE MOST DEBILITATING EMOTION?

I was talking to my friends Saturday and we had an interesting debate. The question came up, "What is the most debilitating emotion that a person can have?"

Debilitating as it will take them out of their peace in all areas of their life. My one friend said hate because if you hate then you cut yourself off from love which is the source of everything.

Another friend said regret because you would constantly be living in the past and not be able to enjoy the present moment.

Both good answers and they probably are right as philosophical debates can go on and on without a clear winner. However, be that as it may, I would still like to contribute my thought.

I believe distrust is the most debilitating emotion someone can have.

This is my thought process.

When we distrust, we can do it in several ways:

1) We can distrust other people

You know the scene. We say we love you and trust you but for some of us those statements come with a huge BUT.

"Baby I love you but I have been hurt in the past and I am not as trusting."

"You are my best friend and I trust you but if you give me reasons to distrust you I will."

2) We can distrust systems

Many of us don't trust the institutions in place to take care of us even though they are created to do the very same thing. Our medical systems, legal systems, social media channels, education systems and the list goes on and on.

3) We can distrust ourselves

We love ourselves true but we just don't trust ourselves. Wasn't there a country song about this?

Sometimes we judge ourselves for giving people second chances or making decisions that later turned out not to be fruitful. Instead of seeing it as a learning experience, we take it as failure.

The thing is, this distrust hurts us in a bigger way and that's what I wanted to address today.

When we distrust the people, systems or experiences we have, we innately believe the Universe is not looking out for us. We begin to believe the Universe is against us not for us..... and that is detrimental to our very being.

Think about it.

We were born into an Universe that is operated by laws one of which is the Law of Vibration which states that you attract to you what you are on a vibrational level. Cool. This is the basis of the Law of Attraction.

When we become distrustful of other people, situations or ourselves we ultimately distrust the Universe which means that we distrust this whole living experience.

How can we enjoy life then when we are constantly looking out for proverbial other shoe to drop or the bad times to come after the highs in life?

I noticed this with one of my clients recently. She had a string of bad relationships and decided after her last break up to see me for a personal coaching program, not for dating advice but for personal self-development.

After two months of working with me, she started to see a turn around in all areas of her life including love. She got into a new relationship with an amazing partner who was everything she asked for and more! The problem is....she was so used to distrusting everything and everyone in life that she almost ruined her manifestation of an amazing relationship.

We had to work through the fears, insecurities and sometimes paranoia she felt that were anything but true. Thankfully to this date, she is still in relationship with her prince charming but we both learned a lesson after working together.

Distrust can cripple and make you feel alone in an Universe meant to make you feel safe and comfortable.

In working with my clients about their distrust issues, we have come up with a few techniques they can do to change their mindset into a more trusting one. Here are my favorite three tips:

1) Counter Argue

If you are having a negative thought, counter argue with a positive one. For instance, a client of mine told me she had trust issues with her boyfriend because he was so good looking and she feared he would cheat on her. We made a list of reasons why HE would be LUCKY to date her! And trust me, there were many! When she looked at it from that view point it made her feel ease in knowing that she had value too and he was in her life for those values.

2) Go Logical

When we are in a distrusting phase, we are in an emotional phase. Go logical in your thinking.

"I don't trust this doctor to have my best interest at heart."

Instead of becoming emotional about it, do the next logical things such as get a second opinion or discuss your fears with the same doctor and give them a chance to explain their reasonings to you. Check it against your gut instinct and make logical decisions based on what you feel.

3) Communicate

When we distrust other people, we are making up (mostly) scenarios in our heads that have nothing to do with the other person. If you are having a moment of distrust, just relay this information to them! If this person is important to you and you are to them, the communication will be easy and flow effortlessly. If however the communication is lacking or your suspicions are only increased by the conversation, then you may want to pay attention to those signs and make LOGICAL next steps.

Me personally? When I distrust people I become patient and wait. I give people enough rope to hang themselves as the saying goes. When I do this, I don't have to make decisions because their actions make the decisions for me.

If you are having distrust in your life, please do what you can to work on it, understand it or move on from it. You are worth more than a life filled with always looking over your shoulder for the next low moment in life. You deserve to thrive.

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Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Dealing with Disappointment

What an action packed weekend my goodness!

To all my sports lovers, hope you had a great superbowl weekend and you enjoyed the game. Me? I enjoyed the commercials!

To all the people in love, hope you have a great Valentine's day today! May you get a chance to celebrate this special day with your sweetheart either in person or virtually.

To everyone else, how are you feeling?

For most of you it's just another weekend with work on Monday. I can respect that and actually think it is a healthy way to look at these made up holiday weekends. If you don't love football or have a desire to celebrate Valentine's day, it is better to focus on the things that do bring you happiness as that keeps your vibration uplifted....another gem from my Law of Attraction coaching package.

However for those of you who wanted to celebrate something this weekend and didn't get a chance to....I am speaking to you today because how you feel is crucial to understanding how your week is going to go. In fact I am speaking to everyone because even if you had a successful weekend, there are times in life when things don't go your way and you may need this info.

I myself got a little dose of this on Sunday and it was good practice to take the lessons I regularly share with my coaching clients.

I had a bitter sweet weekend as my partner was suppose to come in Sunday for us to watch Superbowl together and in time for Valentine's. However he didn't get to come in Sunday due to the snow storm in his state and he is expected to come in today on Valentine's.

Having expectations is fun when they are met! and super disappointing when they are not. I felt a heavy heart because I had such a special day planned for us but decided not to let it get in my way. If it's one thing I know as a Soul Alignment Coach, it's that your thoughts determine everything and if I allowed myself to focus on what was missing, I had a good chance to mess up what was coming.

So here are some things I did that may be helpful for you as well. If you ever find yourself in a situation where your expectations aren't met, feel free to give these tips a try and let me know how it goes for you!

Bouncing Back after Failed Expectations:

1) Re-examine your thoughts immediately

When you are let down by life, it is SO easy to stay focused on the loss of thing you were waiting for. Don't. All of life is creating around us and if we keep focusing on what is missing, we will only create more of that feeling and experience. Take the time to shift your focus from the negative to the positive and shift your mood. It will help create better situations for you in the future. When I realized my partner wasn't coming on Sunday, I shifted my focus to things I wanted to get done and didn't have time for. It made for a productive day AND I got to take things off my list so when my partner is here, I will have more time for him.

2) Re-group-Take a Chill Pill

As soon as you find out something isn't going the way you want it to, you will feel emotional. That's normal. I almost cried how upset I was! There are three suggestions I have in moments like these to bring you back to a peaceful place: meditate, sleep or distract.

Meditation allows you to connect to your spiritual self and in this connection you are less bothered by the outer world. If you cannot meditate because you are too worked up, go to sleep. I don't know about you, but when things are beyond my control, I get sleepy so a nice little hour nap usually does the trick. If neither of those options work then distract yourself with something pleasant. For me, I like to play puzzles and color. Do anything that shifts your focus from the disappointment and soon you will be feeling a little better.

3) Reframe the Experience

When you are in a neutral place, look at the situation in a better light and reach for the feel good feelings about it. For instance, after I calmed down and my partner rebooked his ticket to come in on Monday, we talked about the upside of this delay. For him, he got to watch superbowl with his friends which (to be honest) would be a better experience for him as I am not a huge superbowl fan (I watch the commercials!). We had a good talk and laugh about it and came together stronger as a couple as we learned each other's push points and behaviors when things don't go our way. By choosing to look at this delay as positive and not a negative, it allowed me to relax and enjoy my day to myself and get ready for the week.

LIfe is not predictable and even though we have the best intentions and expectations, things can go wrong. It's important to remember that we live in a vibrational universe and our intention and focus is key to making any experience an enjoyable one.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Let Love In.....For Yourself and Others

I promised myself I wouldn't watch anymore reality TV but I lied. I binged watch the whole season up to date for VH1's Love and Hip Hop Family Reunion this past weekend and you know what? I am not too mad at myself because I learned things and received some much needed guidance and clarity on love.

To spare you the expense of the soap opera theatrics reality TV can bring, I am only going to focus my thoughts on one couple- the love story and impending divorce of a TV couple Erica Mena and Safaree Samuels.

I gotta say I don't put much stock into watching other people's relationships publicly, whether they are a celebrity couple or my friends from high school. I just don't care what other people are doing or not doing in their personal lives. However Erica Mena has a special place in my heart because I have watched her for years on Love and Hip Hop try for love, get in love and get hurt by those she loved time after time again. I didn't feel sorry for her, I felt her because her life mirrored mine when I made my love choices in relationships.

Erica comes across as a brash and angry woman always ready to fight and always nagging her partner, whoever he is but if you look closely you can also see something else- the glimmer of a little girl trapped in a woman's body begging for attention, love and validity. It breaks my heart because I remember the days I was this same little girl. Trapped. Alone and always the victim of ruthless men coming into my life to steal from me. Steal my youth, my beauty, my money and my time.

But I am older now and wiser thanks to all those heartbreaking experiences I went through. I am thankful for them now because they molded me into the woman I am- someone who still readily jumps into relationships with optimism and a smile but now wiser and better at endings should they occur. I have grown into me and now no one can take my happiness with them. A truly freeing event that I pray Erica receives at some point and other women who make their happiness depend on their partner.

There's something else here though I need to talk about. Aside from the fact that we need to be responsible for our happiness, we also need to give things a chance.

I have been noticing for awhile this toxic culture we have of cheering breakups on. As a society we take pleasure in seeing couples break up especially celebrity couples. Yes there is this couple of Safaree and Erica but as of recent there was also Will Smith and Jada Pinkett and also Cardi B and her husband Offset. Why is that?

When did it become OK for us to bash people fighting for their marriages?

- When Will and Jada talked about the "entanglement" Jada was involved in with another man, the social media kooks went crazy creating memes of a red eye Will obviously upset over this breakdown in their marriage. They choose to publicly air their discussion about it as they choose to move on together in their marriage. I was appalled to see so many people tear this married couple apart. Will was seen as weak for tolerating Jada's apparent public embarrassment. His bedroom energy was questioned and her loyalty was shredded by complete strangers on the internet. Wild.

- When Cardi B decided to take back her cheating husband Offset, she was dragged on social media and called all sorts of names for forgiving him. Again people labeled her weak for wanting to work it out with her husband and father of her children. Why are we mad about this?

- And now Erica and Safaree. They have both wronged each other multiple times in multiple places but I don't see that. What I see is a a lot of miscommunication and unhealed wounds preventing two people very much in love from connecting and healing. If the whole world tned out and no one was watching, I have full faith that these two would be together unbothered and happy. The love is there.

Of course i am rooting for all the couples to win but I am also a love reader and when people in on again and off again relationships come to me, I am always advising and helping people to see the good in the relationship and point out the benefits of saving it verses starting anew.We unfortunately live in a culture where we replace things that break....seldom do we try to fix it.

It is part of this toxic cancel culture we have going on at the moment- if it doesn't stand up to my standards then it must be bad. I now must roundup everyone else to agree with me that this thing is bad. Why is that? THere are many things i see and people I interact with that I don't particularly care for, but it is also not my job to talk about it or spend anymore of my precious energy looking at it. I recently left a group of people I was hanging with over the bad behavior of one person whose actions were beginning to negatively affect my peace of mind. Guess what I did? I left quietly and without attention. I still interact with the group of people but on one on one terms. You can create changes in your life without needing to make others look bad or draw attention to their negative behavior. We seriously have to do better as a culture.

I agree that sometimes things end but you know what? When something comes to an end naturally....it feels natural. I have been in conscious relationship breakups where we both knew it was over and we ran out of things to keep it going. It was peaceful, felt light and I felt free when done. I've also been in relationship breakups that were rushed and possibly had a future if myself or the other person wasn't so quick to let it go. It felt traumatic, painful and miserable as I tried to stop thinking of the person I was trying to be away from. All that drama for no reason.

I know this now and I teach from this place today and always.

If its broken with someone....try your best to fix it. Fixing it doesn't mean changing or requiring the other person to change. Fixing it means fixing your attitude and outlook about it and then waiting to see the results of that changed perspective. I am pretty sure 90% of you will see a change around in your relationship. Of course if you need a little guidance in this area, feel free to reach out to me about it. I am very happy to help couples stay together once it isn't a toxic environment.

We need to do better in 2022 and let love in, not only for ourselves but for others.

So what can you do from now if this post resonates with you and you want to do better? I have three steps to start:

1) Encourage your friends to work it out with their partners. My girlfriends steadily chat with me about their relationship issues and I hold space and listen. If I offer any feedback, it is always positive and comes from a place of wanting to see them work it out. Most of my girlfriends are married though and have been with their person for decades- I have a reason to want to see them work it out- they love this person deep down and i can sense that beyond the current irritability. If a friend of mine is complaining about someone she just met, I may not be so quick to encourage her to stay. Use your discernment wisely but a good rule of thumb is this- if they have been together before I came in the picture, I am hoping and wishing for them to stay together. Partnerships formed before me have nothing to do with me. Heck partnerships formed whenever have nothing to do with me and I remind myself daily to not involve myself in other people's matters.

2) Remember that deep down we are all good people. When you meet someone and they give you a bad impression, hold space for them. They can be having a bad day, week or year. Try always to see the positive in everyone you meet and everything you do. It will change the dynamics in many of your relationships. Think about it this way, you would hate for someone to make a lifelong decision about you. You are constantly changing, growing and learning. If you met someone and they left a bad impression with you, give it time and allow space for clarity. Always fight to see the good in someone.

3) Create space in your life to welcome back people from your past. If you really are ready to integrate all of your past experiences into the present then be the energy of invitation. I have recently started doing this and several people from my past have resurfaced. I admit I am healthier and in a better place now to receive them and try again for platonic friendships. Their returned presence has inspired me to keep seeing the good in people. After all, it takes much less energy to love than to hold a grudge. Call back your energy by letting go of old complaints against others. Let the love in and feel the happiness and peace it brings.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Transcend More....Immanent Less

You ever have one of those AHA moments and a sudden realization that brings clarity? Yup, me too.

I recently helped a friend change a mindset in an incredible way that brought not only clarity to her but me as well.

My friend is about to get ready to make a major advancement in her professional life- something she has been dreaming of for a long time. We are so excited and elated about this business opportunity that we recently got together to share in her good news.

We had some wine and a neat little berries-mascarpone dessert thing she whipped up and indulged in the sweetness of life and food in my kitchen. It was a beautiful Sunday, just sitting with my friend indulging in sweet treats that mirrored the sweetness in our lives.

At some point, someone pulled out tarot cards and we decided to do readings on each other. Her question of course was related to her new business venture she was about to embark upon. As I was shuffling the cards, she was telling me that she knew she had a higher calling and this business was a part of it but she couldn't understand why it became such a frenzied journey. Sometimes it felt like stop-go with her with some sunny days and some very very bleak days. What was the deal Spirit?

Well the cards turned up (two to be exact) and I was surprised by the message because it showed me a different light to her question that I could not see before.

Her message was clear- Focus on the Big Picture and ask why you are pursuing this deal. Ask from a Soul Perspective and focus less on the material side of it (more money, opportunities and abundance. Spirit spoke- she needed to remember why she exists in the first place and it sure as heck ain't about no paycheck!

As she sat back in her chair to ponder this valuable message, I too took some time to digest it for myself. Questions obviously started to come up for me like What am I doing? What is the purpose of all this busywork?

See I too have been happily busy for my career- writing blogs, making podcasts, posting inspirational IG posts.....but I haven't really had a "spiritual check in" for awhile. By asking those questions I was able to remember MY Why and Spirit was right; it renewed my sense of purpose in doing it.

In every situation in life we are either choosing transcendence or immanence. Transcendence allows us to transcend the constraints of this reality and see the God consciousness in everything and everyone. Immanence keeps us locked into this reality through a constant desire to attain the earthly things. Transcendence= Freedom, Immanence= Restrictions.

I am happy for my friend's incoming abundance and grateful for her present day spirit message which spoke to me as well.

Now as I go through this week, I am going to remember to live from a transcended state and focus on the higher purpose of everything I do instead of the material world rewards and struggles. I encourage you to do the same with me.

We want to live from the highest potential we have but each and every day that takes choices and decisions. We have to want to be better and do better daily.

If anyone is truly intrigued in unleashing their full potential with my guidance, check out my coaching programs especially the four week Soul Alignment Program. It gives me a chance to work one on one with you to really focus your intentions on creating the most amazing life ever. Contact me for a free consultation call today.

Living this life is easy when you have a purpose, have intention and have a strong desire to live your best life no matter what.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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Expect Better...Attract More!

I recently watched someone proudly proclaim their ability to manifest sh**. I kid you not. They were boasting about manifesting a crummy time.

"I woke up this morning and knew it was going to be a bad day. Guess what? It did. Everything went wrong. It's like I am cursed or something. Why don't things ever go right for me? What am I doing wrong?"

As I listened to her, I realized there were more people around me saying the same thing in various ways. Did you pick it up? In that one sentence there was evidence of duality.

On one hand they were proud of their psychic abilities to foretell what's coming and on the other hand, they were blindsided by the amount of drama and trauma they were able to attract. It become ambiguous at this point and it is where the story loses me every time.

Did they attract the mess they find themselves in or did something outside of themselves like a demon or jealous person do it? Do those things/people have power over them or is it they themselves who is creating this?

When I listen to other people talk, I can pick up this duality in their message easily because it is the duality they live in their lives. On one hand I can see when they recognize their own inner power as they manifest the most amazing and incredible things for themselves. On the other hand, I can see them easily give their power away to bring about pain and destruction in their lives. They live with power and fear, love and hate, peace and turbulence.

Being on the other side of this dualistic coin, I can tell you something....it is never peaceful all the time, you just learn to readjust when you feel powerless instead of hand your power over to some imagined entity or scenario.

When you begin to understand that everything comes into your life by invitation, you receive a certain amount of freedom never afforded before. Why? because now you know that everything is within your control.

In my personal coaching programs I work with people to uncover this power within themselves so they no longer blame things outside of themselves for what is happening to them. I also help people rework negative mindsets by teaching them Access Bars, a class I am proud to offer as it is is super helpful in removing limiting beliefs.

Some tips I can offer for anyone who is interested in releasing this power are:

1) Keep a eye on your expectations. Your expectations determine your outcome so I always say expect the best you can in a situation. If your power is 100% with you, you will achieve it everytime. Even if your power is not there entirely, you can still attract good things in your life. What you don't want to do is expect the worst. That is a vibration you surely do not want to emit to the Universe.

2) Be positive and stay positive in every situation. I have learned the art of redirect very well over the past few years and it is a lifesaver. If I am sick, I choose to see it as needed rest not being unwell. If someone leaves my life, I choose to look at it as a season ending and I can move on with beautiful memories.

3) Continue your spiritual practice every day. Each day I have CREAM mornings

C-Chanting

R-Reading (tarot)

E- Exercise

A-Assimilate

M- Meditation

CREAM mornings give me space to understand, reflect and analyze my life experiences as they are happening. This prevents me from being reactive in situations and therefore casting the wrong vibration. Spiritual practice allows me time and space to focus on what I truly want while ignoring the rest.

Living this life is easy when you have a purpose, have intention and have a strong desire to live your best life no matter what.

Until next time, have a namaste!

xo Uma

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